It sounds like postpartum. I agree with pp and try to take your mind off of it for a bit so you can think more clearly on it. I think [name_f]Eliana[/name_f] [name_f]Joy[/name_f] is beautiful. However if you feel like changing it, I know two middles aren’t loved by everyone, but you could always change her name to [name_f]Eliana[/name_f] [name_f]Savannah[/name_f] [name_f]Joy[/name_f]. It doesn’t have to be one name or the other. Or go with other nns like [name_f]Anna[/name_f]/[name_f]Ana[/name_f] (as said by a pp) or initials EJ. Best of luck and you’ll get through this 
I’d like to give a quick update…mostly because I know there will be women out there with this same struggle, awake at midnight scouring the internet for answers, like I was.
When my daughter was around 3 months I finally agreed to take anti-depressant meds. The first two weeks of meds were hell. But once they were in my system I experienced a 180 degree difference in my emotional well-being. Instead of falling back in love with her name, I realized that even with a sane mind, I still didn’t like it. I realized that if we decided to change it, it would be okay, people would understand, in-fact it might turn out to be a funny story!
We agreed to call her something different–tell our family & friends–and deal with the legal stuff later. I stayed on meds for 9 months until I started weaning myself from them. I am now 100% mentally healthy and 100% happy with the name we decided on. When she turned one we decided to officially change her name.
If you are struggling with this personally, don’t hesitate to message me here. Not sure how often I’ll check back here…but I hope my response here helps in some way!
I’m so sorry! This is something that I could not possibly share, as I’m a minor and obviously do not have children, but I hope what I say can help in any way. First of all, like many posters here have said, I think the best course of action is to step back and breathe for a day or two and forget about this naming issue, and focus on your daughter, not her name. I mean that literally. Think of her just as your daughter, not as [name_f]Eliana[/name_f] or [name_f]Savannah[/name_f]. This way, I think you may get that deeper connection you feel is coming in between you and the baby. Afterwards, I think that if you really, truly don’t feel that your baby girl’s name is right, then you need to have a very serious conversation with your husband to explain all of your concerns. Both [name_f]Eliana[/name_f] and [name_f]Savannah[/name_f] are beautiful names. Changing her name may not be as relieving as you think it may be, but your husband needs to understand that you feel this way, especially if you feel that her name will come between you and your daughter. Try to get him to agree to calling her [name_f]Savannah[/name_f] for a week, maybe more, and see if you think you feel better about the situation. Maybe by doing that you can decide whether or not calling her [name_f]Savannah[/name_f] instead is the right choice. If he doesn’t agree to changing her first name, then perhaps giving her [name_f]Savannah[/name_f] as a second middle name is a better option which he may agree to instead. This way, if this is all because of postpartum depression or other reason that may cause you to think this way, you can keep the name [name_f]Eliana[/name_f]. If you still don’t feel alright with her name, [name_f]Savannah[/name_f] can be what she goes by instead or what you can call her instead if you truly regret her name. I don’t think changing her name is a big problem in the least. As long as you and your husband love the name and want to change it, then do it. It doesn’t matter what everyone else thinks because she’s not their child and it would be horrible if your daughter grew up with a name you hate. I actually heard a story jut today from a close friend about a name change with her big sister. Her sister’s name was originally [name_f]Helen[/name_f] [name_f]Julia[/name_f], but they decided to change her name to [name_f]Isabella[/name_f] [name_f]Julia[/name_f]. I didn’t judge this negatively because I think that mistakes happen, even in this case. In fact, I think it’s a cool story to share when your daughter is older. Everyone I know would find it a bit cool to have had a different name beforehand.
Best of luck to you, and I hope that whether you end up renaming or keeping your daughter’s name that all goes well.
Wow, I’ve been there, too.
There is no perfect name out there. Neither one of the names will be perfect for your kid - because she is SO perfect and SO amazing that she defies any name in existence to appropriately define her. No name out there is amazing enough, beautiful enough, strong enough, and full of enough potential to properly “fit” her. This is the truth of life.
Knowing that either or any name will always be inadequate for what you feel and for who she is, decide what name will sound better echoing off your family’s walls, written beneath photos, in big kid print on wide-ruled school paper, on her business cards when she is big news, and spoken by her professional colleagues as they say “You need to talk to [name_f]Eliana[/name_f]/[name_f]Savannah[/name_f]/X, she’ll know what to do”,… and go with it. It will become her, and she will make it fit, whatever you decide.
I’m so sorry you are struggling. I went through a similar situation a few months ago with our daughter’s name, and it was agonizing, so I empathize. The best advice I got was that it is absolutely not too late to change it, even if you have announced it or sent an announcement. [name_m]Just[/name_m] announce to everyone, “we thought she was an [name_f]Eliana[/name_f], but she is really a ___” …and it is perfectly fine to tell family you are rethinking it in the meantime. Definitely test out names privately with your husband and don’t feel pressured to make a quick decision! Postpartum hormones made it much, much harder for me to see that some of the names I was reconsidering had been crossed off the list for good reason (though that might not be your experience!)
Other good advice I received was that compromise names often cause regret even though they seem to be the most workable. If you really wanted [name_f]Eleanor[/name_f] or [name_f]Amelia[/name_f], then [name_f]Eliana[/name_f] is sort of both but also a very different style from both as well. [name_f]Eliana[/name_f] [name_f]Joy[/name_f] and [name_m]Elijah[/name_m] are pretty close in sound, so I can see why that would cause you concern and also why it would be appealing to you. (It is certainly not a deal breaker, of course). All the names you are considering are lovely! It sounds like your taste is more classic than your husband’s taste, but it also sounds like he’s open to what you want, so hopefully you guys will work out a great plan for baby girl!
[name_m]Hi[/name_m], I think you should change her name to [name_f]Savannah[/name_f]… or consider [name_f]Susannah[/name_f], which means [name_f]Lily[/name_f] in Hebrew. It’s a graceful name. [name_f]Susannah[/name_f] [name_f]Grace[/name_f] would be pretty.