For example, I love the full name [name]Benjamin[/name] but feel I could never use it because everyone would shorten in to [name]Ben[/name] (which I hate) and there are no other obvious nicknames for it. I feel the same way about [name]Joshua[/name], [name]Alexander[/name] and [name]Oliver[/name].
I probably wouldn’t if I truly disliked all nicknames for the name. It won’t matter if you correct people when they call him [name]Ben[/name] (for example), they’ll continue to do it his whole life until everyone but you calls him [name]Ben[/name]. My brother had that happen. His name is [name]Christopher[/name]. My mom and I are the only ones who call him by his full name. Everyone calls him [name]Chris[/name]. He doesn’t seem to mind, though he does prefer [name]Christopher[/name]. In the end, it will be your child’s name and they may not feel as strongly about the nickname as you do. So, if you really do hate the nn, I wouldn’t do it. If you just prefer the full name, you can probably live with being the only person who calls him that.
No I’d never use it because even if you don’t use a nickname other people will regardless and he may even opt for it as he gets older.
It’s the reason I’ll probably avoid the name [name]Eloise[/name] because I can’t stand the nickname [name]Ellie[/name].
It depends on how much I love the name. And how many other nn options there were (and whether I liked any of them). And how badly I hated the nn. 
When I first fell for [name]Isabelle[/name], I quite strongly disliked the nn [name]Izzy[/name], and while I was worried about it, I knew I loved [name]Isabelle[/name] enough that I could put up with other people calling her [name]Izzy[/name] as long as I could still call her [name]Isabelle[/name]/[name]Belle[/name]/[name]Bella[/name]/[name]Elle[/name]/[name]Ella[/name]. I’ve actually come around to [name]Izzy[/name]–I like [name]Belle[/name]/[name]Bella[/name]/[name]Elle[/name]/[name]Ella[/name] more, but I wouldn’t mind if she got [name]Izzy[/name] occasionally. In fact, I think I’d use it from time to time.
Once upon a time [name]Benjamin[/name] was my favorite boys’ name–and I love just [name]Benjamin[/name]. I love [name]Ben[/name], too, but I like the full [name]Benjamin[/name] more. I think you could do [name]Benji[/name] or [name]Jamie[/name], though, if either of those appeal to you. But honestly, if it makes you feel better, my cousin has a four-year-old [name]Benjamin[/name], and he’s gotten [name]Benny[/name], and [name]Benji[/name], and many, many times [name]Benjamin[/name], but I hardly ever hear him get called [name]Ben[/name]. In fact, I think he’s [name]Benjamin[/name] about 90% of the time.
Good luck!
It would depend on how common the name is. For example, it’s unrealistic to name a child [name]Michael[/name] and not expect him to get [name]Mike[/name] at some point; or [name]Matthew[/name] and not expect [name]Matt[/name]. However, I feel you could reasonably enforce a rule that a child with a less common name goes only by the long form. For example, [name]Barnaby[/name] and not [name]Barney[/name].
[name]Jamie[/name] could be a nn for [name]Benjamin[/name] as well.
But to answer your question, no, I’d never use a name if I hated the obvious nn’s.
No way. Not if I hated it. I wouldn’t want to spend my kid’s early childhood as the annoying mom correcting everyoneonly to have my kid go by [name]Ben[/name] (or whatever) through high school anyway!
Yes, because nicknames are not even something I consider when looking at names. It’s funny that you used [name]Benjamin[/name] as an example. I love [name]Benjamin[/name] as well, and I’ve always known that if I ever got my [name]Benjamin[/name] that I’d call him [name]Bo[/name] for short. [name]Ben[/name], [name]Benny[/name], [name]Benjy[/name], etc never even crossed my mind.
Also, just because you “hate” the nickname [name]Ben[/name] doesn’t mean your son will. [name]Ben[/name] might fit him perfectly, and it might be the name your son chooses to call himself. There’s really nothing you can do about it.
This is the problem I have with [name]August[/name]. I love it as a name but I hate all the nicknames that go with it : /
[name]Both[/name] my SO and his sister have very common names with very common nn’s. His parents love both of the names but hated the nn’s so they just insisted that the kids and their teachers enforce a no nn policy. His sister now has one nn and it’s what he called her when he was little because he couldn’t pronounce her name. Everything else is a complete no go. [name]Both[/name] will just politely say “I prefer FULLNAME” when someone tries to give them a nn. So it’s completely doable!
I don’t think it would be an issue provided you have the same policy for all your children (should you have a few). I’d find it weird if [name]Benjamin[/name] and [name]Mike[/name] (short for [name]Michael[/name]) were brothers.
I have two students named [name]Katherine[/name]/[name]Catherine[/name] and neither gets called by any of the common or uncommon [name]Catherine[/name] nn. Full names all the time. And I teach high school, which means they have made it through 11 years of school without a nn. Most teachers ask students if they prefer a nn or a full name, in my experience. So therefore, yes, I would use a name even if I hated the nickname because I think it’s possible to have most people call the child by the full name.
More of my students (in college, none the less) seem to be going by their full names, so there is hope as long as the child is on board, as dindlee noted in her post. As for me, though, [name]Nikolai[/name] is out the window because I don’t like [name]Nick[/name], and [name]Nikolai[/name] is in good company with many other names that I tossed out due to nicknames.
+1 to this!
I feel like most people will respect your wishes if you tell them to use his full name. However, there will be people who will repeatedly ignore you and call him whatever they want to. I’m [name]Alexandra[/name] and go by [name]Alex[/name], either of which is acceptable. I had a coworker that called me [name]Al[/name]. I told her over and over that I didn’t like it, then just stopped responding when she called me that and when I left that job 2 years later, she was still calling me [name]Al[/name].
Are you kidding? What a rude little troll. What in the world makes a person think they can call you by a name that isn’t your name?? [name]How[/name] annoying. I would have probably had a few names for her myself if I’d been in your shoes. Ridiculous. My name is [name]Erica[/name], and I’ve had people try to shorten that ([name]Eri[/name], [name]Ric[/name]) but they’ve always called me [name]Erica[/name] when I request that they do so.
Ahh I am having the same issue with [name]Patrick[/name]!
I think most people will respect your wishes but there will always be one or two who will call him [name]Ben[/name]. I love both [name]Ben[/name] and [name]Benjamin[/name] though !
Me personally, no I wouldn’t not if I actually hated the nicknames, because I know people will shorten it.
I’ve considered this, because, while I love the name [name]Elisabeth[/name]/[name]Elizabeth[/name], I have an irrational dislike for the nickname [name]Beth[/name]. Lately, I’ve been leaning more towards using [name]Eliza[/name], to avoid using the despised nickname.
I would definately choose a name I likes in full but did not like the nicknames for. In your case, I think you would be just fine because as far back as I can remember, if someone has a name usually nicknamed like [name]Benjamin[/name] or [name]Matthew[/name], the teacher always says “[name]Ben[/name] or [name]Benjamin[/name]” when calling role the first day and whichever the child decides is what they are called both by the teacher and the kids in the class. Usually they make a blacket statement that anyone who prefers to go by a nickname or middle let them know.
I also have to vote “no”. I love the name [name]Frederick[/name], but I sadly crossed it off our list because I strongly dislike [name]Fred[/name] and [name]Freddie[/name]. I just don’t want to have to correct everyone all the time, and part of me feels like [name]Fred[/name] is unavoidable. It’s so disappointing because I think [name]Frederick[/name] is such a great name, but my love for [name]Frederick[/name] doesn’t outweigh my dislike of [name]Fred[/name]. Oh well!