[name_m]Hi[/name_m], I posted on the siblings forum, but haven’t had any responses yet.
My husband thinks we’re set on the names, but I just don’t know. He really likes [name_u]James[/name_u] and [name_f]Lila[/name_f]. I like these names a lot, but I have a few issues: our last name starts with S. I don’t like that [name_u]James[/name_u] ends in S and runs into the beginning of our last name. I would probably always call him [name_u]Jamie[/name_u], but still. As for [name_f]Lila[/name_f], I like it spelled [name_f]Lilah[/name_f] to avoid pronunciation confusion. It’s [name_f]Lilah[/name_f], like [name_f]Delilah[/name_f]. Husband thinks the H on the end is superfluous. Also, our older son’s name starts with an L. Is it weird to have only 2 of your 3 kids’ names start with the same letter, leaving an odd man out? Lastly, we want to give her the middle name [name_f]Alexandria[/name_f]. That’s a city with very special memories for us. Again, I don’t like how [name_f]Lila[/name_f] ends in the A sound and [name_f]Alexandria[/name_f] begins with it. I also wonder if it’s too sing-songy and hard to say together. Maybe I’m over thinking everything lol. Any advice, and other baby name suggestions are appreciated!
Could [name_u]Jameson[/name_u] work maybe? That would avoid the matching ends?
I do prefer the [name_f]Lila[/name_f] spelling, [name_f]Lyla[/name_f] is my favourite of all.
[name_f]Lila[/name_f] [name_f]Alexandria[/name_f] sounds fine - very pretty actually!
I don’t think it’s weird to have two kids with the same initials - it’s not really a pattern, it’s just two names you loved 
Personally, I think [name_f]Lila[/name_f] & [name_u]James[/name_u] are beautiful together.
I don’t think [name_u]James[/name_u] sounds bad with an S- surname, especially if you call him [name_u]Jamie[/name_u] but also if you don’t.
As for [name_f]Lila[/name_f], I agree with your husband, the -h doesn’t do anything for me. It’s a name you’ll have to comment on anyway ([name_f]Lila[/name_f], [name_f]Lilah[/name_f] or [name_f]Lyla[/name_f]) and I find [name_f]Lila[/name_f] to be the simplest to remember but also the prettiest to look at.
As for [name_f]Lila[/name_f] [name_f]Alexandria[/name_f], it’s very melodic but I actually like it here, two -a endings tend to work better than, say, two -ee endings ([name_f]Sophie[/name_f] [name_f]Rosalie[/name_f]) or two -n endings ([name_u]Logan[/name_u] [name_u]Jameson[/name_u]).
Generally I also think that when it comes to meaningful names, flow and sound shouldn’t be considered (as much); I mean who actually looks at a name and thinks “oh my, [name_f]Clara[/name_f] [name_f]Sophia[/name_f] doesn’t sound good at all with these two -a endings…”, nobody except name nerds would even think about that and out actual number is rather small.
Thank you for your feedback! I feel so much relief after reading your comments! I love [name_u]James[/name_u] and [name_f]Lila[/name_f], but I needed some validation
I really like [name_f]Lila[/name_f] and [name_u]James[/name_u] together too and agree that [name_u]James[/name_u] can still work well with an S last name. Because [name_f]Alexandria[/name_f] is really long, I don’t think the A endings are as noticeable. You could use [name_f]Lillian[/name_f] [name_f]Alexandria[/name_f] or [name_f]Lily[/name_f] [name_f]Alexandria[/name_f] if it really bothers you.
I have an Aunt [name_f]Lila[/name_f] pn. [name_u]Lee[/name_u]-lah, so for me [name_f]Lilah[/name_f] shows me how you want it said.
[name_f]Lila[/name_f] and [name_u]James[/name_u] are lovely together, although I have always pronounced [name_f]Lila[/name_f] like [name_f]Leela[/name_f] - I think [name_f]Lyla[/name_f] is the best spelling for the pronunciation you want. What about calling her [name_f]Delilah[/name_f] and [name_f]Lila[/name_f] for short, that way you get around the matching initials too? I also think the suggestion of [name_u]Jameson[/name_u] is a good idea!
I personally like to avoid matching initials but thats just me and I don’t think it’s weird at all. Also, [name_f]Lila[/name_f] [name_f]Alexandria[/name_f] is a wonderful combo
I really like [name_f]Lila[/name_f] and [name_u]James[/name_u]. I agree with previous posters that the flow of the names with surname and middle are just fine.
As for [name_f]Lila[/name_f]'s spelling and pronunciation, the reality is that when meeting people she will always be introduced with the [name_m]Ly[/name_m]-la sound, and that’s how you’ll always say it, and how she’ll refer to herself too. From time to time maybe it will be said [name_u]Lee[/name_u]-la by a stranger, but it’ll be two seconds to correct that, and I don’t think it’s an unusual name that will need correcting all the time. So I personally wouldn’t worry that much about how you want to say it - you can go ahead and say it just the way you like and that will be her name!
I love [name_u]James[/name_u] and [name_f]Lila[/name_f]! I think [name_u]James[/name_u] S__ is completely fine, as is [name_f]Lila[/name_f] [name_f]Alexandria[/name_f]. I think most people know that [name_f]Lila[/name_f] is pronounced the same as [name_f]Lilah[/name_f], so I agree with your husband that the H is unnecessary. I have two children who’s names both start with an R and we don’t plan on continuing that with our third (and possible forth). I don’t think it’s weird because I know several siblings who’s names are like that. [name_f]Hope[/name_f] you find what works best for you soon!