I am Maid of [name_f]Honour[/name_f] for my best friend, and their wedding is the first week of [name_f]April[/name_f], 2018. Hubby and I were talking about bringing ttc forward a bit, however my outfit for the wedding is a two piece (crop and long skirt) and I need to be in relatively good shape to wear it.
So I am just wondering, what is the average time that mummas start showing?? [name_m]How[/name_m] close would we be able to ttc to the wedding, without it being noticeable if we get pregnant?
My sister in law is currently 15 weeks, and had only just started showing, and she is quite fit. In my experience with friends and families pregnancies, it seems mostly to be around the three month mark… but just wondering as to your experience and thoughts… when did you show (especially enough for people to wonder)?
We have been thinking about starting around new years, but maybe that’s playing with fire??
It honestly depends on body type and what number pregnancy you are in. The first pregnancy I started showing about 20 weeks that I was pregnant, but with my second I started showing about the 12 week mark.
As jtucker said, it’s going to depend on your body type. I’m 5’10", naturally thin (not fit!), and on top of that had lost a bit of weight due to morning sickness. At 24 weeks a few people said “you almost look pregnant…” Didn’t have a recognizable bump until 28 weeks.
On the flip side, a coworker of mine who is on the shorter side couldn’t hide her third pregnancy because by 12 weeks she had a beach ball for a belly. It really varies!
It’s super variable and you really can’t predict it much. If you’re taller it will generally take longer, I think, and first pregnancies tend to take longer to show than subsequent pregnancies. I think 3 months would be early for a first pregnancy (as in you might notice some changes yourself by 3 months, but nobody else will notice).
I’m 5’6’’, so about average height, naturally thin (slightly underweight by BMI standards, but not unhealthy) and was about 5 months before anyone who didn’t see me naked could tell I was pregnant with my daughter. This time I was in my 4th month, I think, although as before I could tell earlier.
I think if you time it so the wedding will be in your first trimester, you really won’t be running much of a risk for a first pregnancy. I wouldn’t let someone else’s wedding dictate my family’s plans on something this big, though. If it comes to it, surely you could wear something else?
ETA: I’m missing two very good friends’ weddings this summer because I’ll be too pregnant to travel. I knew roughly when their weddings would be and I did it this way anyway because I’m not putting my life on hold for them. It’s not selfish if your life plans clash with your friends’, just a little unfortunate.
Like everyone else has said, it is quite variable. I worked for a maternity clothing store for a while and the average I heard/saw was about 5 months or around 20 weeks for the first one, but obviously varied based on body type. Any subsequent pregnancies tend to show much more quickly. It also really depends on how you hold water weight and things like that, too. Many women get quite bloated in early pregnancy, so while they aren’t technically showing, they still look “pudgier” than normal for them because of the bloating. Drinking lots of water and limiting salt intake can help decrease that, though. As the previous poster said, if you’re in your first trimester, you’d likely be fine as far as how you looked in the wedding attire. You might not feel wonderful, though, as fatigue and morning sickness are usually at their worst in the first trimester. Also as the previous poster said, though, I wouldn’t plan your life around your friend’s wedding. A friend should understand and work with you in the event you can’t wear what you were originally going to wear. I would if it were me.
I’m 5’10 and around a size 10 (Aus sizing). So there’s is probably a chance I wouldn’t show for a while.
We’ve talked about possibly changing the outfit, and my bestie knows we are thinking of trying in the new year, so it’s not a huge issue. But I still think it is easier to put a baby off for another month, than change outfits (but that’s just me).
I’m not worried about bring selfish, more concerned that everything is perfect for her.
[name_m]Even[/name_m] if you’re not “actually showing” I feel like most women get bloated in the first few months. That said, I was showing at 12 weeks, my first pregnancy. I’m 21 now and way larger than another girl in my office who is 23 weeks. That said, I’m on the shorter side, but have a long torso. My boss who is tall said she had to get maternity clothes at 12 weeks as well with her first. If it were me, I’d wait to TTC. [name_m]Even[/name_m] if you’re not showing you may feel like s*it and just be miserable at the wedding, instead just live it up, eat, drink, be merry.
I start noticing at around 12 weeks which is mostly bloat and just overall discomfort with my body image. But really showing is around 18 weeks for me.