So I’m pregnant with our third son and we are having major name drama in my husbands family. He’s basque, I’m American but we live in his area in the north of Spain. So far our two oldest have more English/international names which I know are popular in the US but here are actually kind of unique.
We always liked the name [name_u]Kai[/name_u], because it’s easy in both languages, but my husbands sister who is also pregnant with a boy (but her first), says it’s the only name she likes for boys and that she would be so angry if we name our son it as well (even though we were going to name our second [name_u]Kai[/name_u] but she created drama about it that we later realized was because she wanted it for herself). I’m due before her, and we’ve said we don’t care what she names her child, but she is adamant that we don’t name our son [name_u]Kai[/name_u] and has started a bit of a civil war in the family because of this.
A part of me wants to name our son [name_u]Kai[/name_u] because she’s a spoiled brat who literally always gets everything she wants, and a part of me honestly doesn’t even like the name anymore as it’s the second time we’ve gone to use it and had issues. Also, I actually like the name [name_u]Asher[/name_u] more, the only thing is it’s a bit of an unusual name for this part of the world, but that being said it’s not tooooo weird.
Wow. That sounds like a sad situation. Personally at this point I’m not sure that I would use [name_u]Kai[/name_u], I don’t think it will be worth it spoiling relationships over a name. And it sounds like you actually like [name_u]Asher[/name_u] better.
I don’t think Kai is worth the family drama, personally. I’d advise you to just be the bigger person and use a different name.
For Asher, I don’t think it being uncommon is a bad thing, but I’m a little concerned about how easy it would be to pronounce for Spanish speakers? I’m not a Spanish speaker myself but I speak a language similar to Spanish and I know it would be hard to grasp for people where I’m from. So maybe get some input on that from the people around you in Spain, and if they tell you it’s not an issue then I’d say go for it despite the name being uncommon!
Let her have it. Don’t think of it as letting a spoiled brat win but getting to pick a super cool name for your nephew. You like [name_u]Asher[/name_u] better anyways. I do too!
Honestly since you like [name_u]Asher[/name_u] more, I’d go with that. [name_u]Kai[/name_u] just seems like it will cause more trouble than it’s worth, especially as it’s not the only name on your list and that it might cause drama at a time when you probably won’t want it.
I vote for [name_u]Asher[/name_u]. [name_u]Kai[/name_u] doesn’t seem worth the trouble. As a Spanish speaker, I don’t think the pronunciation will be a huge deal. [name_u]Asher[/name_u] is not an overly complicated name and should be recognizable most places in Europe.
I agree with this. I can understand the temptation to use it just to make a point, but understandable though it is, your child’s name is probably not a sensible place to plant your flag in this particular battle!
Asher is a great name and not too complicated for Spanish speakers I wouldn’t have thought, although the SH sound could cause some difficulties. I think the name is worth it though: soft yet strong, handsome, energetic, with a lovely upbeat meaning.
There’s also the similar Basque name Asier, if you wanted something more seamlessly translatable between the two languages.
Honestly this is such a tricky situation so much drama at what is meant to be a happy time!
Personally I would go with [name_u]Asher[/name_u] he’s handsome biblical name with the lovely meaning ‘happy; fortunate; blessed’ perfect for any child. I honestly do not think the fact that he is uncommon should deter you as along as the name is pronounceable in Spain especially northern Spain where the dialect differs slightly. Also you actually love [name_u]Asher[/name_u] rather than using a name that you’ve gone off because you want to make a point. I think in the long you’ll regret using [name_u]Kai[/name_u].
I like Asher better in general, and I think it is the better choice for your situation. If you went with Kai, his name would always be associated with petty family drama.
[name_u]Asher[/name_u] sounds like a fortnite kid, nothing wrong with that but with that in mind, I think [name_u]Kai[/name_u] is better. It’s short and sort of sweet.
I usually lose interest in a name by the second child we consider it for… for example… Our first child was a boy… we had Ellie-Ava picked out if he were a girl… we never used it… in fact, by child 2, we had [name_u]Dagny[/name_u] picked out for a girl… he was a boy and never used it… child three was a girl and chose a completely different name. We had [name_m]Josiah[/name_m] picked out and decided on early in my pregnancy for baby 5, but ended up going a different route becuase my husband was so set on a different name by the end of my pregnancy… Now that I’m planning baby #6, [name_m]Josiah[/name_m] isn’t even on my list…
So, let the sister-in-law have [name_u]Kai[/name_u] and leave the drama behind. I really like [name_u]Asher[/name_u].
Thank you everyone, I really appreciate the help. We did go with [name_u]Asher[/name_u], and suddenly she wants to see us again after months of being distant and mad at us. I can’t say it doesn’t bother me, I don’t think the relationship will ever be the same, but at least my son won’t have the drama hanging over his head.
Yessss- this! YOU basically got to pick two kids names (and yours is a bit cooler) but only had to birth the one… namer dream!
I totally get your annoyance though !
You chose the name first, and you’re having a baby first. If your sister wants to start a civil war in the family over you using the name that you had already chosen, then let her expose herself as the immature brat that she is.
