Ok, some of you may remember me…I have the daughter Mhairi [name]Elizabeth[/name] (3 years old) and had our second baby girl [name]Fiona[/name] Lilidh in [name]December[/name]. We are having [name]MAJOR[/name] name remorse and it’s soooo awful. I kept feeling the name would grow on me but she just does not feel like a [name]Fiona[/name]?! I can’t believe it as with our first daughter, Mhairi was just SO natural. We loved it from the start and never questioned so I never ever anticipated this feeling of regret.
My husband and I are both wishing we named her [name]Sadie[/name]! And while many people probably feel the seems boring next to [name]Fiona[/name], we just love the name [name]Sadie[/name] so much…we are not sure if we’re brave enough to go through w/ a name change. People will think we’re nuts! And I guess we kind of are! What I am wondering is what if we changed her name to [name]Fiona[/name] [name]Sadie[/name]…just dropped the Lilidh. Then we could get away w/ calling her by her middle name, lots of people do that. My mom suggested we just call her Lilidh if we don’t like [name]Fiona[/name] but Lilidh doesn’t feel right for her name either. Anyway, honest opinion appreciated. If someone you knew changed their child’s middle name and then started using it, would you think they were raving crazy??
My Great Aunt was called [name]Mollie[/name]. I only ever knew her as [name]Mollie[/name], everyone called her [name]Mollie[/name]. At her funeral i discovered her actual name was [name]Nellie[/name] [name]Mary[/name] [name]Elizabetta[/name] [name]Florence[/name]!!! No mention of [name]Mollie[/name] at all. Apparently her [name]Nan[/name] hated her name and had wanted her to be called [name]Mollie[/name] so she did and over time everyone else did too although it was never ‘offically’ changed?? I think if you both feel this strongly then change it xx
Thank you for that! That’s an interesting story wow And funny b/c [name]Nellie[/name] is one of my fav names too!! ha [name]Molly[/name] is sweet as well. Names are so funny…you think it’s just a word and how can it not suit a child but really, sometimes it just doesn’t suit them!
[name]Sadie[/name] is adorable, and if this is her name you should change it now! I think [name]Sadie[/name] Lilidh is beautiful, but [name]Fiona[/name] [name]Sadie[/name] works too.
@e11aboo: [name]Mollie[/name]/[name]Molly[/name] is an old nickname for [name]Mary[/name], I’m guessing that’s where they got [name]Mollie[/name] from in her name.
@lavendyr: [name]Fiona[/name] [name]Sadie[/name] going by [name]Sadie[/name] could work well. I don’t think people will think you’re nuts changing her name, just explain it to them that [name]Sadie[/name] was one of your other options and you think she fits it better. They’ll get used to it, she’s only three months old. I’m not sure [name]Sadie[/name] Lilidh has the best flow (assuming Lilidh is pronounced like [name]Lily[/name]) but it’s your daughter’s name, it’s got to feel right for you.
I have tried saying [name]Fifi[/name], [name]Fee[/name], [name]Fia[/name]…etc…none feel right either. It is possible that it will grow on me but I am scared if it doesn’t then I will always regret it…I wanted her to be [name]Sadie[/name] but my husband said [name]Fiona[/name] and even though I didn’t want it a the time, I just thought well, it’s just my exhaustion/emotions and it will grow on me. But it isn’t. I think [name]Fiona[/name] is a beautiful name! It was in my top 3 going to the hospital…but it just doesn’t feel like her name?? I feel so awful even feeling this way! I think the only way we could be brave enough to change her name is go w/ [name]Fiona[/name] [name]Sadie[/name]. that way if down the road she was angry at us, she could still use [name]Fiona[/name] if she preferred it.
I have an aunt that goes by her nickname, mostly among family members. Her close friends and others call her by her given name. My grandfather thought he had given her one name and they started going by that nickname. It was not until they got her birth certificate they found out it was the name that my grandmother had originally given her. Confusing, right?
