Okay. I know Berries don’t agree about calling dibs but hear me out. And I’m talking hypotheticals, since I’m no where near close to having kids, so keep that it mind. I’m doing this all for future reference.
[name_f]Zoe[/name_f] has been one of my favorite names for a long time. Popularity doesn’t bother me, since it is a family name.
[name_f]My[/name_f] cousin and I are very close, and I often talk to her about my favorite names, and have mentioned that [name_f]Zoe[/name_f] is my favorite several times. We share similar taste in names, so I always worry that she will pick my favorites for her future children. She is one of the only people I wouldn’t want my daughter to share names with, since we are really close and we do see her often. I wouldn’t care on most names on my lists, since she has the right to pick whatever names she wants and most of my other names are not as near and dear to me, but [name_f]Zoe[/name_f] is special.
Since she isn’t related to the family member I’m naming my daughter after, would it be wrong to call dibs, or, would I be justified to be angry if she does choose it for her daughter (again, I’m talking hypotheticals, since neither of us are having children now). She has told me that she likes [name_f]Zoe[/name_f] too, so I worry that she’ll use it. So, wrong or not? Should I establish that [name_f]Zoe[/name_f] is my name (when we are having kids), or should I just let it go and hope for the best?
Thanks,
HTB
…I’m torn. I probably would IF and ONLY IF you two are as close as you think and she understands WHY you love it. [name_f]My[/name_f] favorite name for YEARS was [name_u]Evelyn[/name_u] for a girl. I told my best friend. She and her boyfriend had a surprise pregnancy and she told me that if it was a girl she was naming her [name_u]Evelyn[/name_u]. I was SUPER upset, and she told me to get over myself. She had a boy, but still… It was very tense.
I wouldn’t stress about it. If you were both pregnant, I’d say go ahead and call dibs. But you’re probably years away from having children, and when the time comes you might change your mind about the name, or your significant other might hate the name. In which case it wouldn’t be an issue.
I agree with @mamamags.
Besides that, what if you have all boy? Wouldn’t you rather see the name being used (on the off chance she does like the name and ends up using it on a girl) than not see it used at all?