[name_m]Hi[/name_m] fellow Moms, I have a question for all of you, my son [name_m]Wilder[/name_m] is 8 and the twins are 3 months. We plan on having another little one when the twins are around 4 (maybe 3) but are worried how his/her relationship would be with [name_m]Wilder[/name_m]. Since my oldest brother and I are thirteen years apart and I was never that close with him. I personally think sibling relationships are an important thing.
Am I just being Paranoid? Or is it a real concern?
Thanks,
[name_u]Bailey[/name_u]
I think that, although it’s a different kind of sibling relationship, it’s still very worthwhile.
When we decided to take the plunge back into the baby stage, I was really, really anxious about this issue. What I’ve found is that the saying is true—love isn’t divided but multiplied. It’s pretty cool to see our oldest three interact with our younger two. It’s certainly not perfect, but it’s been much better than I expected.
@mill1020
Thank you! It really helps to hear from someone with a similar situation to ours
My best friend is 13 years younger than the sibling closest to her. She has an incredible relationship with all three of her older siblings despite the age gap. I think it also depends on the person themselves. I’m not very close with my brother even though we’re only three years apart, so I don’t think an age gap will in any way create a less close/important bond between them, even if it’s different than if they were 2-3 years apart.
I am 8 years older than my closest sibling, and 10 years older than the other. I’ve never been very close to my youngest sibling, but I was close to the other. we still get along fine, we just never communicated well. I think it has to do with circumstances and personality, because it gets better as we get older. my mom and her sister are 3 years apart and hated each other growing up. so a large gap doesn’t always mean they won’t be close and a smaller one doesn’t always mean they will be.
I feel the reason why my oldest brother never were really close was because I was about 5 when he went to college and he didn’t come home often. (I am the youngest of the family)
I think everyone is different. I am the oldest of 6. My sister is not even two years younger than me. My littlest sibling is 16 years younger than me. They will connect at some point, no matter what!
My brother and I are roughly 18 months apart and have never been close, so I don’t think age is necessarily everything when it comes to sibling relationships.