My twin daughters are now 4 and I’m still regretting one of their names, daily. It’s something I can’t come to terms with! I posted about this a few years ago and here we are in the same predicament. She’s [name_f]Ella[/name_f] [name_f]Emilia[/name_f] and her sister is [name_f]Savanna[/name_f] [name_f]Yasmin[/name_f] (Yas-meen). The thing that bothers me is that there are a million [name_f]Ella[/name_f]'s everywhere we go, the park, the mall, living on our street.
I wanted my girls to be [name_f]Stella[/name_f] and [name_f]Savanna[/name_f] but my husband was not into [name_f]Stella[/name_f] - so we compromised with [name_f]Ella[/name_f]. The girls came early and I think I ended up rushing feeling pressure to name my preemies! Of course she knows her name now and we can’t change that. But - I have a strong desire to change her birth certificate to something longer - that could shorten to [name_f]Ella[/name_f]. I think she will appreciate it when she’s older to have an option for something else not so common and more unique.
Nicknames we call her are Ellaby and Ellabell - but I’m not sure if those are fitting for a proper first name?
If anyone has any suggestions about name ideas I would be so grateful to receive your ideas! Thank you so much Berries!
My six-year-old sister is named [name_f]Ella[/name_f]. I asked her about her name, and she says she knows two other little girls called [name_f]Ella[/name_f] (one is a [name_f]Gabriella[/name_f] who goes by [name_f]Ella[/name_f]) and it doesn’t bother her. She told me, “It doesn’t matter if someone has the same name as you.” And my parents, as far as I know, don’t have any name regret.
I too have baby name regret, she’s only five months old so I feel your pain… I think [name_f]Ella[/name_f] is beautiful!!! I think if you want to add to her name you should do it, especially if it is still bothers you four years later
Ps check out my post, maybe you would make me feel better;)
Once you name a child, they have a name. Period. Changing it a few days, or even a few weeks, after the fact isn’t such a big deal, but four years? No way. That just seems like a violation of your daughter’s autonomy. [name_f]Ella[/name_f] is the only name she’s ever known. All that matters is what she thinks of it – and if she doesn’t like it, then she can pick a new name out herself (with your full support, I hope).
[name_f]Ella[/name_f] is BEAUTIFUL. It’s popular, yes, but it’s classic and elegant, familiar and easy to say/spell, feminine without being frilly, and just lovely. It’s really way too late to go changing her name, she’s four years old. You seem worried that she’ll resent having a common name as she gets older, but there’s no way to know that. The best option would be to wait and see, and if she dislikes it when she’s a teenager you can offer to help her change it and that way she can decide what name suits her once she’s mature enough to make that kind of decision. You never know, she might like her name just fine, or she could be happy just going by her middle name or something. People have lived with popular names all throughout history, it’s hardly the worst thing in the world. Name popularity is also a regional thing and while you might know a lot of Ellas where you live now, she could end up living somewhere else and her name could end up being unusual there.
When I was 4, I didn’t really have a strong ‘connection’ to my name because my nn wasn’t anything like my name, and I don’t like call myself by my name anyways. But I mean I definitely KNEW what my full name was and how to spell it… I don’t know if this is something you would do or not, but did you ever like ask her if she likes her name or would want to possibly change it? Because even if I was 4, I would want to participate in what my name might be changed to. I mean that’s just me. [name_f]Edit[/name_f], I don’t mean to sound rude. But good luck in your situation, whatever happens!
