I was watching Rules of Engagement tonight and in the episode [name]Audrey[/name] is trying to find a girls name for their baby, but every girls name she comes up with [name]Russell[/name], a friend of hers (who “gets around”), has slept with. Thus they feel it is “tainted.”
Spoilers (highlight to read): They end up going with Shay (based on their first date) and luckily Russell hadn’t slept with a Shay.
So now I’m curious as to what others would do. Would you not use a name, even if you loved it, because a friend of yours you knew had slept with someone that had that name?
Of course, but not in the context of that story. People have ‘tainted’ names for me, but really it would have to be from personal experience rather than second-hand information.
I wouldn’t not use a name for that reason, unless the friend was overtly upset by the association (bad breakup, turned out to be sleaze ball, something like that). If the friend was iffy about it and i didn’t really love the name anyway, i might pass on it, but it wouldn’t be a complete deal breaker.
If I were to discount the name of every girl my best male friend has slept with… well, my daughter would never have a name. If it were a legitimate ex, where there was legitimate hurt feelings and etc, then I would not use it, or if I just plain didn’t like her, but not purely because he slept with a girl with the name, (unless he went into crazy creepy details…eep)
Um…well looking at the example, I’m trying to understand why the heck this guy would cough up the names of the girls he slept with. Doesn’t make much sense… “[name]Anna[/name]?” “Dude, hey fun fact I slept with a girl named [name]Anna[/name] a year ago!” “Well, no way we’re using that name then…” (that’s the only way i can picture that conversation going). [name]Even[/name] then, it don’t think that type of information would stop me from using a name I loved…unless the friend were to use some morbid detail that I wouldn’t be able t get out of my mind when hearing that name.
INR, the only thing that would really stop me from using the name of my friend’s partner or whatever would be if there was a bad break up or bad feelings that she still had over the situation. [name]Case[/name] in point, my friend is engaged to this guy who she used to have a great relationship with. I was close friends with him too, and would’ve really considered using his name was a mn for a son. However, he is currently breaking her heart and cheating, so i would never ever use that name, because i know she couldn’t help but think of that hurt.