I don’t mean, they love a name theme. I mean, everytime someone mentions a name theme, group of women start to discourage something very simple… as naming [name]Charlotte[/name]'s sister [name]Clara[/name].
First argument is that when parents run of of ideas or names they love, child will feel left out. Maybe. But that’s something child will outgrow. That’s feeling is week and will soon be forgoten.
Besides, if they planning to have just three children, [name]Charlotte[/name], [name]Clara[/name] and [name]Elodie[/name] will just be seen as three random names.
Most kid are unhappy with their names at some point, but that’s just part of growing up. They ask themselves how would it be growing up with different name just because that’s phase called developing self-consciousness and it’s natural part of it.
I am person who thinks parent could choose to make a theme, and stick with it if they want it, ot leave it, because it will not affect the child in any way.
Sometimes I tend to like names that are similar for siblings. It’s not that I am purposely trying to do a theme. Our son’s name is [name]Cuyler[/name] and we know if we have a daughter, her name will be [name]Claire[/name]. Does this mean I HAVE to or want to use all C names? I do like some other c names though. If I end up with a theme, great, if not, that’s great too! Who cares? The name does not make the child, our children will be unique and grow into their names. There are three sisters in my family. Two of us have A names, my younger sister doesn’t. For a time, when she was younger, she wished she had an A name too, but it was a phase she passed through and we are all now adults and living far apart and couldn’t imagine our names any other way.
It’s not so much that the kid will feel left out… which they probably will, but for only a little while. It might be worse if their other siblings are like “you don’t belong because your name starts with an E or you must have been adopted”, basically bullying them. But all siblings do something of the sort. I used to say my sister was adopted because she has curly hair and NO ONE in our family has curly hair. However, hopefully they’ll grow out of that phase.
For me it just looks “sloppy” if you break away from the theme. I personally like themes since I think it ties them all together in some special way, but I don’t think it’s necessary.
I really don’t think themes are necessary most of the time. Like in your example, just because you have [name]Charlotte[/name] and [name]Clara[/name] doesn’t mean you can’t add an [name]Elodie[/name] or [name]Ezra[/name]! But…in some cases I think it is necessary to continue with a theme. For example, my grandma had:
[name]Jennifer[/name]
[name]Jonathan[/name]
[name]Jeffery[/name]
[name]Janet[/name]
and then twins. ([name]Joanna[/name] and [name]James[/name])
Had she not named the twins with J’s I think it would have been weird!
I would actually find having children named Charlotte, Clara and Coralie far worse than Charlotte, Clara and Elodie. I don’t know if it’s just not as common/acceptable where I live, but in most cases people actually avoid using names with the same letter. For instance, I know an Eve and an Eilís who’s younger sister was named Rhianna based on the fact their other favourite, Emer would just be ‘too many Es’. Needless to say, Rhianna has never felt ‘left-out’ or somehow separated from her sisters due to the fact her names doesn’t begin with E.
But then again, I really can’t stand themes anyway.
I don’t like obvious themes. I prefer when the names are harmonious with one another, without being a matched set. That’s one reason I wouldn’t name my next child [name]Georgia[/name], for example.
It depends on the theme. I have a Greek Mythology, Shakespearean and Nature theme going on, and I plan to give all of my daughters one flower middle name in addition to a second middle name.
You do not need to have a ‘theme’ to your children’s names. But some people like to, and I think it’s nice, but nothing too matchy match. I don’t really see anything wrong with [name]Charlotte[/name], [name]Clara[/name] & [name]Elodie[/name]. But as I read that thread posted yesterday, I see some people don’t like it. But that’s fine, everyone has their own opinions, and that’s the way it’s always going to be. I think connecting your children’s names somehow is nice, and they don’t have to be connected in a way that everyone will notice or understand. It may be a personal thing for you and your partner.