mw: conversations around gender transition and identity
[name_f]Davina[/name_f] [name_f]Lyndsey[/name_f] [name_m]Eckhart[/name_m] (44) is Ree’s co-parent and fellow mother to their two children: the oldest being twenty-six, whereas the youngest is twenty-one. Having maintained a friendship with [name_f]Ree[/name_f] means a great deal to [name_f]Davina[/name_f], as she’s someone they’ve always trusted and it concerned her that they could drift apart with such changes coming into their lives, in spite of the fact they’d amicably decided to be platonic by the time [name_f]Davina[/name_f] realised her gender identity. The mutual respect they’ve established and continue to maintain is something their children are incredibly happy about, which is what [name_f]Davina[/name_f] and [name_f]Ree[/name_f] call the greatest source of pride for themselves, as their kids always come first.
When [name_f]Davina[/name_f] came out as trans, her family took some time to accept this. They were never hateful or doubted her, but it was obvious there was a lot of shock to ensue after this. As [name_f]Davina[/name_f] was, and still is, athletically inclined, they didn’t see any ‘signs’ of her realisation, and it’s led to her talking more about gender stereotypes with her own children, as she never wants them to feel confined by societal expectations or assumptions.
Being a twin herself, [name_f]Davina[/name_f] knows her brother was the person who took the news hardest, worrying their bond could be lessened by the fact he hadn’t realised what she was going through. Growing up they often got a lot of questions about the ‘twin bond’, and with retrospect agree it got overhyped, to a point where they’d both worry about failing if they didn’t instinctively guess things. They’re non-identical, which they now joked help [name_f]Davina[/name_f] when she began figuring out her new style, and to her relief, her brother and their parents now wholly understand her journey, supporting her with greater confidence now.
Working as a museum exhibit curator, [name_f]Davina[/name_f] shares a love of reading with both of her children, her eldest having studied literature at university, and also obtaining a masters in it. At her place of work, she’s also sought to define safe spaces for marginalised groups, where they can spend time if they feel they’re being stared at, which is something organised by [name_f]Davina[/name_f] and her colleague, who’s nonbinary and a member of the BIPOC community. She’s been someone Tara’s younger child has spoken to a lot and does her best to advise them, however she’s careful to mind [name_f]Tara[/name_f] and her husbands’ boundaries, as [name_f]Davina[/name_f] can see how wonderful they are.