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I started feeling sick/having some food aversion at about 6 weeks, it just keeps getting stronger. I have some friends who were sick the whole time (
) but of the family members I’ve spoken to (generally, I’m not telling my extended family until after 12 weeks) they all were quite sick during the first trimester and then felt better, so really hoping that’s true for me.
I’ve completely stopped eating some things that genuinely used to be staples in my diet. Most notably I’ve gone off basically everything sweet - I usually have SUCH a sweet tooth but nope, not any more. Basically the only thing I consistently want to eat is plain mashed potato 
On my dad’s side of the family (which is much bigger, I have lots of cousins) there’s an almost equal split between boys and girls, leaning slightly more towards girls but we’re talking like 52% girls, 48% boys. On my mum’s side I have one male cousin and he was the first boy to be born into the family in 5 generations. So I think part of me expects a girl. But DH’s family is also a pretty even split, so who knows.
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Oh boy lol, then the nausea could be incoming for me soon. I did have a weird reaction to a cupcake last night. Granted the frosting was very sweet but I took a bite and immediately felt sick so I didn’t end up eating more of it. 
Seems like a lot of people start feeling better in the 2nd trimester, so fingers crossed that’s what happens for you, or sooner 
The contrarian in me almost wants to vote Team [name_m]Boy[/name_m] since everyone else is saying girl… but I honestly would be happy for a little girl too. [name_m]Just[/name_m] excited to eventually learn what they are!
Had a random burst of energy today, which was nice, so I took advantage and was able to get a lot of cleaning done at home. Dishes, laundry, bathroom, kitchen, broke down some recycling - I feel so good having a tidy house again. Not sure baby will let me have this kind of energy every day, so gotta get to it while I can!
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[name_f]My[/name_f] partner has his fingers crossed for a boy, but that’s because he already has a son (that he raised mostly on his own) so it’s what’s familiar. I had to remind him his family pattern is boy-girl and I’m from a family with mostly girls so we’ll see. I’d be happy with either, but I lean more toward the idea of having a girl.
I’m now at nearly 7 weeks and it’s mostly just been some nausea here & there and some food aversions/cravings. [name_f]Baby[/name_f] seems to really be in love with raviolis and garlic bread at the moment (I’m italian ancestry, so that tracks lol). Had some extreme bloating the last few days and feeling like I have to pee every 5 seconds. Luckily the boob pain hasn’t been too bad over here, just random aches.
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Raviolis and garlic bread sounds like excellent cravings 
so far this baby seems really into bananas, rice, and grilled chicken of the teriyaki or BBQ variety. Surprisingly, I feel like my desire for chips, chocolate, sweets in general has lessened since getting pregnant. Not complaining though, since that’s probably much healthier.
I feel like dads in general tend towards hoping for a boy, and I wonder if it really is just for the familiarity for themselves of understanding how boys are/how they grow up? It’d be interesting to know if there was some psychology behind that!
Had a surprise visit from my mom today who’s babysitting my cousin’s little girl Bryl33. Mom spends more time with her, so Bryl33 was pretty shy around me but we got along. She’s a good helper and wanted to put away my groceries for me. I did not mind the help as my energy did in fact tank after cleaning the house xD
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I have to say, ALL that food sounds good to me right now.
Yesterday was so tumultuous. I took a test in the morning and it just wasn’t as definitive as i though it would be. And then I impatiently did it again an hour later after my cup of morning tea. It was even lighter. I spent most of that day wondering and praying for contentment, whatever the circumstances. I’ve still not told anyone but have been an absolute emotional wreck for the not knowing! I should know better: this is my 6th baby!!
That being said, it’s amazing how much you forget each time.
[name_f]My[/name_f] husband might be slightly mollified if this baby is a girl. He has been particularly protective of my daughter [name_f]Aurie[/name_f], and we do already have 4 boys. Maybe he just makes boys though. Who knows!
This will be my 6th c-section unless labor progresses differently than all the others. I’m not sure if I’ll push a tolac this time… probably!! Pregnancy has been fairly easy for me. Number 4 (Caleb) was 10 pounds, and that was a little rough towards the end because of the hemorrhoids. It didn’t feel all that bad though because it ended with a baby in my arms after loss. Didn’t soften the absence, but it was a comfort.
So anyways, I tested this morning and the line was getting stronger like it should be and everything is okay for now. Yay!!!
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[name_m]Hi[/name_m]! Jumping in here - first pregnancy, expecting in early [name_f]November[/name_f]. I just had my second appointment yesterday and got to see the baby kicking. I’m nervous but excited! It still doesn’t feel real, though. That’s even with breast aches and nausea and having seen the baby, lol.
[name_f]My[/name_f] husband’s thrilled (he gave me a high five when I got the first positive test, which I found really funny) and our parents were all super excited when they found out - this is the first grandchild for both sides.
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Congratulations and welcome to the thread! That’s so sweet that baby was kicking around for you 
they’re probably just now able to move a bit now that the limbs have formed and are taking full advantage to go places!!
I love that your husband high fived you 
That’s an epic reaction.
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Yes, welcome @Krikit 
You’re gonna be the first to hold your baby in your arms in this group. So excited for you, friend! How have you been feeling so far?
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I’ve been experiencing a random bout of anxiety both yesterday and today. Logically I think it’s because it’s still too early to do a scan and with my untraditional route to pregnancy that I’m worried something could go wrong. Granted i haven’t had any red flags like bleeding or anything but regardless I’m stressing.
This might sound incredibly silly but I decided the best way to calm down my thoughts was so get a repeat blood hcg, so I’m waiting for those results, but at least I’ve done what I can in this moment to know more about how things are progressing. Not sure about the turnaround time of the results but hopefully not too long and hopefully the numbers will be where they ought to be.
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I can relate to the anxiety. I’m so sorry you’re struggling. [name_m]Can[/name_m] I confess that I took 4 pregnancy tests one day this week? I’ve taken more tests this week than I ever have with all 5 previous pregnancies combined.
You can do nothing here. I mean that in the best way possible. Words to free up your heart. I personally deal with the stress through laying out my fears before [name_m]Jesus[/name_m], having a cup of pregnancy friendly tea and a bit of chocolate and getting busy with something. Don’t let fear consume this time that’s supposed to be full of joy.
Also, the fear doesn’t ever completely go away. No one told me after [name_m]Elliot[/name_m] was born (#1) that half my heart would be out there running around, sometimes hellbent on self destruction! That first big fall is terrible. Ohhh it hurts to be a mother, but it’s so worth it.
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Thank you for the kind words 
I do feel more able to let it go now that I did the bloodwork, so I’m focusing on other distractions. A few hours of work today and then a lot of relaxing. I do need to do some garden chores for one thing. But yeah, I feel you on the repeated pregnancy tests. When I got my first BFP I took multiple of them the next few days because it didnt seem real. [name_m]Even[/name_m] took one last night and thankfully it was positive. I feel like this stage of pregnancy is tough in that there’s a lot of hope but also a lot of unknowns so I’m guarding my heart a bit.
I’m sure it’ll be devastating when this little peanut gets their first bump or scrape… part of me is excited to be there to comfort them, though. The highs and lows of a parent all seem undoubtedly worth it and I’m really yearning to experience everything.
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I totally get the anxiety. I spent the first 3 weeks after finding out just terrified. And there’s nothing that can really be done. I consideed an early scan but I knew it couldn’t actually stop me worrying, I’d just start it all again from a different start point.
The longer it goes the more tentarivelt hopeful I become. But I also took about 14 pregnancy tests over the first few days and I still take about one a week, just to check
I can also completely understand hownyour circumstances might add extra stres, “retrying” has a lot more weight to it.
DH said to me that as long as I’m doing everything I should (or rather, avoiding the things I know I should avoid) then there’s not really anything else to be done. “Why worry about it if you can’t control it”. I’m generally more a “I can’t control it so I’m worried” person, but I appreciated his attempt.
The thing that has helped me (and DH has helped with this too) is to properly understand that the statistics. That may or may not help you, but if it would I can share the “reminder” thoughts I use when I start worrying.
But yeah, I get you completely. Especially in the first few weeks, it’s just a part of the process that no one talks about before you feel it.
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It’s comforting to know y’all are/have felt similarly. I feel like I’m normally a much more laid back person but when it comes to pregnancy I have zero chill, apparently
I’d love to hear what helps you!
My career has given me some logic when it comes to this. We end up doing ultrasounds for plenty of folks in the 5 to 6 week range and it’s such an iffy time. On some people you can get sac, baby, heartbeat much earlier than others, and a lot of people dont know better so they’re scared if not everything is picked up on that scan. Majority of them go on to be just fine, and that ultrasound was just done too soon. But its so emotionally tough. That’s why I haven’t really tried to do any early imaging… I’m actually not sure when that happens since idk if my midwife does an in-office scan or refers you out elsewhere to have it done. First appointment with her is on the 9th, May 2nd is just a phone visit
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I’ve actually been feeling pretty okay physically overall, so I’m feeling lucky! (Food is weird now. I love chocolate, and now I can’t summon any interest in it!) [name_f]My[/name_f] main thing is nervousness and thinking of everything that could go wrong. 
But my appointment this week was reassuring, and I’m trying to focus on that joy.
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Yes, share your reminder thoughts!
@pacifica I loved hearing about your experiences with sonography. If I’m correct, I think today would be the start of week 4, so testing at all last week was pretty foolish of me!
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Not foolish at all!! I have gotten positives during my 3rd week before because of my short cycle lengths. I took a test every day 4-5 days in a row just before [name_f]Christmas[/name_f] just to see if I was crazy my back hurt so bad and I felt sick (but the stomach bug was going through the house too!).
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Here are the things I use to calm myself covering up as it involves stats about loss:
- More people go on to have healthy pregnancies than lose them.
- The roughly 30% chance is added up across the whole time not a flat rate.
- By week 8 the chance for that week is closer to 5%.
- The tragic stories we hear are talked about (rightly) because they are less likely to happen.
- Many people get pregnant without necessarily trying and don’t think about all of this/don’t find out until after more of the scarier time has passed and they do fine.
- The statistics don’t differentiate between people who know/are taking appropriate action and people who do not know/are doing things that are not recommended
- The statistics don’t differentiate between people who have never lost a pregnancy and people who have sadly lost many but don’t have known cause, which will impact the numbers.
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Those are all so true and I appreciate you sharing. Especially the point that some folks kinda fall into pregnancy and aren’t overthinking anything. I have to realize my heightened awareness of symptoms doesn’t really affect anything that’s happening with my pregnancy. What will happen will happen, basically. And most folks go on to be just fine.
I got a call from the lab just a bit ago and it scared the heck outta me because usually results are just posted to the patient portal, no phone call. But thankfully I think this time was different because I did an on demand test instead of one ordered by a doctor. And my hCG has increased an amount that seems on track. Somewhere in the mid 4000’s… not sure exact number, lol, i was just so relieved I wasn’t paying full attention.
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Finally saw something at work! Gestational sac and yolk sac. [name_f]My[/name_f] intern scanned me and we thought maybe we could see baby but it was so small that we couldn’t be absolutely sure. Still I’m so happy to see some progression because I haven’t been able to see anything at all before today… 
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