Until a few years ago, I always thought my Grannie’s name was F___ (it was her middle name). Her children, grandchildren, in-law–all called her F___. I think it was her 80th birthday, I found out it was L___. Lol, it was shocking because I never really liked that name, and was glad I was never opinionated with my other paternal-family members of that name. So any who, long story short, I think it’s fine and somewhat normal to call a child by their middle name. I have heard it among class mates as well.
My paternal-grandfather, who I never met, was called M___. Oddly enough, his given name were initials, even more strange–his initials has nothing to do with the name they called him.
With my rambling, I hoped it helped you, even if was a tiny bit.
It does help…thank you!! ahah ANything helps at this point as I feel SO torn. Mainly between what I truly want to do and my fear of what others will think…silly but true.
I should add that I wouldn’t even give it a second thought if [name]Sadie[/name] was already her middle name. But her middle name is Lilidh…which we don’t like for a first.
Change it, you don’t want to spend your life wishing you had chosen a different name. People will probably balk at first but in time they’ll forget she was ever [name]Fiona[/name] and she’ll have a name you and your husband feel suits her. However you get to it, [name]Sadie[/name] she is
Maybe its just that [name]Fiona[/name] is a hard name to picture on a baby, any baby at all. A toddler is different, but it just doesn’t feel like a baby name to me. Are there any adorable nicknames you could call her for a while? They don’t even have to be related to her name. Because I don’t really like [name]Fifi[/name], [name]Fia[/name], [name]Fee[/name] or anything. [name]Just[/name] something cute, like [name]Sonny[/name] or something. I just saw the -on- in her name and [name]Sonny[/name] popped in to my head. (I actually put it into my own name list because I liked it) Something like that.
So funny you suggest [name]Sonny[/name] as they have a sweet little two year old cousin named [name]Sonny[/name]…love the name but obviously could never steal. But that is a good idea, maybe that’s the issue…it’s too grown up feeling or something? I [name]LOVE[/name] names that end in that ie/y type sound…and I’ve been having a hard time coming up with anything like that for [name]Fiona[/name]. I love the sound of [name]Sadie[/name]…but maybe I will try and do a little brainstorming tonight to see if I can come up w/ anything creative for a nickname to hold us over until maybe she grew up more?? But if not, then switching to [name]Sadie[/name] haha Lesson here…ALWAYS trust your gut even on the delivery table!
If I think of anything I will let you know. Maybe you could ask for nicknames from the berries on here? They always come up with SO much I would never think of.
Go ahead and change it. She’s only three months and has likely only met close friends and family, what will be difficult is three years down the road when shes at nursery school and her name is established and you still want to change it. I don’t see the point of calling someone by their second name, their first should be the name you love and want to use.
Well my husband also loves [name]Fiona[/name] and we are considering it for our girl due this summer! I do love [name]Sadie[/name] as well though and share your enthusiasm for that -ee sound at the end of names. I think you should change her name if you really think [name]Sadie[/name] suits her better. I might think it was odd at first if someone changed their child’s name, but I’d quickly get over it and then it’s just her name. You need to love your little girl’s name in the end.
Honestly, I think Facebook makes it the worst. Majority of our relatives live across contry.she’s only met very close family in person but of course it’s been announced on FB that her name is [name]Fiona[/name] Lilidh
What about borrowing the ending sound in [name]Fiona[/name], “Na,” the the -lee ending in Lilidh? That’s essentially [name]Nellie[/name]. Does she look like a [name]Nellie[/name]?
I’ll be up front in saying that (if you were a friend of mine) I would think changing her name to be odd. [name]Do[/name] you feel, with 100% certainty, that changing her name is essential? [name]Will[/name] you feel the same about [name]Sadie[/name] in three months time? If so, now is the time to get the ball rolling. Unfortunately time won’t do you any favors in this case, as I believe the longer you wait the greater of a reaction you could get from family members or friends. After all, they’ve been bonding with her as [name]Fiona[/name] for the past three months. Explain to them how you feel and hope they understand. If they have a difficult time doing so, remind them that she is your child and you ultimately have the final say. All I hope is that you know with 100% certainty that this is the best decision for your daughter and your family. If you’re having any doubts whatsoever don’t do it.
