Changing my own name, advice please.

Hello all,
Due to intense negative associations with my name, I want to change it… but I have no clue what to pick. Everything I try sounds like I’m lying about my name if I try to use it…But saying my actual name makes me flinch…
[name_m]Even[/name_m] before said negative associations, I always thought my name was too…young and childish? I guess I like more elegant, classic names or names that fit at any age, not just in childhood. I also like names with strong connotations or meanings. For example, my daughter’s name was most popular around 1905 and means ‘lioness’.
Am I allowed to post a photo of myself on these forums, so I can ask for advice of what others think what names would fit? I don’t want to get in trouble.
I’m a female born in '86, btw.

When you say your name is too young and childish, do you mean it is a nickname-y name like [name_f]Lizzie[/name_f] or [name_f]Katie[/name_f]? If so, maybe just choosing a formal name (like [name_f]Elizabeth[/name_f] or [name_f]Katherine[/name_f]) and going by that would do the trick…although that risks people wanting to nickname you the name you don’t like. Hmm. Well, maybe a variation? Like if your current name is [name_f]Lizzie[/name_f] but you don’t want to change to [name_f]Elizabeth[/name_f], then maybe [name_f]Isabelle[/name_f] would work.

Another idea is to ask your parents (if possible, depending on your situation) what other names they considered naming you and picking one of those.

[name_f]Do[/name_f] you have a middle name you like? You could just switch to that, and maybe it won’t feel like you’re lying since it already is a part of your name. For a new middle name, you could pick one of the common fillers (like [name_f]Ann[/name_f], [name_f]Grace[/name_f], [name_f]Rose[/name_f], etc.) or a family name (if you’re on good terms).

I do think it’s a good idea to look at the popularity list of the year you were born to make sure that whatever name you pick seems like a reasonable name for a person of your age. Nobody would suspect that, for example, [name_f]Melissa[/name_f] wasn’t your birth name, but a 32-year-old [name_f]Ophelia[/name_f] might raise some eyebrows.

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I find it funny that my name is actually one of the two that first came to your mind when I said ‘too young and childish’!
And my middle name is on your suggestions for middle names–[name_f]Rose[/name_f].
I’m currently thinking of a more elaborate version of my middle name, like [name_f]Rosalee[/name_f], [name_f]Rosanne[/name_f] or [name_f]Rosanna[/name_f]. I really like [name_f]Rosalee[/name_f], but my last name is pronounced like [name_m]Hale[/name_m], and I don’t want people to think of Twilight…

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Haha, that is funny! I’m psychic!

I think using a longer [name_f]Rose[/name_f] name sounds like a great idea. I agree that [name_f]Rosalee[/name_f] “[name_m]Hale[/name_m]” does sound very Twilight-y, but [name_f]Rosanna[/name_f] “[name_m]Hale[/name_m]” is lovely. [name_f]Rosemary[/name_f] is another one you might want to consider.

Hmm, maybe splitting [name_f]Rosa[/name_f] [name_u]Lee[/name_u] into a first and middle could work, since you’d primarily be known as [name_f]Rosa[/name_f] “[name_m]Hale[/name_m]”?

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What about [name_f]Rosaleen[/name_f] or [name_f]Rosamund[/name_f] instead of [name_f]Rosalee[/name_f]? [name_f]Rosaleen[/name_f] [name_m]Hale[/name_m], [name_f]Rosamund[/name_f] [name_m]Hale[/name_m], [name_f]Rosalina[/name_f] [name_m]Hale[/name_m].
See this site for [name_f]Rose[/name_f] names: Rose Names: Rosalie, Rosemary, Primrose - Appellation Mountain

86s favorites + nicknames:
[name_f]Amanda[/name_f] nn [name_f]Ama[/name_f]
[name_f]Sarah[/name_f] nn [name_f]Sarai[/name_f], [name_f]Sally[/name_f]
[name_f]Meg[/name_f] (inspired by [name_f]Megan[/name_f])
[name_f]Elizabeth[/name_f] nn [name_f]Betty[/name_f]
[name_f]Eliza[/name_f] (inspired by [name_f]Elizabeth[/name_f])
[name_f]Katherine[/name_f] nn [name_f]Kat[/name_f], [name_u]Wren[/name_u], [name_u]Kit[/name_u]
[name_f]Christina[/name_f] nn [name_u]Kit[/name_u]
[name_f]Samantha[/name_f] nn [name_u]Sunny[/name_u], [name_f]Sanna[/name_f]
[name_f]Susanna[/name_f] (inspired by [name_f]Samantha[/name_f])
[name_f]Crystal[/name_f] nn [name_u]Tali[/name_u], [name_f]Gem[/name_f], [name_u]Kit[/name_u]
[name_f]Rebecca[/name_f] nn [name_u]Beck[/name_u], [name_f]Reba[/name_f], [name_u]Red[/name_u]
[name_f]Maria[/name_f] nn [name_f]Mia[/name_f]


[name_f]Rosalind[/name_f]? [name_u]Or[/name_u] [name_f]Rosalinda[/name_f]? [name_f]Rosalyn[/name_f]? [name_f]Rosalina[/name_f]?

(the first one is pronounced with a “rawz” sound but i can still see rose or rosie as a viable nickname.)

edit: crap, sorry for the necro! i didnt realize how old this is