[name_m]Hi[/name_m]!
I posted a while ago about girls names…we’re still slightly stuck there but think we’re getting there. Our problem now lies with boys names! I thought we would find this easy, we were going to go with Classic names, [name_m]Charles[/name_m] (after his grandfather) or [name_m]Frederick[/name_m] (both my grandfather’s middle names) BUT… my cousin has just named their baby [name_u]Charlie[/name_u] and we have two friends with baby Charlies and now one of my close friends has just called her baby [name_u]Freddie[/name_u].
All these babies are officially named the nickname versions of the names where as we would call ours by their full title but the likely hood is we will shorten them and this worries me!
Would you keep going no matter what or change your mind and use these as middles?
Use nn [name_m]Rick[/name_m] for [name_m]Frederick[/name_m], no? And yes, it would bother me, but less with [name_m]Frederick[/name_m] because there’s fewer kids you know given the same name or a name associated with it.
If I loved the name, sure. Name sharing doesn’t bother me, especially if the names are classics like [name_m]Charles[/name_m] and [name_m]Frederick[/name_m].
I’ve seen family names repeated in families; it isn’t completely uncommon. I would suggest running it by your cousin, though. You could also use nn [name_u]Teddy[/name_u] with [name_m]Frederick[/name_m].
I really love [name_m]Frederick[/name_m] and it is a family name for me as well. I would probably not use a name already used by a family member, but possibly would use one that a friend used simply because friends do come and go (hopefully that doesn’t sound horrible)
Tough one. They are classics so certainly no-one can suggest they “own” those names. Especially as they are both family names to you. Would you mind if it were the other way around? Maybe speak to the parties involved and take how they feel into account?
However, if you are absolutely set on either name then just use it and explain to the cousin or friend why it is important to you.