Or started going by their middle name?
I’m just curious. I know all of you put a lot of thought into your children’s names, but would you be offended/disappointed/saddened/et cetera if your child said they didn’t feel like whatever it is you called them or didn’t like their name?
[name_m]How[/name_m] would you react?
Nope if they straight out wanted to change it then I’d ask them 2 just try out different ones not 2 rush into anything sometimes it’s just a faze ( been there) and that I’d help come up with names if they wanted 2 go by a middle I don’t see why that would upset me it’s still apart of their name and like nick names can stick or just be a faze
[name_f]My[/name_f] initial reaction is yes, I feel like I might be a little offended, but I change my favorite name frequently. I am almost sure that whatever I name my first child will no longer be my favorite name a year from the time I give her/him that name, much less 10 or 20 years later. With that in mind, I probably wouldn’t be as offended, and would love to look at new names. It would just be very weird, and I would probably never stop thinking of her/him as the name I gave them, not the one they changed to.
Maybe, but I wouldn’t be offended if they went by their middle. [name_f]My[/name_f] mum and I have talked about changing the spelling of my name, as I dislike it, and even now, she admits that she prefers [name_f]Hayleigh[/name_f] (as do I), but I haven’t gone through with it (though I would love to). I made a brief attempt to go with a double FN ([name_u]Haley[/name_u] [name_f]Alannah[/name_f], my full name), and then as just my MN, but neither really worked. [name_f]My[/name_f] mum didn’t seem bothered. I think completely changing wouldn’t be good though.
I gave myself an English name but my parents are okay with it and call me [name_u]Shannon[/name_u] (:
I think I would be a little sad if they changed their names. Not so much if they wanted to go by their middle names (I call them by those a lot anyway). I’d have a hard time thinking of them as anything other than the name they were given.
Nope.
In fact, I’m going to change my name when I turn 16, before I get my drivers license. I’m only 13, so it may seem to be a phase, but it’s because of connections to my traitor father. And I wouldn’t mind if they went by their middle-I go by my second middle name of [name_u]Rae[/name_u].
I don’t think so- yes, I would have put a lot of thought into it, but it is their name, and they have to live with it. I would be happier for them to bear a moniker they adore rather than one they don’t feel a connection to.
I agree with an earlier poster that many kids including myself commonly go through this phase. [name_f]My[/name_f] kids never did. [name_f]My[/name_f] Mother told me and my sisters that we could change our name when we were 18 and she wouldn’t be offended by then (wise mom). If it bothered my Children that much and they were over age 18 (wry grin) it wouldn’t offend me at all!
Yes I would. I put a lot of thought and energy into naming my kids and it is part of their identity and history whether they love it or not. I don’t like my name but I would never dream of changing it. I think young people ofter want to have a different name, but their choices change too as they grow older, and usually they come to respect the name given them on some level.
I think at first it would upset me a little, but when it comes down to it, it is their name, just like it is their body, and it’s their choice. If they feel more comfortable with a name of their choice, than all the power to them, I say. I’d probably suggest them waiting until they were 18 though, to change it on their own independently, rather than through gaining parental permission or what have you, or, in case it were a phase that they would grow out of. That said, if it was really worrying them and they were serious about it, I’d have a good talk with them about it and the reasons behind the desired change and go for it if those reasons were sensible/reasonable.
I wouldn’t mind too much if they went by a middle, since I love the middles for my favourites as well as the firsts. It would actually be pretty cool, if they decided to go by one of the more out there middles. I probably would be upset if they wanted to change it completely, and I’d definitely discuss it, and try to find out why they so strongly dislike their name, and of course to make sure it’s not just a phase. I know it’s their name, but one of the things I love most about my name, is the fact it was one of the first things given to me by my parents.
I mostly go by my first name, but I love my middle too I hope I use it more often. That being said, I have every intention to call my future kids by their middles from time to time, so no, it wouldn’t bother me at all. Changing their names completely is another story though. I believe I would be upset at first, but then I believe it is their choice. I’ll simply tell them to wait until they’re a bit older and 100% sure they want to change it. I’ll even help them pick the new names.
No. I’m not the one who has to live with that name – my kid is, and if they genuinely think a name change is in their best interests, then all the more power to them.
Heck yeah! Their names weren’t chosen lightly. A lit of thought, research and love went into them.
I would be upset if they changed it just because they don’t like it, especially if it’s a name I’ve always loved, carefully chose and holds a special meaning.
I would be upset as I put a lot of effort into coming up with names but it is their choice, not mine. They can have the name I chose for them for 18 years and then decide if they want to keep it after that time period. I’m 17 now and I hate my first name ([name_f]Eryn[/name_f], I prefer [name_f]Erin[/name_f] - same name, different spelling) but I’d never change it.
We select our children’s names before they are born or when they are few days old and it is impossible to know how well any given name will fit them. Aname that we choose with much thought and care might just not be a good match for them so I would not be offended at all if a child of mine wanted to change their name. I would make them wait until they were 18 to officially change their name (as kids do go through phases) but would be open to a child choosing what to be called by the time they are able to express a preference.
The best we can do for a children in selecting names is to select versatile names that provide options though we still might get it wrong.
A [name_f]Josephine[/name_f] [name_f]Isabelle[/name_f] may hate her name but can work with it to go by [name_u]Jo[/name_u], [name_f]Josey[/name_f], [name_u]Joey[/name_u], [name_f]Fifi[/name_f], [name_u]Issy[/name_u], [name_f]Belle[/name_f], [name_f]Bella[/name_f], [name_u]Jo[/name_u]-[name_f]Belle[/name_f], etc. A [name_f]Hazel[/name_f] [name_f]Ruth[/name_f] has many fewer options to choose from.
When all is said done, it is my child’s life and name and I would not be offended no matter how thoughtfully I selected his/her name.
I changed my name. I just started going by a random name in junior high when we moved to a new state. I continued with that and told all my teachers and friends to call me by that name throughout high school and college. But it was only when I went through grad school that I legally changed my name to that other name. [name_f]My[/name_f] parents were supportive, but when I told my dad that I was going to legally change it (instead of just use it as a nickname), he asked that I keep the name they gave me in the middle name spot. He loves my birth name and always has. I agreed. I ended up legally changing my first name to the nickname I’ve used since the age of 13 (though honestly, I no longer like that name, but that’s the name everyone knows me by), giving myself a new middle name, AND using the name my parents gave me as a second middle name. I’ll be getting married soon, but I’ve told my fiance all along that I don’t intend to change my last name. Since I changed my given name, I want to keep my last name for my dad.
It depends. If they choose a name I hate, or if they do it just to annoy me [this is all hypothetical], then I’d be offended. But if they really wanted to, I’d be okay with it. In fifth grade I wanted to change my name to [name_f]Wilhelmina[/name_f]…I love that name, but I’m glad I didn’t do it. I don’t think it would work out.