We struggled with infertility and talked new all the time, never actually deciding anything, just in abstract. I was overwhelmed picking two names (a boy and a girl) but then we found out we are having twins. Now I’m extremely overwhelmed, should we pick names now for all the possibilities or wait until we find out the gender? What do any other moms of twins do?
You hit the nameberry jackpot. It depends on the patience and interest of your partner of course, but I would start dreaming up bb - bg - gg combinations now, personally. In fact it would be a welcome diversion to the general sense of dread and excitement which accompanies a pregnancy with multiples.
I’m with blade, I would start thinking of bb, gg, and bg combos! 
Congrats on the pregnancy!
I agree with the previous posters. Start thinking of the different combos.
Congrats!
Twin-mom-to-be checking in! We decided to wait until we got gender confirmation. We ended up glad we hadn’t spent time figuring out boy names when we only ended up needing girls’!
It’s really up to you. I have been making lists before even ttc. If you want to make lists, feel free to do so. If you want to wait so you know the gender first that’s also fine. I find making lists helps me mentally prepare for a baby, but not everyone else likes names like I do, and not everyone is as big on planning ahead. Husband is a cross that bridge kinda guy so he doesn’t get serious until midway through the pregnancy. He’ll humor me until then but I try not to pester him too much with questions.
With my single we started talking a bit around 6 months - after the anatomy scan, though we didn’t find out gender.
We’re already discussing names for #2 and that LO doesn’t exist yet.
I imagine with twins I’d be dreaming names right away, but waiting until 4-6 months to discuss with a partner and seriously trying to decide
With our first, I was around 5 months when we started talking to each other about it but I think we’d both been thinking about it already as we both had ideas already! With this one, we started pretty early, just a few weeks of me finding out I was pregnant and now we’ve got a short list of names, but we have a favorite that I’m sure we’re going with (if he suits it).
If you’re feeling overwhelmed, waiting until you know the genders would probably cut way down on your naming stress and still give you plenty of time to decide. [name_f]Do[/name_f] what feels right for you.
As for me, when expecting my singleton, I didn’t get serious about picking a name until I was about 5-6 months along.
Personally I would be coming up with bb-bg-gg combos now but if that feels over whelming… I suggest waiting until you know the genders of your baby’s. In the mean time I would spend a little time talking to your SO and making sure you are on the same page as to name style and likes - you might have done this in the past but I’ve found that theoretically my husband likes certain names but realistically he would never use them. We just got married and aren’t TTC yet but when he does ask about names I like I use that opportunity to weed out what he wouldn’t consider for the future. You might already have a list of names you like - instead of trying to decide on one I’d suggest on narrowing down names that one of you veto’s. It’s not as stressful and it let’s you know where you are at once you are ready to start making a list.
I agree with lexiem that even if you want to wait to pick out specific names, now is a good time to talk about what names you like and your naming style. [name_f]Do[/name_f] you want honor names? [name_m]How[/name_m] well do you want the twins names to go together, do you want to name them just as individuals or have a themed set? [name_f]Do[/name_f] you want to have the birth with one name chosen for each or decide from a list after birth? This is important stuff to have decided on even before making lists because it will make the lists much easier to put together and decide upon.
Oh and, as far as twin pregnancies go, well you’ll talk to your doctor about that (because it’s dependent on many factors and they’ll be watching you pretty closely) but in general they do come earlier at 36/37 weeks instead of 40 and it’s generally recommended to get things done about two months earlier than things with a singleton (showers, baby nursery, car seats etc) But that’s also due greatly to how miserable the end of a twin pregnancy can be and how hard it can be to move around and do things.
Personally, I like to talk names before the child is even in existence, I feel like it takes some pressure off of you when you’re pregnant, because if you feel the same way then as you did before, it’s even more a sign that it’s meant to be!! I literally work on the next kids name while I’m pregnant with one that we’ll still be finalizing… I feel like the more you think of names the better!! I had my brainwave for the middle name [name_u]Lawrence[/name_u] for this baby in my belly (almost ready to come!) when I was dreaming of names for the NEXT boy! so the more thinking the better I say, and nothing is ever wasted!
After the birth of my now 10 year dd, my husband and I had several miscarriages. So when this pregnancy made it to the second trimester, we were both relieved and scared that we might have a still birth. We are at a point now where even premature there is a chance no matter how small. We have only just started to really look into names in the last three weeks.
I am only a few weeks in and we are already talking names. I figure we need a good long time, my SO is super picky and I absolutely loathe the very very few names he’s highlighted in the baby name book. We aren’t really too worried about looking too hard for a compromise until we know the gender.
With our twins, we definitely started talking names before we even knew it was twins because I wanted to get started. But since my SO was not that into naming we didn’t really get to far along in our process before we found out we were expecting two boys. However, we did prepare a shorter, less refined list for girls too just in case one of them had turned out to be a girl instead somehow.