I lost my mother in 2003 ( i was 20 Y.O.) and I have always wanted to use an R name for my first-born child. In that time I have gotten divorced, remarried, and my sister had a child of her own using an R name for her first-born child all with in that 20-year span.
18 months ago, my wife lost her mother as well and asked if we can name our first born child after her. I knew her well and she loved me, unlike my wife who unfortunately did not know my mom. I feel like the right thing to do is to give her the gift, but the idea of not using an R name for my first-born hurts. I made a promise to myself that I have to break.