It’s me again with only 24 days to go!!! For most of this pregnancy we have agreed this baby’s middle name would be [name]Anthony[/name] after my grandfather whom I was extremely close to since both our other children mn’s are after my DH’s family. All of a sudden now my DH thinks we should use it as the first name and my whole family agrees. What do you berries think?
I am in NY so its quite popular here and I have always thought a child should have his/her own name thus using the honor name in the middle so I am on the fence. But we have a few names on the list and nothing is standing out either…sibling are [name]Jack[/name] and [name]Claire[/name] and the last name is [name]Friedman[/name]. We are a melting pot !
[name]Anthony[/name] is common (more so than [name]Ryan[/name] or [name]Patrick[/name]), but when used with [name]Friedman[/name] it stands out as there’s a bit of culture clash [in the good sense] there. I’m obviously quite partial to it-- or at least its French form-- and think it makes a fine, solid, name. There are millennia of tradition and history underlying [name]Anthony[/name] as a given name. I do think either [name]Ryan[/name] or [name]Patrick[/name] more perfectly match [name]Claire[/name] & [name]Jack[/name] in style, but all three are fine choices. No help, really, but it comes down to how much you think the choice of [name]Anthony[/name] would mean to your family, and your own feelings towards it. It’s absolutely unobjectionable.
I love it. It is quite popular particularly in NY (I feel like I hear it on every other little boy) but I’ve never gotten tired of it, and it is a classic. But don’t use it because your family wants you to- use it if you like it!
I usually agree with your point that honor names should be in the middle, but I absolutely love [name]Anthony[/name]. I say use it! (although I do like your other choices).
I love the name [name]Anthony[/name]. I have always found it attractive. I do agree that each child should have his own name. Therefore, I would keep [name]Anthony[/name] in the middle name spot and let him have more of his own identity - I hope this doesn’t offend anyone - I would go with one of your other options.
I do love [name]Ryan[/name] [name]Anthony[/name]!
What about [name]Gabriel[/name]? If he’s due [name]Christmas[/name] day that would be a cute name!!
I actually really like [name]Max[/name] with [name]Jack[/name] and [name]Claire[/name]. [name]Anthony[/name] is a great classic name, but I like the spunkiness of [name]Max[/name] with your other 2 children’s names, both of which I also think carry that spunky vibe. Good luck, less than a month to go, exciting!
I do love [name]Anthony[/name] but I just always had it in my head as the middle name if that makes sense. I also love [name]Ryan[/name] [name]Anthony[/name] and [name]Ryan[/name] and [name]Anthony[/name] are probably just about even for popularity in NY so that doesnt help me at all. I think it will come down to [name]Ryan[/name], [name]Patrick[/name] or [name]Anthony[/name]…though my Irish/Italian/Jewish children so far look Irish with fair hair/skin so I will probably wait to meet him.
If I do go for [name]Anthony[/name] in the first name spot any ideas for a middle? My only thought was [name]Nathan[/name] for my grandmother [name]Natalie[/name] (Grandpa [name]Tony[/name]'s wife) but I am not sure I like [name]Anthony[/name] [name]Nathan[/name] or [name]Anthony[/name] [name]Nathaniel[/name]. Other family names could be [name]Bruce[/name] (my dad), [name]Bernard[/name] ( great Grandfather) or [name]Robert[/name] ( DH).
About kids having their ‘own’ name: even if you give them the first name of a family member who you wish to honor, they are STILL going to make that name their own. The only exception I can think of is if you gave the the exact same name, first, middle, and last of the person you are naming them after, then that would be awkward.
[name]Anthony[/name] is a great name. If you wanted to use other family names you’ve mentioned [name]Anthony[/name] [name]Bernard[/name] sounds good to me.
That being said, if you don’t want to use it as a first name for your child, do not let anyone pressure you into doing so. If you feel it is better to use it as a middle name instead, then perhaps that is what you should do. Myself, I like using the first name to honor someone, but that’s just me.
Since my grandfather has been dead for more than 15 years t doesnt bother me as much as say using my dad’s or husband’s name. It’s more that I never considered it so I am just getting used to it.