So, DH’s mn is [name]Frank[/name] after his grandfather and he has a lot of close cousins and a close uncle with the name (apparently it’s a tradition in his family or something.) My [name]SiL[/name] is getting pretty adament that I should name my child [name]Frank[/name] to go with the trend. There’s only one problem. I hate the name [name]Frank[/name]! Lol DH doesn’t care for it much and doesn’t care if I don’t go with it, but i’m feeling a lot of pressure. Maybe they’ll accept an alternative? [name]Even[/name] a name with the same meaning? I’m not sure. I just know that I am not going to name my son [name]Frank[/name] in the future.
If you don’t want to use it as a middle name and neither one of you are a fan of the name, just don’t use it.
My MN is [name]Franklin[/name]. So was my Grandfather, but he went by [name]Frank[/name]. No one has ever called me by my MN. I wouldn’t worry about it, think of it as an embellishment, not a branding.
If she was my [name]SIL[/name] I would make it clear that it was not any of her business what I named my child (but of course it’s sometimes easier to say that when you’re not in the situation). Anyway, wouldn’t she want to use [name]Frank[/name] as a FN for her own son? I don’t think you should feel obligated to use [name]Frank[/name], especially as your husband is not bothered.
However, some [name]Frank[/name]-related alternatives:
[name]Francis[/name]
[name]Francisco[/name]
[name]Francesco[/name]
[name]Franco[/name]
[name]Fran[/name]çois
[name]Franklin[/name]
The meaning is “frenchman” so I’m not sure of any other names with this meaning…
[name]Franklin[/name] is okay, but I just can’t stand [name]Frank[/name] 
I really don’t want to use it. It just seems really important to his family though and my family really doesn’t have any naming tradition. There are so many other names I’d prefer in the middle spot.
Thanks eskay! She’s only 17, so she’s far from having children (hopefully) but I wish I could just tell her that. I don’t want to offend her. I’m just pretty sure that she wants to butt in and name my kid what she wants and doesn’t care what I want. That’s the impression that I get anyway.
[name]Just[/name] don’t use it. Other family members shouldn’t have any sway in what you name YOUR child.