My husband and I are having an impossible time trying to name our third child. We don’t know the sex and I am due in 7 weeks.
We both have had one name per sex that we liked - but all have been vetoed by the other - and the one name we both liked is too “out there” that we can’t being ourselves to burden our child with it. As strong, majestic and historical as it is 
Now we are just completely STUCK. We are both picky and neither of us at this point have any suggestions whatsoever.
Is it naive to think that it’s okay to wait until after the birth and that a name will just “come to us?”
We decided thats what we would do, but due date is getting closer and I’m starting to panic a little bit…
Anybody else been in this situation?
I’ve never experienced this situation, but there are probably plenty of other parents in your shoes right now. You might want to brush up on naming laws in your area just to see if there’s any requirement to name the baby before a certain time. That way you don’t get to the hospital and feel pressured to pick out a name before you’re discharged, and end up settling on something you don’t really love.
It might be a good idea to compile a short list (or a long list) of names to run through at the hospital after the delivery, that way you’re not just working off of memory. Maybe then you can find one that stands out to you once you can finally see your baby. Good luck!
Put together a small list of first names only, and when you meet your lovely newborn, spend some time seeing which names just feels RIGHT to say. Then you can choose a middle name with full confidence that the first name is something you both love. I think in your situation, I would avoid thinking of names in terms of combinations first, because that can actually make it more stressful when trying to decide.
my 2nd girl came a month early and i was on this site picking a new name in the hospital! it’s a little stressful but if you have it narrowed down it will come to you. i had been deciding between a few decidedly winter-themed middles prior going into labor… before winter began. so i had it narrowed down to 2 firsts, but came back to the drawing board for a new middle.
so, its a little aniety-inducing, but if you’re unsure it may be worth it.
Okay my idea for you guys is to make a list of names you guys like - even if it’s only one of you. Another idea might be thinking of names to do with your life/relationship. Eg. was your first date at a restaurant called [name_m]Giuseppe[/name_m]‘s? Are you fans of [name_m]Oscar[/name_m] Wilde etc. etc. Either way if you are not naming the baby before you need a list. Or else its’ going to be full on panic.
Thank you for the responses.
I am going to work on trying to compile some names, no matter how small or meh of a list.
I will make another post with the names we have liked and ruled out and maybe get some ideas.
I know this is a bit of a late reply but I just stumbled across your post…
We were in the same situation when we expected our second and we thought we would just know when we met her…!
Turns out, we didn’t. We tried lots of different names out when we met her, settled on a name ([name_f]Florence[/name_f]) then felt that wasn’t right… Then settled on another ([name_f]Alba[/name_f]!) and put that on the birth registry. At 6 weeks old it still didn’t feel like her name and a name popped into our heads that we had never considered. She has been [name_f]Zoe[/name_f] ever since!
I wish I had been more prepared for that situation as it was very stressful and also embarrassing keeping telling people we had changed her name - not to mention getting personalised cards and gifts! [name_m]Ah[/name_m]!
We’re hoping for a third and this time I will make sure I’m certain before I announce!
The best advice I think sometimes is to stop looking… There’s only a certain number of names that will work for you and you’ve probably already found the perfect one xx