A hard questions

General Name Discussion
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I lost my mother in 2003 ( i was 20 Y.O.) and I have always wanted to use an R name for my first-born child. In that time I have gotten divorced, remarried, and my sister had a child of her own using an R name for her first-born child all with in that 20-year span.

18 months ago, my wife lost her mother as well and asked if we can name our first born child after her. I knew her well and she loved me, unlike my wife who unfortunately did not know my mom. I feel like the right thing to do is to give her the gift, but the idea of not using an R name for my first-born hurts. I made a promise to myself that I have to break.

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That is such a tough one :frowning:

Could you do both: a middle name beginning with R and the first name after your wife’s mother? A first name beginning with R, middle after your wife’s mother? [name_u]An[/name_u] R name that honours your wife’s mother?

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That’s the plan now Her mom is the first name - my mom is the middle name

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I was going to say the same - it’s such a shame you have to choose between who goes first, but you can definitely use both honours somehow :relaxed: