[name_m]Welcome[/name_m] to the thread! I’m happy things are looking good and that you’ve gotten to see baby’s heartbeat 
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First visit today was a mixed bag but mostly positives! I got to see my baby and their heartbeat which was incredibly emotional (defo cried) and things seem healthy so far!! Their little ticker looked strong to me! 
Midwife was nice but didn’t seem too used to the ultrasound machine, which was kind of odd to me? Plus their ultrasound equipment is a bit outdated/not clear, so she recommended getting another dating scan to confirm my due date which given everything, I’m fine with. Thankfully, she made sure to say she has no concerns, just wants a clearer picture.
On the more meh side of things, she told me I’d have to see an OB/GYN for the rest of the pregnancy instead of a midwife because of my weight. Can’t fault her because she was very nice about it, but it still makes me feel a little bit of guilt nonetheless for not being in an ideal range. 
I’m not considered high risk for that fact, but this is their policy apparently… I’d liked the idea of being able to see a midwife because it aligns more with my healthcare wishes but as long as the doctor isn’t c-section happy, I think it’ll be fine.
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Hurray for a loud and clear heartbeat!
I’m definitely also over the weight range, try not to let the guilt get to you - people for centuries have had happy healthy pregnancies and babies of all shapes and sizes. I know there’s an evidence base, but at the same time your weight won’t determine how good a parent you are!
I’m 11 weeks tomorrow and the bloat has kicked in full force, but I think I’m getting over some of the food aversions… or maybe it’s because I’m writing this in the morning when I feel ok. [name_f]My[/name_f] “morning” sickness is very much a “mid-afternoon then all evening” sickness.
I’m starting to get antsy for my scan. I’m sure the week will fly by, but right now it feels ages away.
Also my boobs are still in SO much pain, if anyone has any tips I am all ears.
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That’s true! Thanks for the reassurance 
I’m trying to remember that I’m doing the best I can and besides my weight I’m otherwise healthy so baby is most likely okay.
Sorry you’re feeling so sore and uncomfortable! What I’ve heard is wear a comfortable, supportive bra (even to sleep) and maybe stick an ice pack or cold compress in the cups for a bit to try to calm down the aches.
ETA: and possibly some massage therapists trained to work with pregnant people might be able to do a targeted chest massage! Mine mentioned that when I told them I was pregnant but I haven’t had much breast pain so far
@Maerad I second the bras at night thing. It helps! I experienced tenderness in the beginning but it wasn’t uncomfortable all the way through. Maybe that will give you hope?
I’m over the age range, being newly 40. At 35 they were calling me geriatric and telling me about “all the risks” … which wasn’t exactly true either. So while my weight is fine, I think doctors are having to covering their butts. I’m so sorry about the midwife thing. I want that for you also. Don’t be afraid to listen to your instincts/ heart. I felt pressured into a scheduled cs for Caleb’s (#4) birth so I fired my OB and ran for the hills at 28 weeks. It was both scary and the best decision I could have made. At 41 weeks, I went into a hospital known for being able to handle emergency transfers from midwife practice/homebirths (I guess when the mom needed more medical intervention than could be given at home). They were amazing.
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[name_f]My[/name_f] first ob wasn’t cs happy… Until she was. Until I felt trapped and scared. Lots of pressure and statistics used to get you to sign the form, no matter if they were dishonest. Like this… do you know you have a 50% increase in stillbirth at 41 weeks? Yes, that’s true, and it’s terrifying to a mom who will do anything to protect her child. The problem is that the risk is a relative risk. Before 40 weeks, your chance of loss is 0.5% That encompasses everything. That’s really statistically insignificant! That risk, doubled, becomes 1%. The same as saying there’s a 99% chance that you’re going to have a perfectly healthy baby. And cs are touted as the safest way to deliver, but it’s major surgery, and there are inherant risks to giving birth that way. Giving birth is a risk. Getting into your car is a risk, too, but we all want babies and not to be hermits.
I know you are all hoping for natural births. I want that for you too. There are lots of things I would have done differently for [name_m]Elliot[/name_m] (#1), but those mistakes have made me better able to advocate for my desires, and a better example, for my kids, of standing up for what’s right.
If you end up having a cs, there’s a huge processing that goes along with it too, and it can be really hard (depending on what you hoped). I’d be happy to talk with you further if it helps. (Fingers crossed it won’t be necessary!) Each cs got easier for me! ← the good news
I am so, so sorry that I don’t know how to grey out text or photos, so please forgive any indiscretion here.
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If I don’t go straight to bed after work I’ll send you a guide with screenshots on how to blur things.
I’m currently not thinking too much about how baby will get out of me 
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Had a great scare today… bleeding, fantastic. Luckily my doctor was able to get me in and everything is fine! [name_f]Baby[/name_f] is measuring good and heartbeat has gotten stronger. They assume the bleeding was from that fibroid and because I’m on blood thinners it seemed worse than it was.
Since I got insurance stuff figured out, I was able to get all the labwork and stuff that I couldn’t get last week, so that was also a bonus of today. But great to see baby again!
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Hello 
I’ve been lurking here for quite some time, decided it’s time to finally say hi since I just had my first appointment earlier today.
Some of you might remember me from ttc 2024 thread. I was forced to take a break back in [name_f]January[/name_f], eventually got into the not trying, not preventing phase, then here I am. [name_f]Baby[/name_f] should due around 3rd/4th week of [name_f]December[/name_f]. Still waiting for ultrasound to get it confirmed.
I wanted to do it like today, but my NP said if I’m the kind of person who might be stressed out not hearing heartbeat or seeing much at the first scan (in case it’s too early), then I better wait another week or two. [name_f]My[/name_f] husband somehow convinced me to wait so now I struggle trying not to think too much about it. 
