We are planning on having one more baby and that will be our last. As we’re not trying yet, it’s not set in stone, but probably.
There has been a lot more pressure this time around to “use up” any favourite names for both of us and a lot of compromise. I’ve had to let go of so many names that I would have loved to use to balance the name with both of our loves.
Our existing children have short names and follow the (unintentional but welcome) pattern 4, 3, 4. So early on we tried REALLY hard to find a 3 letter name to continue the pattern. There was nothing that worked for us and I think he wanted more than me to compromise on that. But I always would revert back to: last baby, last chance to use a favourite name, and for me that was more important than sacrificing this to complete a pattern. So we decided to let it go (although he does teasingly bring it up still from time to time just to make me squirm).
The meaning of the name has never been important to us. Flow with existing children mattered to me. I used honour names in the middle for both boys but our girl didn’t receive an honour middle. We used [name_f]Juliet[/name_f] instead which is important to me as my longtime naming love was [name_u]Julie[/name_u]. So in a way that name was for me. With our final baby, there will be no honour name for a boy. For a girl, he loves [name_f]Elizaveta[/name_f], which also happens to be a family name of mine (as is [name_f]Mila[/name_f]) actually, and so is a nod to my heritage. [name_f]Elizaveta[/name_f] also would honour my grandmother [name_f]Elizabeth[/name_f], who has never been honoured despite having 7 great grandchildren. So it was a name that sort of pulled double duty for us.
We were originally considering other names for the baby and made the mistake of telling our oldest. He immediately latched onto them and then I felt as if I couldn’t change my mind. I tried SO hard to incorporate them into baby’s name, but I just couldn’t in a way I was happy with. I even asked Berries for help. In the end I had to make my peace that I couldn’t use ALL the names. Once I let go of that, things sort of fell into place. My son gave input between the two boy options and expressed a favourite that we all can agree on, so he was still included in that way. And he seems to have accepted the new girl baby name quite easily, so I’m glad I didn’t settle!
If it wasn’t our last baby, I wouldn’t have used another name, however I wonder if it might have been easier. Maybe there would have been less pressure to use all of the favourites. I don’t know, it’s hard to say.