@erzulie33/[name]Shoshana[/name] - I think it’s great that you share your experience with your name frequently mispronounced, and that it’s not that big a deal. I think by trying to approach the naming process by attempting to eliminate all sorts of trouble bounds you to a smaller set of very bland names. My name has been mispronounced, my last name quite a bit more often, but I do not understand what the big deal is - what people call you and what they think about your name… you can really not offer so much protection and come up with the perfect name. So what if it’s more popular or becomes more popular or some people pronounce it one way or another, or it’s kind of unusual so we have to be careful if it’s too unusual, people will say it wrong.
I love names. I f-word love the huge variety of names. I wouldn’t pick a lot of them but I adore meeting people with unusual names from other countries that just don’t get used a lot and the pleasure people have when falling in love with a name they love, that’s a huge gift, the longest lasting decision most people make, and some people obviously make mistakes with it, so you want to be so sure nothing will ever detract from your child’s experience of having this name. The people who need to know the name will learn what it is after they are corrected. I also think it’s important to respect people may have an accent. [name]Anais[/name] is [name]Ah[/name]-nah-eese, but if you meet someone whose language is different, they will do the best they can. A couple years ago, I worked with two women named [name]Mari[/name]. One was MAHR-ee, and the other one pronounced it like [name]Marie[/name]. They were both from other countries, different countries, Dominican Republic and Greece. You think they didn’t get called [name]Mary[/name] all the time, or do you think I or most Americans can duplicate the accent that sounds like they each call themselves? The Latina [name]Mari[/name] has sons [name]Nicholas[/name] and [name]David[/name], which she says different than the rest of us. NEE-ko-lahth and Dah-VEED, and nobody whose first language isn’t Spanish goes out of their way to pronounce their names like that. I went to grade school with a [name]Terri[/name] (don’t know how she’s doing now for an example), who had to correct everyone that her name was not [name]Terry[/name], it was pronounced Tuh-[name]REE[/name], and oh my stars if you called her Tree. That’s not a good way to send a little one off either.
So basically, if people are not French enough to get [name]Anais[/name], then your daughter can correct them. If they associate the name with ‘anus’, who is the stupid one, huh? If people fell apart every time their name was messed with accidentally or on purpose, that wouldn’t be a really good way to travel through life. To deny beautiful names you love because you think kids are too cruel is so over-protective. To deny beautiful names you love just because there might be confusion is really overstating a minor problem.
Anyone who has a major problem with how their name is pronounced isn’t really going to be a strong person overall. [name]Just[/name] because a lot of people might be too ignorant to pronounce [name]Anais[/name] correctly on the first try is not a good enough reason to lower things to their speed.