Advice required. An acquaintance/friend of mine…(well, …she’s more friends with some of my old work friends…so we see each other maybe 1-2 times a year with these mutual friends we have…we get a long, but we’ve never spent time just the two of us)…
She had a baby last week and called her my top name for a baby girl.
I’m not due until [name]October[/name]…but it’s my number one for a baby girl (it might be a boy…but I think not)…
Anyway, is it bad form to give my baby the same name? It’s really on a few people who will know both of us…I don’t want to offend her or annoy her…but at the same time, I do love the name! (we’d spell it differently)…
It sounds like she’s not a very close friend, I’d say it’s totally fine to use it. If the name isn’t as common, I could see how I would personally feel hesitant to use it, but would still go for it. Use the name you love!
I definitely think you should use the name you love! As other people said, it’s not as if you’re sisters or best friends, and if you only see her once or twice a year, it’s not as if your children are going to be spending much time together either. It also sounds like you don’t know the sex of your baby, and you could be surprised with a little boy
If you see this person only 2 times a year, there’s a good chance that you may not see her much at all in the future. There’s no reason not to go with the name you love!
If it is the perfect name for your baby then don’t let anyone deter you. I think it’s super important to use the name that YOU love because to your baby you are the most important voice of approval. I went through a time when I was like 8 that I hated being “[name]Eleanor[/name]” because I was a little girl and it was such a grown-up name. My mom always told me: “I love your full name, it is the most romantic & beautiful name ever and I’d never change it”. I think that helped me to accept and embrace it. I [name]LOVE[/name] my name now and I’m really jazzed more parents are choosing it for their daughters (and my nickname “[name]Ellie[/name]” has gotten even MORE popular! [name]Love[/name] it!). Choose the name that is special to you reguardless of what other families are doing.
I think it it completely acceptable to use the name you love. I understand your hesitation though as our next door neighbors named their child a name we are considering for a girl. I first thought we would have to scratch it off our list, but I’ve decided to keep it!
Personally, it would depend on the name. If it’s relatively common, I’d definitely go for it. If it’s very rare, I might hesitate, but the deciding factor would be how much I loved the name.
If you truly love it, use it! If you’re worried about this friend’s reaction, I’d let her know in advance that you’ve decided to use her child’s name and explain why you love it and think it’s a fantastic choice. Great minds think alike?
