Sorry to chime in on an olddd topic, but as a fellow teen (almost 19, but still a teen!) who wants more than anything to have a big family someday … I wouldn’t choose to raise a child without a spouse.
If it somehow happened, for whatever reason, I know that I could. I’d just have to call on the support of friends and family more often! But I wouldn’t make the choice to.
Why? Well, here’s the thing.
[name_f]My[/name_f] big sister has had me working in children’s ministry since I was 11 years old. That means since I was 11 I have become accustomed to entertaining 15-25 four and five-year-olds. When I was thirteen, that shifted to two- and three-year-olds. When I was 16, that shifted to 5, 6, and 7-year-olds. The job I’ve had since I was 16 has me working every day with kids 3-15 (though more with the under-10 crowd). Now I have a second job as a PSW for a five-year-old superstar who has Down Syndrome, which also has me watching his other brothers (2-12) on occasion. (Poor mom has five sons! Eek! Though she’s kinda my hero now because … she still rocks it!) We do minimal preschool work (as he can’t attend school) and mostly just try to stay out of trouble.
On top of that, I’ve been an aunt since I was six, and that means lottttss of babysitting. And I’m not a fun aunt. I love my nieces and nephew like crazy, but I am not the type to let kids get away with things meaning some not-fun confrontations happen from time to time.
I should be fine managing kids on my own, right? Haha, no.
Children are amazing. They are literally the best thing on this planet! I can’t imagine what my life would be without them. But … if my parents and alllll the other parents I’ve ever talked to have told me one thing, it’s that they are HARD to raise.
I can barely imagine being able to handle the day in and day out pressure of raising a child, let alone many children, by myself, with no “clock out time,” no “end of the activity” … when I have someone to tag team with.
Without someone on my team keeping me sane? Well, like I said … I think I could do it. I would toughen up and figure it out. But I just wouldn’t choose to because, though I can keep it up for a couple weeks (and I have!), I think eventually I’d need someone to say, “[name_u]Baby[/name_u], I need five minutes to pee–can you watch them?” to.
But … if when you’re 30 years old, you want to have kids, and you decide it’s the right decision for you … then don’t doubt yourself. It wouldn’t be a choice I would make, but when the time comes, you never know. You could do it. I bet you’d do great!
Still, I’d wait to make any decisions, and I wouldn’t let “baby fever” trap you into anything now. You have time!