[name_m]Ive[/name_m] always loved the name [name_m]Miles[/name_m]/[name_m]Myles[/name_m] and was going to name my son this but changed last minute. Now fast forward a year or so and my eldest now has a new (half) brother on dads side and hes called [name_m]Miles[/name_m]. Im now with my husband but still love the name [name_m]Miles[/name_m]/[name_m]Myles[/name_m]. Would it be too much to name a future son [name_m]Myles[/name_m] and in doing so my eldest would have 2 half brothers called [name_m]Miles[/name_m] and [name_m]Myles[/name_m]? She never sees her brother and they live miles (pardon the pun) from us and she even forgets she has this brother unless reminded.
Edit - the boys would in no way be related. Different dads and different mums but they would both be my childs half brothers.
So both boys would have the same father? If so - too close. I’m assuming kids will spend some weekends/holidays with you all. They may have more contact when older too - family events, etc. it’s sad to lose the ability to use a favorite name, but I definitely would not use it.
Nope, different fathers. My eldest child dad has gone on to have 4 more kids, one of which is called miles. My child has nothing to do with that side of the family. Never sees them, never hears from them, nothing
I don’t see a problem here. If the two boys were going to be related and close that woukd be one thing, but there’s absolutely no connection here and [name_m]Miles[/name_m] is a very popular name.
Hmm, I can see the argument here since you never see that side of the family, but yes — I think that’s a little odd and I’d personally be looking for another favourite. [name_m]Miles[/name_m] is lovely, but there are so many other great names out there!
I was so confused at first…It took me an embarrasingly long time to figure out the problem - pregnancy brain is no joke. But no, I don’t think it would be too strange as long as you are comfortable with that. I know a man who has 3 sons (different mothers), and they are all called [name_m]Brian[/name_m].
I think that it is a little odd as the eldest will have two brothers with the same name. The only case where I know of something similar happening was when a family blended and suddenly had two teenage boys named [name_m]John[/name_m]. As you know about the other [name_m]Miles[/name_m] already, I think [name_m]Miles[/name_m] is off the table. Variations like [name_m]Milo[/name_m] could still be contenders.
I wouldn’t use it. I wouldn’t want my oldest to have brothers with the same name or my [name_m]Miles[/name_m] to feel insignificant for not being the only brother [name_m]Miles[/name_m] in his brother’s life. I know you say your son has no relationship with that side of the family. But things may change. I wouldn’t want to count on him having no relationship with his brother in the future. [name_m]Even[/name_m] if your ex never mends his relationship with your son, his other son is your son’s brother and I’d hope someday they could get to know each other.
If [name_m]Miles[/name_m] is the only name that you can love in that enduring way, then do it. But if you feel you’ve got some other names that are close contenders, names that you could truly love, perhaps you could seriously consider them and settle on one of them to avoid the re-use.
I still believe the most important factor of all is that you love the name you chose.
Seems like they are tenuously connected so I don’t think it’s a problem at all.
I have a brother named [name_m]Oliver[/name_m] [name_m]Jacob[/name_m] and a stepbrother named [name_m]Oliver[/name_m] [name_m]Jacob[/name_m] and they’ve grown up together in the same house/family and even that hasn’t been too much of an issue since they have different last names. [name_m]Just[/name_m] kind of a funny coincidence that they have the same first AND middle names and a bit of an odd one to explain to people that I have two brothers with the same name but honestly it’s not really something that feels weird to me so don’t worry.
As I understand it, the original poster has a daughter. The father of the daughter is now w/another woman & they’ve just had a boy that they named [name_m]Miles[/name_m], a half-brother of the daughter on the father’s side. OP is now married to another man & they’re considering using [name_m]Miles[/name_m]/[name_m]Myles[/name_m] for a potential son, who would be a half-brother to the daughter, but on the mother’s side. The two half-brothers aren’t related in any way other than both being half-brothers to the daughter, & there’s no contact between the daughter & her biological father & that branch of the family.
That being the case, [name_f]IMO[/name_f] it’s fine to use [name_m]Miles[/name_m]/[name_m]Myles[/name_m]. If it were me, I’d probably go for the [name_m]Myles[/name_m] spelling to provide some differentiation.
I’d certainly try to find a different name. I understand that not everyone feels this way, but I wouldn’t want my child to have two siblings with the same name, even if those siblings themselves don’t share parents.
[name_m]How[/name_m] about [name_m]Niles[/name_m] or [name_m]Milo[/name_m]?
Or:
[name_u]Lyle[/name_u], [name_m]Silas[/name_m], [name_m]Giles[/name_m], [name_u]Micah[/name_u], [name_u]James[/name_u], [name_u]Elias[/name_u]
Alternatively, if you find a different-sounding first, you could use [name_m]Myles[/name_m] in the middle.
I’d have to say No…
[name_m]Even[/name_m] though she might not see her brother tha much it’s way too easy to get confused, plus it might look strange to your ex…there are plenty of other names to choose from, but it really sucks he picked that name. Maybe [name_m]Milo[/name_m]? Close but not exactly the same?
That’s crazy! I think sometimes we put so much effort in to trying to choose different names for our children, but the reality is that as people get married into families, sometimes it’s unavoidable, and also, generally not a huge deal at all. My mom’s three sisters all married men named [name_u]Michael[/name_u]. My mom married a Mr. Michaels.
I wouldn’t but admit my reasons for not doing so may not apply to you.
First, I love lots of names and don’t have one favorite that I would want to use above all else.
Second, while it probably wouldn’t make a difference to the kids under these circumstances, it would bother me that it could be interpreted that I was copying my EX or couldn’t be more imaginative than to use the same name.
Third, I would not want to think of my EX or his family every time I used my sons name.
It probably wouldn’t be a big deal since the two [name_m]Miles[/name_m]’ wouldn’t meet regularly.
But I would only do it if [name_m]Miles[/name_m] is the only name you can agree on or if you don’t like any other name as much as [name_m]Miles[/name_m].
On the one hand, I wouldn’t want to give my child the same name as my ex did. On the other hand, it might be confusing for your child to have brothers with the same name, even though he wouldn’t be with both of them at the same time. (“I just talked to [name_m]Miles[/name_m].” - “Which one?”)
But no, I don’t think it would be too strange as long as you are comfortable with that. I know a man who has 3 sons (different mothers), and they are all called [name_m]Brian[/name_m].