I am due with a daughter next month and have a son. Help me understand why sibsets are important? Why do my kids names need to sound perfectly compatible together? What is it I am missing here?
Also, for your opinion on my names:
DS is named Tejan Anakin. Tejan is pronounced tay-jin and is sanskrit because DH is [name_f]Indian[/name_f]. Anakin we just liked and no we are not star wars fans and could care less who darth vader is.
I don’t like most [name_f]Indian[/name_f] girl names. This time for a girl we are considering the following:
Most people on nameberry will tell you sibset is SO important…but it’s not You can name your children whatever you want. I honestly don’t understand what compatibility a name can have to another name, and it makes me laugh when others talk about it! [name_m]Just[/name_m] go with names you love. Of the names you listed, I think [name_f]Annika[/name_f] [name_f]Belle[/name_f] would be a beautiful name!
Personally, I don’t think it’s that important. I think that, AT MOST, people might hear siblings’ names and think, “hmm, those are different styles,” and then never think about it again. I don’t see that as much of a problem.
Yeah, sibsets don’t matter. They’re nice in theory, but in practice it just limits you.
Mayuri [name_u]Sky[/name_u] works the best, but my favorite from your list is [name_f]Diana[/name_f] Karthayini. Karthayini is awesome, what on earth is it?
Karthayini is our favorite girl name. I would never name it as a first name after asking several people because it is extremely difficult to pronounce correctly and would be five syllables. It’s a variation of the hindu [name_f]Goddess[/name_f] [name_f]Parvati[/name_f] and the correct spellings are either Katyayini or Karthiaeini, the latter of which I can’t even remember how to spell no matter how many times I look it up. That’s why I modified the spelling, even for a middle name. If I live in [name_f]India[/name_f] this would be the name without question.
I don’t think sibsets are that important. It would be odd to have completely different styles though.
An example is twin girls named: [name_u]Jo[/name_u] & [name_f]Victoria[/name_f].
Most people would find it odd, because it’s hard to imagine that two parents could come up with such different names for their daughters.
Tejan & [name_f]Audrey[/name_f] might be treated differently because Tejan (the name) would be considered foreign in [name_u]America[/name_u]. In [name_f]India[/name_f], [name_f]Audrey[/name_f] may be treated differently because her name is equally foreign. Some of the treatment could be negative. Crossing over cultural lines makes choosing names very difficult.
If [name_f]Audrey[/name_f] is treated better than Tejan, than Tejan may wish that he had a more “normal” name for his surroundings. Names can be a blessing and a curse. The same would go for [name_f]Audrey[/name_f], depending on where you live.
I think most people will think that Tejan was born in [name_f]India[/name_f] and that you want “[name_f]Audrey[/name_f]-or what ever name you give her” to lead a more American life style or that you want to reject your heritage. I’ve seen this opinion thrown around a lot where I live. I’m not saying that it’s right, but it could be perceived that way.
I personally think the names are very different.
I also think that [name_f]Annika[/name_f] and Anikan are very similar. To me, it would be like using the same name twice. I wouldn’t.
I like the [name_f]Indian[/name_f] name [name_f]Priya[/name_f]. I would go with [name_f]Priya[/name_f] [name_f]Belle[/name_f] or [name_f]Audrey[/name_f] [name_f]Priya[/name_f].
I wish you the best of luck with your son and daughter.
Mostly, I think sibs sets aren’t something to worry about, as most people tend to like names of the same style and so they naturally happen, but I have friends who have been very stressed on this topic, so I’ve seen it manifest in real life too.
The funniest sibset that I’ve ever met in real life was oldest brother [name_m]Doug[/name_m], sister [name_f]Cinnamon[/name_f], and then three younger brothers Kupa’a, Kekoa and Kameh. (Younger boys names are wrong, I’m sure, but that was the sentiment.) it’s like their parents had personality transplants between the first two and then again before the last three. All lovely people though!
Hey, sibling names aren’t everything, but here are some reasons they might matter:
Other people getting the names right. Two siblings with very close-sounding names might get mixed up ([name_u]Nick[/name_u] and [name_f]Vickie[/name_f] might be mixed up as [name_u]Nickie[/name_u] and [name_m]Vick[/name_m], etc). It matters for the kid because they want to be called the correct name by family friends.
Siblings compare themselves. You don’t want to make a statement about them that they might feel later. In your case, if you give one a more [name_f]Indian[/name_f] name and one a less [name_f]Indian[/name_f] name, do you think they would read anything into that? (I would think not, but I am just trying to answer your question).
The names will be said a lot together, so make sure they don’t clash or seem funny together. For example, “[name_m]Alvin[/name_m], [name_m]Simon[/name_m] and [name_m]Theodore[/name_m]” are individually great names, if you named three sons this, I think people might laugh about the famous chipmonks. In your case, I think if you have one kid’s middlename “Anakin” and another with a middle name “skywalker” that will sound like you are much more into [name_f]Star[/name_f] Wars than you actually are. [name_u]Sky[/name_u] alone wouldn’t make me bat an eye though.
I think the sound “[name_f]Annika[/name_f]” sounds good with Tejan. Personally, I don’t know if I’d want to reuse the two forms of the same name (Anakin and [name_f]Annika[/name_f]), but I think most people won’t even notice and who knows, maybe the siblings would later enjoy the connection.
[name_f]Audrey[/name_f] is my favorite of your choices.
