A coworker of mine just used [name_f]Evangeline[/name_f], my favorite name of them all. It is still technically usable, but I know her well enough that I can’t give birth to another [name_f]Evangeline[/name_f] in a matter of weeks! Would you still use it? If not my other favorite names are [name_f]Vivienne[/name_f], [name_f]Juliette[/name_f], [name_f]Arabella[/name_f] and [name_f]Rosalie[/name_f]. Middle names are either [name_f]Fleur[/name_f] or [name_f]Rose[/name_f]. Pairs with brother [name_u]Finley[/name_u]. Thanks!
First off, I’d just like to say that you have a stunning taste in names!
I would say it really depends on your relationship with this co-worker. [name_f]Do[/name_f] you hang out and see each other outside of work? If it’s strictly a “work friendship” then I think it would be fine to still use the name. However if you are close outside of work or you feel uncomfortable about it, I think [name_f]Vivienne[/name_f] [name_f]Fleur[/name_f] is absolutely divine! I also think [name_u]Finley[/name_u] and [name_f]Juliette[/name_f] are amazing together
I agree with @shaaayrose, it is okay. [name_f]Evangeline[/name_f] is glorious. Members often suggest approaching the other Mom to see how she feels. I mention this as an option but personally I would not -if she is unpleasant it will ruin it, the same as when you pre-tell babies’ names to family, and the outcome is not good.
As mentioned if you are not going to be working together forever and socially interacting then I think its no problem. Someone mentioned recently that [name_f]Evangeline[/name_f] is getting popular and maybe that is a fact you need to be clear how you feel about.
Ascertain if the other baby has a nickname and ensure yours is different perhaps, but in the future I would feel cheated that I did not use my favorite because of current circumstances. Seriously I would not change but it’s your choice and again I’d choose either [name_f]Juliette[/name_f] or [name_f]Vivienne[/name_f] [name_f]Fleur[/name_f]. Both heavenly. I too have my own post up but DH will not entertain either [name_f]Vivienne[/name_f] nor [name_f]Fleur[/name_f].
Vey best wishes.
I agree with @shaaayrose, it is okay. [name_f]Evangeline[/name_f] is glorious. Members often suggest approaching the other Mom to see how she feels. I mention this as an option but personally I would not -if she is unpleasant it will ruin it, the same as when you pre-tell babies’ names to family, and the outcome is not good.
As mentioned if you are not going to be working together forever and socially interacting then I think its no problem. Someone mentioned recently that [name_f]Evangeline[/name_f] is getting popular and maybe that is a fact you need to be clear how you feel about.
Ascertain if the other baby has a nickname and ensure yours is different perhaps, but in the future I would feel cheated that I did not use my favorite because of current circumstances. Seriously I would not change but it’s your choice and again I’d choose either [name_f]Juliette[/name_f] or [name_f]Vivienne[/name_f] [name_f]Fleur[/name_f]. Both heavenly. I too have my own post up but DH will not entertain either [name_f]Vivienne[/name_f] nor [name_f]Fleur[/name_f].
Very best wishes.
Sorry computer is stalling and I cannot delete double post yet,
Maybe you could use [name_u]Evelyn[/name_u] instead if it’s [name_f]Evie[/name_f] that you love? or pick on of your other favourites and save [name_f]Evangeline[/name_f] for a hypothetical third child (though [name_f]Vivienne[/name_f] may be too similar for this). Or even pick [name_f]Evangeline[/name_f] but use a different nickname e.g [name_f]Lina[/name_f] instead of the more common [name_f]Evie[/name_f] to give some difference between the two. [name_f]Juliette[/name_f] [name_f]Fleur[/name_f] would be my pick if you decide not to use [name_f]Evangeline[/name_f].
Oh, I’m sorry! It’s a namenerd’s nightmare situation!
Unfortunately, I think there’s a difference here between what’s technically OK and what you feel OK with. As others have said, in theory it should be fine for co-workers to have children with the same name, even if they’re born close together. It’s a coincidence and it’s bound to happen occasionally; it’s not like your daughters will be spending a lot of time together or anything…
BUT I personally wouldn’t feel comfortable doing it, and from what you say (“I know her well enough that I can’t give birth to another [name_f]Evangeline[/name_f] in a matter of weeks!”), you feel the same way. Naming a baby should be a pleasure and a joy, and the feeling of awkwardness and uncertainty which this would create around the name choice (for me - perhaps not for others, but I’m a worrier/dweller) would ruin it for me. I’m sorry
I’d advise you to pick a different first name this time, but something that lets you “save” [name_f]Evangeline[/name_f] for a potential future daughter if you have one. [name_f]Vivienne[/name_f] might be a bit close, so I’d probably go with either [name_f]Arabella[/name_f] or [name_f]Juliette[/name_f]. [name_f]Rosalie[/name_f] is pretty too but shares that “lee” ending with [name_u]Finley[/name_u], so I prefer your other choices.
