💐 wildflowers and birdsong

[emeraldsea]

hello berry friends, i hope the sun is shining on you today

i will make this much quicker than my writing in the miscarriage thread, for all intents and purposes. my husband and i sadly experienced another chemical pregnancy just two weeks ago, and have been ruminating on choosing a name for that sweet little soul. it is something that always brings us a lot of peace, and a small way to connect with that child in meditation and prayer.

with our [name_f]Willa[/name_f] [name_f]Caroline[/name_f] and [name_m]Rivers[/name_m] [name_m]John[/name_m], they came to me and showed me clearly their names. and as many of you know, before [name_f]Elowyn[/name_f] was born, she did the same. this little one gave me [name_m]Wren[/name_m]. my dear husband adores that name and so do i, so that feels utterly perfect, though i do like the idea of giving them something more substantial, and incorporating family.

we had decided on [name_f]Florence[/name_f] [name_f]Adelaide[/name_f], two family names, with the nickname “Wren”, and how i love that. [name_f]Florence[/name_f] with an avian nickname feels reminiscent of the verse found in [name_m]Matthew[/name_m], telling how [name_m]God[/name_m] cares for the birds and wildflowers and us much more. i also planted wildflowers to honor this babe. however, i do wonder if this feels a bit too stuffy next to our other babes’ names, which have sort of this laidback hippie feel.

so, i’ve come to ask you your thoughts. is sweetly vintage [name_f]Florence[/name_f] [name_f]Adelaide[/name_f] “Wren” a good fit for our little songbird, or should we opt for something a bit more nature inspired (perhaps also in the idea to go more gender neutral, we’ve considered [name_f]Prairie[/name_f] [name_f]Florence[/name_f] “Prairie Wren”)?

if you have suggestions, as well, i’d love to hear them. thank you for any help you can offer. i have always found that names are the first gift we give to our children, and it’s something we love to devote care to, even with our angel babies

[AcutePunubiris]

Since hearing about this little one, I’ve thought repeatedly of how lovely [name_f]Florence[/name_f] [name_f]Adelaide[/name_f] is with your others. I think she’s a perfect fit, especially with the nickname [name_m]Wren[/name_m].

However, if you do decide that [name_f]Prairie[/name_f] [name_f]Florence[/name_f] ‘Prairie Wren’ is a better fit for her, I think that would be lovely as well. As per usual, your combos are so darling, and I don’t think you could possibly go wrong with either.

Much love, and good luck.

[Evergreeninrain]

oh hannah, my heart hurts for you​ you are so strong.

i adore florence adelaide, and she doesn’t sound too stuffy at all to me. florence has this sort of whispy, flowy vibe that makes her feel very in line with your other choices. i do also love prairie for you, but something about florence feels particularly special

sending you so much love and rest

[emeraldsea]

@AcutePunubiris oh you are so kind, i really think our hearts are in florence adelaide, and to know that someone else thinks it’s as lovely as we do warms my heart.

@Evergreeninrain thank you evy. i see florence this way too, as i do willa and elowyn, and so i thought the sisterly match was there. thank you for reaffirming that and for your kind words.

thank you both for the reassurance

[persephonescrown]

I really don’t think she’s stuffy at all all three have all got a beautiful nature-inspired first name (Willa, [name_m]Rivers[/name_m], [name_f]Florence[/name_f]) and a more classic middle (Caroline, [name_m]John[/name_m], [name_f]Adelaide[/name_f]) so there’s a sweet pattern connecting them. [name_f]Florence[/name_f] might have a vintagey, lacey side to her but she also literally means “I blossom / I flower / I flourish” which is just…unmatched as name meanings go, really, and such a beautiful sentiment for you to hold onto as you grow your family. [name_m]The[/name_m] floral connection gives her the natural energy of [name_f]Willa[/name_f] and [name_m]Rivers[/name_m] (and [name_f]Elowyn[/name_f] of course) and ‘Wren’ only reinforces that.

Also, I think you said in the other thread that these are both ancestor names? In which case, I love that connection, too. [name_f]Prairie[/name_f] [name_f]Florence[/name_f] is pretty but it seems like it might not have quite the same layers of meaning for you, maybe?

Again, thinking of you at this really difficult time and sending love

[emeraldsea]

oh i so agree with the meaning. it is unmatched. and yes they are family names

florence was my husband’s great grandmother who sadly struggled with infertility as well. she ended up adopting his grandma and his great uncle. so, wow, yes. it actually is a perfect name and sentiment for us

adelaide comes from my side. it was my great great grandmother’s name who came to the united states as a little girl. they lost her baby brother on the way.

there is so much gentle strength here. thank you for reminding me of it, friend.

[persephonescrown]

@emeraldsea

it actually is a perfect name and sentiment for us

Oh wow, both those stories are sad but so perfect to wrap up and remember in this name

[tori101]

Hey [name_f]Hannah[/name_f]

So sorry to hear about your fertility struggles. I know a few people who have struggled with fertility issues following the birth of their first earthside baby and it’s heartbreaking. I think this overall topic is so challenging and taboo still that I’m happy you’re finding strength to share with the berry community. I also think putting a name to these pregnancies is such a great way to process the journey you’ve been put on.