[name_f]Diana[/name_f] is OK.
Mayuri I am unfamiliar with. Initial reactions:I would pronounce it “My-yuri” if I didn’t know better. “[name_f]May[/name_f]” is a pretty nickname. It does seem like more of a “foreign-language word” than a name, but I’m sure I would get over that feeling.
LOL that is one messed up sibset. Based on everyone’s feedback, I have decided that I still like all my finalists names and don’t think the nameberry police will be knocking down my door if I use Anakin and [name_f]Annika[/name_f], although I would thiknk this was really silly if these were first names because not only do they sound matchey they have completely different origins.
In my case I can always say Tejan “gifted” [name_f]Annika[/name_f] her name. Silly, but cute and nobody else will care.
Thanks for the input, everyone . It never ceases to surprise me how many assumptions people make about names, myself included.
For example, although Tejan is a Sanskrit name, it’s almost as rare in [name_f]India[/name_f] as it is here. Nobody will know it’s [name_f]Indian[/name_f], and that’s what I like about it.
Second, Mayuri is a fairly common female [name_f]Indian[/name_f] name. It’s pronounced my-oo-ree or my-oo-dee if you want to get technical.
Third, I really like the name [name_f]Priya[/name_f], but it is so common in [name_f]India[/name_f] that I myself am tired of hearing it. I also dislike the name Priyanka.
Fourth, just because one child has an [name_f]Indian[/name_f] First name and another has an American first name doesn’t mean they don’t both have [name_f]Indian[/name_f] last names and weird middle names, so if somebody has time to sit around and ponder a possible identity crisis I had over it, that would just make me feel special. LOL. But I see the other viewpoints.
It bugged me as a kid that my name was ethnic, hard to pronounce, and incredibly hard to spell (as in, people of the same background couldn’t spell it, because my mom had tried to phoneticize it… and nobody else could say it or spell it even so…) and my sister’s name was in the Top Five of the decade. That was a hell of a contrast. Middle names? Same thing, mine was a very odd, very masculine name, and hers was [name_f]Rose[/name_f]. So. Yeah.
I didn’t even care if I had been something like a [name_f]Jennifer[/name_f] [name_u]Lynn[/name_u] or she had been something as odd as what I was, but I didn’t like the incredible contrast.
I don’t think origins/languages matters that much, personally, I just use a Weirdness Spectrum. If I was naming one kid [name_m]John[/name_m] I wouldn’t name the other Tzvi. I like both names. But they’re different ends of the Weirdness Spectrum. I don’t give a dang about Tzvi and [name_m]Eoin[/name_m] not matching languages, or [name_m]John[/name_m] and [name_m]Hezekiah[/name_m] both being Biblical though.
It’s not that important, but it does appear awkward/weird. I personally prefer sibsets to match because it makes them fit together better, sounds more like a family, imo
I think Tejan would go great with any of the names you like. [name_f]Sib[/name_f]-sets aren’t really important, but I probably wouldn’t name two brothers, say, [name_m]Riordan[/name_m] [name_m]Patrick[/name_m] and [name_m]Francisco[/name_m] [name_m]Javier[/name_m]. But that’s common sense : )
I only think sibsets are important because you say the names together A LOT. It would feel very awkward to me to have 2 names that didn’t flow well together.
To me the most important thing is that feeling of “equal footing” among one’s children. Something that might make one child feel weird compared to a sibling, or less connected than another sibling to something that is really important in the family, I would avoid; a feeling of connection between the siblings is something I would want to foster, yes, even with their names. (Of course you can’t predict future trends or future people making a name infamous, you can’t predict your child’s future tastes and personality, but you can show that you gave equal thought to each one’s name.)
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So all that to say, I would chose one of your combinations that includes an [name_f]Indian[/name_f]/Sanskrit name. That way your new daughter could have one name that is [name_f]Indian[/name_f]/Sanskrit origin and one that is not - just like her brother.
I like : [name_f]Annika[/name_f] Mayuri So pretty! The Anakin/[name_f]Annika[/name_f] thing would be too close for me, but obviously it doesn’t bother you so then go with it!
2nd : [name_f]Diana[/name_f] Karthayini [name_f]Diana[/name_f] may still seem a little old-fashioned in the US anyway but of course it is a Greek classic. I think it’s an under-rated name.
My suggestion since you like [name_f]Annika[/name_f] & [name_f]Diana[/name_f]: what about [name_f]Danika[/name_f]? [name_f]Danika[/name_f] Mayuri is beautiful too.
I don’t know if you live in [name_f]Canada[/name_f]? I say that because all the Annikas I know live there lol. There, here, anywhere, I would hear “my kids, Tejan and [name_f]Annika[/name_f]” and not even blink. They sound cohesive enough to me. Tejan & [name_f]Diana[/name_f] only slightly less so.
I actually really like [name_f]Annika[/name_f] with Tejan. Anakin is his middle name and honestly, how often do you use your FULL name? Also, after a while, you get an identity separate from your sibling. [name_f]Do[/name_f] people know my brother’s name? Yes. Are we introduced together very often now as adults. No. Go with what you love.
You can name your children whatever you want. I honestly don’t understand what compatibility a name can have to another name, and it makes me laugh when others talk about it! [name_m]Just[/name_m] go with names you love. Of the names you listed, I think [name_f]Annika[/name_f] [name_f]Belle[/name_f] would be a beautiful name!