Good luck!
I’d also like to start by saying you have such an awesome taste. I love/like all names on your list.
Second, I agree with other posters that it depends on your relationship with her. Is she just a coworker or you two are actually friends outside work? If yes, how close? And how would you feel if she says “congratulations! So what’s your baby’s name?” Would that be awkward for you to answer Evangeline? I second what @katinka said about there is a difference between what’s technically ok and what you feel ok with.
Third, it depends on how much you love other names on your list. You’ve mentioned that [name_f]Evangeline[/name_f] is your favourite. But would you regret it forever if you don’t get to use it? Or maybe you love the other names almost as much and would be just happy with them? [name_f]Evangeline[/name_f] [name_f]Fleur[/name_f] is definitely beautiful, imo, but [name_f]Juliette[/name_f] [name_f]Rose[/name_f] or [name_f]Vivienne[/name_f] [name_f]Fleur[/name_f] are equally lovely.
I came into the same situation with my [name_f]Evangeline[/name_f]! [name_u]Lucky[/name_u] for me I was due first and the other ended up being a boy anyway. But we had to talk about it and decided we both could use it. It was a special moment for us as friends.
Obviously, I’d say to go ahead and use it regardless.
Aww! I’d probably just quit my job lol … Seriously tho, [name_f]Evangeline[/name_f] is such a show stopper, (I would never be brave enough to use it, too church-y imo,) but would as a middle…
[name_f]Vivienne[/name_f] [name_f]Fleur[/name_f] is, imo just as stunning, and (for your daughter in the future easier remember how to spell lol )
[name_f]Angelina[/name_f] feels like it could be a possible substitute
Beautiful names all- you cannot go wrong. Definitely use [name_f]Evangeline[/name_f]- if it is THE ONE then it’s the one! If not- would [name_f]Seraphine[/name_f] or [name_f]Seraphina[/name_f] appeal? I think [name_f]Arabella[/name_f] and [name_f]Vivienne[/name_f] and [name_f]Angelina[/name_f] are all also gorgeous. Best of luck!
I love [name_f]Evangeline[/name_f]. If it’s your favorite name and you were already planning on using it then go ahead and do it. If the conversation comes up with her just tell her you had already had the name picked out before you found out what she was going to name her daughter. I’m definitely of the opinion that people can use the same name and it’s not a big deal. If nothing is as exciting for you as [name_f]Evangeline[/name_f] then use it. You’ll regret it otherwise.
If you will regret or be bitter about not using the name you love, and have probably already been calling your baby, then I say use it.
My other suggestions are:
[name_f]Juliette[/name_f] [name_f]Evangeline[/name_f]
[name_f]Evalina[/name_f] [name_f]Fleur[/name_f]
[name_f]Evangelina[/name_f] [name_f]Fleur[/name_f]
Best Wishes!
You could tell the mom that you have already chosen [name_f]Evangeline[/name_f]. What a coincidence! It’s a little awkward, but no big deal if hats your name!
Personally, it would loose a little of the appeal for me. I love [name_f]Juliette[/name_f] with [name_u]Finley[/name_u]! Or reverse the names- [name_f]Fleur[/name_f] [name_f]Evangeline[/name_f] would be lovely!
I usually say pick a different name, but we don’t always work with the same people. Use the name you love.
[name_m]Don[/name_m]'t miss using your favourite name just because of a colleague. Use it!
If you feel awkward about it, I’d let her know that you have always loved that name and you had your heart set on it, as much as you would have preferred using a different name than what she chose.
Yes, I’d definitely still use it! If this was your best friend or a member of your family, someone your family as a whole entity interacts with often, I’d say find another name, but the fact that her primary relationship to you is “coworker” makes the coincidence a little less troubling. If it really, REALLY bothers you, would you consider [name_f]Angeline[/name_f], [name_f]Angelina[/name_f], [name_f]Angelique[/name_f], [name_f]Angelica[/name_f], [name_f]Eva[/name_f], [name_f]Eve[/name_f], [name_u]Everly[/name_u], [name_f]Evanna[/name_f], etc.?
I have to say, though, your other names are stunning, especially [name_f]Vivienne[/name_f] and [name_f]Juliette[/name_f]. (Actually, [name_f]Arabella[/name_f] too.) ((Actually, [name_f]Rosalie[/name_f] too…)) so you can’t go wrong UNLESS you feel a strong emotional connection to [name_f]Evangeline[/name_f] and can’t see yourself letting it go.
Thanks to everyone! I really dislike being a “name copier.” I know I’m not but I think I know her enough that I can push [name_f]Evangeline[/name_f] to a different child. Another thing is that they would be going to the same school in the same grade. I think that [name_f]Juliette[/name_f] is the front runner now!
[name_f]Juliette[/name_f] is very pretty. Good luck choosing “the name”!
[name_f]Juliette[/name_f] is another great name! Congrats!