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So sorry to hear about the scare. I’m glad baby is doing good inside!
[name_f]Glad[/name_f] to hear little one is doing okay! It makes sense that the combo of fibroids and blood thinners could cause that though, but I hope you don’t have too many more scares and can just enjoy pregnancy.
@luneth [name_m]Welcome[/name_m] to the thread! You’re probably pretty close to my due date, which is hovering around [name_f]Christmas[/name_f] eve. I’ll be getting another more “official” dating scan on [name_m]Thursday[/name_m] to confirm but that’s what it seems like it will be when I scan baby myself.
@kapaza I’m sorry things with your prior births weren’t ideal. It’s a good reminder that sometimes things just don’t go as planned and even so, you came through it alright. I’m definitely going to advocate with my doctor for a vaginal delivery and am just hoping things work out that way 
[name_f]Happy[/name_f] belated Mother’s day everyone! I meant to pop in day of but life got busy. It was so strange getting a card and gift this year. Not that I forgot I’m pregnant but it still seems wild that oh yes, I’ll be someone’s mama in a few months and therefore this holiday applies to me now
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@pacifica Thanks! How do you feel about having the baby so close christmas? [name_f]My[/name_f] temporary due date is the 22nd, but since my cycle is on the longer side there’s a chance it’s still earlier than they initially thought. [name_f]My[/name_f] official dating scan is in two weeks, so we’ll see. It’s so fun that you can scan the baby yourself and have regular peeks! 
[name_f]Happy[/name_f] belated mother’s day!
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In some ways it’s a fun time to be expecting, but I really hope they won’t be born on the holiday so they can have their own special day! But if they are I’ll do my best to make them feel special
Good luck at your scan! I hope baby will measure right on track!
Yes happy belated mother’s day to you all!
I got to give my mom the best mother’s day present— finally announcing that I’m pregnant. She was so surprised, she cried, it was a beautiful moment.
I know my due date isn’t as close to [name_f]Christmas[/name_f] as some of y’all’s, but it’s something that I’m a little nervous about. I don’t want baby to always have their birthday overshadowed by the looming holiday, and I know that it means lots of joint birthday/Christmas gifts in their future. I know that really shouldn’t be a big deal (and that it won’t be a big deal once they’re older) but I wanna make sure they have their big day FEEL like a big day, ya know?
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I’ve thought about the birthday thing, too. I really can’t imagine another event in [name_f]December[/name_f], so I’ve decided to just celebrate baby’s half birthday every year. I’m not sure they’ll care so much as long as there’s cake!
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@pacifica Thanks! I hope so too 
The funny thing is that when I was a kid I, an actual summer baby, thought [name_f]December[/name_f] birthdays would be so much fun cause it’s such a beautiful time of the year. Full of festivities and all that. At that time I didn’t think about joint gifts and I was surprised when I found out half birthday is a thing. Now that I’m actually due so close to the holiday, I wonder if my kid would dislike it… I guess I’ll just wait and see.
We told my husband’s side yesterday, now I just have to decide how and when to tell my parents. After too many years of dodging their question about grandkids (this will be their first), it somehow feels a bit weird to finally tell them they’ll have one soon.
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@hvnewton I’m glad the whole surprise worked out and your mom had such a sweet reaction 
Re: [name_f]Christmas[/name_f] babies I think I thought similar to you @luneth that it’s an exciting time with a lot happening (I’m also a summer baby lol), but I definitely can see the flip side of it being a hectic time and baby’s birthday getting lumped in with other celebrations! I’m not sure yet how I’ll handle it but a half birthday might be a good idea. Probably I’ll celebrate normally until they are old enough to express whether they want a [name_f]December[/name_f] party or a [name_f]June[/name_f] half birthday and go from there.
Official dating ultrasound is tomorrow evening! I’m happy that I’ll get another opinion on the due date and find out if it really will be [name_f]Christmas[/name_f] or one of the other nearby dates. [name_f]My[/name_f] original guess based on ovulation was 12/23 which would be sweet if true since it was my granny’s (great grandma) birthday. Her nickname is actually one of the names I’m considering if baby is a girl, [name_f]Millie[/name_f]!
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@pacifica I have friends with December babies and they do half birthday celebrations! Mostly because we’re in the midwest so most options for birthdays (pool parties, park play dates, etc) aren’t an option come Christmas.
Because CS is probably what I’ll end up having because of my fibroid issue, I’m hoping to get a December 3 birthday (11 days before estimated due date) since it was my late grandma’s birthday. And 3 has always been her special lucky number & mine too!
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3 is a good lucky number, as they say, good things come in threes!
@pacifica I can totally see the flip side too. With all christmas plan and everyone’s different holiday plan it’ll be difficult to make time for the kid’s separate day. Not to mention if they want a themed party and [name_f]Christmas[/name_f] vibe just overpowers everything, etc. I came to enjoy my summer birthday when I’m older, just not as a kid. [name_m]Long[/name_m] before we conceived this one I actually hope to have summer babies lol. I think just like you I’ll celebrate normally too and wait and see if they want differently when they’re older.
Good luck on your dating ultrasound tomorrow! That’s so exciting! Let us know how it goes. Aww [name_f]Millie[/name_f] is such a sweet name and what a coincidence it will be if she shares the birthday with great grandma. 
12/23 is actually my mom’s birthday… but it’s a bit harder for me to predict based on ovulation. Everytime I tried on various due date calculators and put my actual cycle length I got… nye instead. Suppose I prefer that over xmas, but of course baby decides to come when baby wants to come.
@hvnewton I live in the midwest too. I’m new here though, it’s a lot warmer where I grew up which probably explains why half birthday is such a foreign concept to me. [name_f]December[/name_f] 3rd sounds perfect.
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