Regarding [name_f]Florence[/name_f] [name_f]Adelaide[/name_f] I think name is beautiful. Such a sweet, floral cottagecore choice packed with sentiment and I love the nickname [name_m]Wren[/name_m]. [name_m]Great[/name_m] name to choose to mark this loss.

Wishing you all the best

[winterlyricalfox]

Oh [name_f]Hannah[/name_f], I am so so sorry to hear about your loss. [name_f]Florence[/name_f] [name_f]Adelaide[/name_f] is just so lovely, and I know she’s up in heaven with her big sister and brother smiling down on you and [name_m]Wyn[/name_m]. Sending all my love and healing

[readingreverie]

i love florence adelaide for this sweet little spirit, and moreover, i love wren for her too. the w- matches with willa and wynn, and the r sound matches rivers — they feel so stylistically similar, and i think that’s incredibly sweet!

willa caroline has a bit of a southern charm in my mind, actually more than a hippie one, and i think adelaide matches that perfectly. the “flor-” part of florence is similar to flora, which carries the same boho vibe as willa and rivers, but holds the classic feeling of caroline and john. all of the names of your angels lean a bit modern “crunchy” (even elowyn does), but still have a classic feeling because of some factor: willa and through the connection to william / wilhelmina, rivers with its history as a surname, and now florence which is an elegant classic. alongside that, they all have the nature tie that i feel is very “hannah and t” — willa and willows, rivers and rivers, of course, and florence and flowers. i love the symbolism of willows for resilience and wisdom, rivers for transformation and growth, and flowers for freedom and an untamed wild beauty.

and another note, i love florence’s tie to florence nightingale, a pioneer in nursing. her surname brings another bird tie, and one with beautiful spiritual meaning, too. nightingales sing in the dark and symbolize love, creativity, and poetry. and in looking into their symbolism more, i found out that they are also the national bird of ukraine. there’s a folk tale that says the birds only lived in india, but when one nightingale came to visit the country, it heard sad songs from the people and decided to stay and sing to them to cheer them up. there’s also a ukrainian poet that said, “even the memory of the nightingale’s song makes man happy.” i love the idea that your little one is sending you wrens and birds to cheer you up — that birdsong will bring their sweet soul to your mind as a message of joy, as a reminder that they are with you always, and sending love to you always, sweet friend.

i think florence is perfect for this little one, and i love the way it groups with willa, wynn, and rivers.

[Johannaa]

I’m sorry to hear about your chemical pregnancy

I think [name_f]Florence[/name_f] [name_f]Adelaide[/name_f] ‘Wren’ is a beautiful name for this little one. I love the symbolism of birds and flowers.

I would say [name_m]Rivers[/name_m] and [name_f]Elowyn[/name_f] feel a bit more modern, while [name_f]Willa[/name_f] and [name_f]Florence[/name_f] feel a bit more vintage, but I think all names go really well together.

[emeraldsea]

@tori101

I think this overall topic is so challenging and taboo still that I’m happy you’re finding strength to share with the berry community

i so agree. the most beautiful thing is, since i started opening up more about what i was facing shortly after losing our [name_m]Rivers[/name_m], i realized that sometimes the only way to heal something is to let it fall apart. i find that i’m slowly rebuilding this new me every single day, and i’ve been waiting for her my whole life. i have so much gratitude for the kindness, patience, and faith it has given me.

thank you so much for your insight on Wren’s name. to be met with so much reassurance is so helpful. i’ve never been one to believe sibling names had to “match” either, so i’m not so sure why i was getting so worried about it! probably just a lot of grief manifesting

[emeraldsea]

thank you, my friend. that means the world to me

[emeraldsea]

mollie, i will never understand what i did to be blessed with a friend like you

you’ve been so supportive through all of this and i just can’t thank you enough. i had totally forgotten about florence nightingale as a namesake, and i absolutely love a name that evokes that strong feminine energy (willa was totally inspired by willa cather).

thank you thank you thank you for all your kindness

[emeraldsea]

thank you, johanna

[atomicginge]

[name_f]Florence[/name_f] “Wren” [name_f]Adelaide[/name_f] is so perfectly the vibe you’re looking for. It’s vintage, floral charm is so you.. if you don’t mind me saying so?

[emeraldsea]

i don’t mind at all

thank you, friend. i do feel her name has the sweetest cottagecore feel

[atomicginge]

It also pairs magically with her siblings names. [name_f]Truly[/name_f] ‘meant-to-be’, sending hugs to you during this rough time

[love.endures]

“i love the idea of thinking those great grandmothers are holding her in heaven”

This alone had me in tears. I think her name is perfect

[ashthedreamer]

Oh [name_f]Hannah[/name_f], I am so sorry for your loss. . My heart is hurting for you and your husband right now! [name_f]Florence[/name_f] in general is not my thing, and [name_f]Prairie[/name_f] [name_f]Florence[/name_f] feels like a better match to your other children in my mind, but it sounds like [name_f]Florence[/name_f] [name_f]Adelaide[/name_f] is the name in you heart already, and I think it especially suits Willa’s name perfectly! I would encourage you to keep [name_f]Florence[/name_f] [name_f]Adelaide[/name_f] and all her wonderful meaning for you. Sending lots of hugs