Need some advice/insight. Wondering if anyone else has ever gone through this. We are expecting our 2nd girl this [name]December[/name] and have a VERY strong minded 2 year old daughter Mhairi. Months ago I was running name ideas by her and she said ‘no, no, no…’ t everything I suggested until I said [name]Eilidh[/name] (Ay-[name]Lee[/name]) and then she said YES. And since then she has literally become obsessed w/ the name [name]Eilidh[/name]. Only problem is, I’m not sure we’ll use it. It’s def one of our top choices but I like some other names too but she cries and gets sooo upset if I suggest we may name the baby another name. Any time we ask her what her baby sister will be named she just shouts [name]Eilidh[/name] ! She refuses to accept anything else!
I guess my concern is, I don’t want to like our 2 year old bully us into our name choice…but I am also afraid when she comes to hospital to meet her new baby sister and we say a name other than [name]Eilidh[/name] she may be devastated and cry. And may not like the baby as much!? Am I being crazy?? Has anyone else gone through this?
It doesn’t suit as a middle name since my first choice is [name]Nell[/name]…I do like [name]Eilidh[/name] but just not 100%. I was thinking if she gets a special baby doll at same time baby is born, we can name her doll [name]Eilidh[/name] and maybe will suffice as compromise but she’s pretty determined…just hate to hurt her.
Well, I am not a parent. However, I have been a two-year-old and I don’t remember any of it. I am sure my tantrums were dealt with and then moved on from! Go with what you want, of course.
Awww bless!!! I have a similar issue with my 4 year old niece, this baby is going to be her only cousin and she’s insisting on the name [name]Poppy[/name] which is not an option for us but I hate the idea of upsetting her.
[name]How[/name] long do you have left in your pregnancy? Why don’t you try something like making up a story about a girl who has a baby sister and give the “story baby” a name you might want to use? Try getting her to come around in ways like that.
Regardless she’ll come around to it eventually, but I understand your concern.
Good point about not remembering being 2 haha I agree…that said, doesn’t mean her emotions aren’t real. I just hate to upset her when her heart is set on that name but maybe it’s my pregnancy hormones making it a bigger deal than it needs to be!? ahah
And thank you [name]Haley[/name] for understanding, [name]Poppy[/name] is a cute name but def wouldn’t be for everyone!! We still hve until mid/late [name]December[/name] so lots of time to work on this ahah
Aww its hard, coz obviously a new baby sister is a big deal for her and you want to make it special for her and being involved in choosing the name can be such a great way to do that. I love the idea of her getting her own baby doll at the same time - you could always tell her that before hand and tell her she has to choose a name for her baby too. Hopefully she’ll want to use [name]Eilidh[/name] for her own baby doll!
For the record though, Mhairi and [name]Eilidh[/name] seem a lovely sib-set combo I do love the name [name]Nell[/name] too though
I didn’t mean to dismiss your concern for her feelings I think parents are under a lot of pressure, but you shouldn’t feel guilty was what I meant. From what you are saying, I am sure your daughter gets a lot of love, so I don’t think she will hold it against you.
Thanks!! It is tough…and I do love the name [name]Eilidh[/name], both my husband and I do…I guess I just want to feel I have a choice in the matter and not choosing the name mainly for her sake haha
I don’t have kids yet so feel free to dismiss my opinion but I wouldn’t let a 2 year old have a day in the name. Maybe you could tell her you like another name but you’ll think about what she likes as well, then name the baby what you want. I assume she’ll get over it when she meets the baby and you’re calling her what you want but obviously I don’t know.
I know a family that let their 3-year-old son choose the name of his baby sister, hoping it would let them have a special bond. It’s now 10 years later, and they hate each other. So not only is she not getting to brag saying that her brother named her, but she ended up being named [name]Caitlyn[/name].
[name]Just[/name] tell DD that when the baby is born she will have a name already. It will be a surprise, the nurse will tell you her name.
I like the idea of a doll with her preferred name- ideally as a gift from her sister.
[name]Trust[/name] me, if you let a 2yo boss you now you’re basically done for when she hits puberty.
I love the idea of saying the baby already came with a name, great idea! Blame the nurse…hahha jk. But great idea, I think I will try this…along w/ doll she can name [name]EIlidh[/name]. [name]Even[/name] though she’s named every doll/baby in the house already [name]Eilidh[/name]. Not sure how many [name]Eilidh[/name]'s there can be ahha
I like the idea of telling her the nurse will tell you her little sister’s name. Or tell her you’re waiting for the baby to tell you her name. I know my parents had a baby doll (realistic enough it threw off the nurse) that they had waiting for me when my brother was born and I got to name it and take care of it.
I have a very strong willed two year old girl so I can relate, but she was too young to express an opinion when her little sister was born! I actually think you should name the baby [name]Eilidh[/name]! I think it actually goes better with Mhairi and you admittedly love it. I think it would be sweet that she was named something All 3 of you love. I am playing devil’s advocate because everyone else is saying not to! Good luck to you.
I remember loving [name]Eilidh[/name] for you as well. But choosing the name that you love most is what’s most important. I like the nurse idea as well :). As someone trying to be a nurse and hopefully in labor and delivery, I’d totally take a hit like that for the parents if they asked. But there’s always a good chance that she won’t remember how much she loved the name and the level of disappointment she felt if you don’t use it. In the end, she’ll still love you and you’ll have chosen a name that makes you happy without any caveats (hopefully!). Good luck!
Another option is you could name the baby [name]Nell[/name] or another name you choose and tell your daughter that [name]Eilidh[/name] can be her special name for the baby. Kind of like how some people call their sisters [name]Sissy[/name].
First, I would not discuss names with her anymore. It will be really bad if you tell her the baby’s name won’t be [name]Eilidh[/name] and upset her only to change your mind and go why [name]Eilidh[/name] anyway.
I like lavendyr’s idea but I wouldn’t blame the nurse. I’d tell your daughter that when the baby came out, she told you she wanted to be named ____ and that when she was born she did the same thing (assuming you haven’t told her how you arrived at her name). You can also tell her that the baby says it’s OK if you call her [name]Eilidh[/name] but she really prefers the other name.
We had an ultrasound today and brought her w/ us and she said [name]Eilidh[/name] was in her belly, not mine…so I think we’re ok ahah I think we will be undecided until the baby is actually here. I do love the name [name]Eilidh[/name] too but just don’t want to feel like we have to use it. I agree w/ PP though it’s time to just stop talking about names w/ her altogether and maybe she will just move on. Appreciate everyone’s input a lot!!
I think parents are under a lot of pressure, but you shouldn’t feel guilty was what I meant. From what you are saying, I am sure your daughter gets a lot of love, so I don’t think she will hold it against you.