Hello berries. I have been experiencing name regret on and off since I named my son back in 2008. He’s 4 now. His name is [name]Chase[/name]. I do like the name [name]Chase[/name] (and there is a last name [name]Chase[/name] in my DH’s family), but I am so conflicted, especially since my [name]MIL[/name] and a few other family members said from the start that they did not like it. I wanted to name my son [name]Charles[/name] after my father and grandfather, and nn him [name]Chase[/name], but my DH refused to use a nn. I did not want my son to go by [name]Charles[/name], and I wasn’t sure about [name]Charlie[/name]. So… in the end, I went with [name]Chase[/name] to honor both sides of the family, thinking that the “Cha” sound would be a reference to [name]Charles[/name]. Since then, my aunt (dad’s sister) has mentioned that she couldn’t believe I named my son [name]Chase[/name] and not [name]Charles[/name]. Also, both my father and grandfather are deceased, and I missed my chance to tell at least my grandfather that I named my son after him. I am just so torn up inside about it, but my husband says he really likes the name [name]Chase[/name], that he likes it more every day. I have thought about changing my son’s legal name to [name]Charles[/name] and use nn [name]Chase[/name] despite my DH’s protest. I have also thought about the chance of having another baby and naming him [name]Charles[/name] or [name]Anthony[/name] (also my father and other grandfather’s name). But would a sibset of [name]Alyssa[/name], [name]Chase[/name], and [name]Charlie[/name] be weird? Also, who knows if I am even having another baby and if it would be a boy. Anyway… just experiencing some name regret. Didn’t think it would last this long. I have been a name lover since a young girl, and I guess I just take names very seriously, and now that I got the chance to name a boy, I feel like I made a mistake. I don’t know. Maybe it’s not that important to honor a relative with a name. SO CONFUSED. 
Your thoughts?
I think [name]Chase[/name] works fine as a way to honor [name]Charles[/name]. After all, it is only different by two letters. If you don’t like [name]Charles[/name], and never intend to call him [name]Charles[/name], then why change it? [name]Chase[/name] and [name]Charlie[/name] go fine together, but you might want to consider honoring other family if you have another boy since your intention with [name]Chase[/name] was to honor your father and grandfather. I don’t think it is all that necessary to honor family with your child’s name. It is nice, to be sure, but sometimes you can honor a family member better by remembering what they taught you and passing that on to your child. I have 3 [name]David[/name]'s and 2 [name]John[/name]'s in my family and I am somewhat tempted to use [name]David[/name] as a middle name if I have another boy, but then I would leave my FIL out, so I will probably just stick to different names. I considered [name]David[/name] as a first name, but [name]Christmas[/name] is already confusing enough without me adding to it 
Sorry, all of that was just to say that I think you did a nice job of honoring your family while still giving your son his own name, and a name that you and your husband like. That is not always an easy task 
Thank you whit32, I definitely appreciate the vote of confidence & your compassion. I do like the name Charles, but don’t loooove it. Your post helps.