Can I get over my own rule?

[name]One[/name] of my rules for choosing a name for our first child is “no repeating initials”. My first initial is T, DH’s is J.

Problem, one of our favorite names starts with a J, and is quite similar to DH’s name! His name is [name]Justin[/name], the name in question is [name]Jasper[/name]. I wrote it off for a while because of the similar sound and same initials, however I do love the name and the meaning, could do without the Twilight relation but thats ok. I am over that, and cannot get the name out of my head. It is one of the few names I feel connected to.

Would anyone else give up their #1 rule in this case? I label a lot of out stuff with initials so thats one of the reasons why. Two of our other favorites are [name]Silas[/name] and [name]Edmond[/name] (a family name). [name]Both[/name] of which I love equally and for their own reasons.

What to do, what to do.

They have very different feels though. It’s not like you’re naming your daughter [name]Justine[/name] and your son [name]Justice[/name]. I wouldn’t worry about it personally. But if you can’t get past it, what about [name]Casper[/name]?

I would never NOT use a name just because I liked unique first letters for the purposes of labeling things. :slight_smile:

If [name]Jasper[/name] is on your heart and you can’t get it out of your head, then just label Dad’s things with “Dad”.

Well its not [name]JUST[/name] for that purpose lol, thats just one. My husband did say for the labeling he will be dad anyways.

[name]Jasper[/name] hasn’t beat out over [name]Silas[/name] or [name]Edmond[/name], but its up there with them. We aren’t choosing the “final” name until the baby is born, we just want a top 3.

As for [name]Casper[/name], it’s too much of a “friendly ghost” thing for me. I can imagine all the old people making annoying remarks his entire life lol.

I think [name]Silas[/name] is a good middle ground between [name]Jasper[/name] and [name]Edmond[/name]. It’s classic but not common, and has a bit of the trendiness of [name]Jasper[/name] without being too out there.

[name]Do[/name] you already have a MN set? Because [name]Edmond[/name] [name]Jasper[/name] sounds great together!

[name]Edmond[/name] [name]Jasper[/name] HAS crossed my mind, but we had a different name in mind already for [name]Edmond[/name]. Since [name]Edmond[/name] is my grandfather’s name, we were thinking DH’s grandfather’s name (which is also Dh’s his middle name) for the mn spot, [name]Edmond[/name] [name]Glenn[/name]. But it just seems too plain so I am hoping we can switch it up if we decide to name our little baby [name]Eddie[/name].

I don’t have any rules because I don’t see the point in limiting myself, especially when it can knock out a name I truly love (or prevent me from finding a name I really love).
So, I wouldn’t hesitate to repeat initials. Initials aren’t even something I pay attention to (barring the Duggars, haha)
As far as labelling stuff with initials, you could always use a lower case ‘j’ for [name]Jasper[/name] instead, or make one J in printing and one in cursive. Or, it’s not like [name]Justin[/name] and [name]Jasper[/name] will be using similar things where you’ll get confused about whose stuff is whose. I think there are way around this problem. [name]Both[/name] my brothers’ names start with B, my mom used to initial everything when we were kids, and there was very rarely any confusion. The boys know what stuff is theirs, I’m sure your husband will, too.

If you think [name]Jasper[/name] is the one, go for it!

I think using the same initial as one of the parents is totally different than repeating them among your kids (which is fine, but not my thing either). I have the same first initial as my dad and my brother has the same as my mom, just by coincidence, and we honestly never even noticed. They’re always Mom and Dad to the kids anyway :slight_smile: For example:

[name]Rick[/name], [name]Kelly[/name] (parents) and kids [name]Kyle[/name] and [name]Rachel[/name] doesn’t really evoke a matchy feel, while [name]Rick[/name], [name]Kelly[/name], [name]James[/name], and [name]Jessica[/name] does [name]IMO[/name]. Does that make sense?

P.S. I adore [name]Jasper[/name]! I think you should go for it.

[name]Ah[/name] lots to think about! We won’t be deciding until baby is born anyways but I want to over analyze everything before I have my top three. Those three are going to delivery and baby will be named once we meet him (or her, we’ll know soon but I have a him feeling).

I would never repeat the intials of my children but I am [name]Jennifer[/name] and have a [name]Jack[/name] and that never crossed my mind. I dont think you aren’t breaking the rule, maybe just bending.

I also think we sometime talk ourselves out of name we love for reasons that dont matter in the long run since we get so caught up in the “perfect” name and rules. I talked myself out of naming my dd [name]Katherine[/name] nn [name]Kate[/name] since I knew 2 other [name]Jack[/name] and [name]Kate[/name] sibsets and convinced myself it is was too boring and expected. While I do love her name I regret not using [name]Kate[/name] since I think it would suit her better. I think if you cross [name]Jasper[/name] off the list and you truly love it you may regret it later. Good [name]Luck[/name]!