We are going in for a scheduled c section tomorrow for our first daughter. (Have a 18 month old son)
Started to worry about our name choice “[name_f]Sharon[/name_f] [name_u]Gray[/name_u]”. [name_u]Gray[/name_u] is a family name. [name_f]Sharon[/name_f] was my mothers name. She passed (very unexpectedly) about 15 years ago. (Name was my wife’s idea, and I love her for suggesting it). Our last name is monosyllabic, alliterative with ‘[name_f]Sharon[/name_f]’. We plan on calling her [name_u]Gray[/name_u].
I’d always worried gray was too masculine, but also find it cute and charming for a little (likely) red headed girl. While I would live to honor my dear mother, I feared naming her [name_f]Sharon[/name_f] might stir painful memories in my family, but tempered this by reminding myself that she would rarely actually be called ‘[name_f]Sharon[/name_f]’, unless she preferred it when she was older.
Maybe it’s last minute jitters, but I’m starting to question our choice. I’d love to hear objective opinions.
Our second choice used to be [name_f]Clara[/name_f] [name_f]Jane[/name_f] – Calling her [name_f]Clara[/name_f]. ([name_f]Jane[/name_f] was my mothers middle name. )
[name_f]Clara[/name_f] [name_f]Jane[/name_f] is gorgeous! [name_f]Sharon[/name_f] [name_u]Gray[/name_u] has nothing compared to [name_f]Clara[/name_f] [name_f]Jane[/name_f]! Good luck!
[name_f]Clara[/name_f] [name_f]Jane[/name_f] is much better! I like [name_f]Sharon[/name_f], but I’d prob’ly put it in the middle spot, esp. w/an alliterative surname.
Often honoring someone by naming a child after them alleviates some of the grief, so that shouldn’t be a concern (not that I know your family situation though). It’s a lovely idea, but I would have to consider the alliteration of "sh’ sound, as it tends to be a little more difficult that say alliterate “t” names regardless of whether it is in the fn or mn position.
So with that I think [name_f]Clara[/name_f] [name_f]Jane[/name_f] or [name_f]Clara[/name_f] [name_u]Gray[/name_u] would be lovely, preferring [name_f]Clara[/name_f] [name_f]Jane[/name_f] as it still works to directly honor your mother specifically.
I much prefer [name_f]Clara[/name_f] as a first name. I like both [name_f]Clara[/name_f] [name_f]Jane[/name_f] and [name_f]Clara[/name_f] [name_f]Sharon[/name_f].
I am really not a fan of naming a child something that you don’t intend on calling them. My husband is known almost exclusively by his middle name and he hates it. It has given him headaches for years from big things to little things…for example one time at a bar a waiter would not give him his credit card back after running it. He asked “what’s your name?”, my husband answered “[name_m]Tim[/name_m]” (because that’s what he goes by) and the waiter says “oh well it says [name_m]John[/name_m] on the card, you must be lying” [name_m]Just[/name_m] stupid stuff like that; it gets very annoying for him. I’ve heard him make sarcastic remarks to his mother along the lines of “It’s a really good idea to name a kid something and then never call them that”…obviously sarcastic.
So as you can see, my advice would be to not name your daughter [name_f]Sharon[/name_f] [name_u]Gray[/name_u] and then plan on calling her [name_u]Gray[/name_u] 99% of the time. It will most likely lead to unnecessary confusion.
But you have a great alternative in [name_f]Clara[/name_f] [name_f]Jane[/name_f]/[name_f]Sharon[/name_f]!
I think [name_f]Clara[/name_f] [name_f]Jane[/name_f] is more versatile, but I love the meaning behind [name_f]Sharon[/name_f] [name_u]Grey[/name_u]. I think if I were in your shoes I would use [name_f]Sharon[/name_f] [name_u]Grey[/name_u], or as another poster suggested [name_f]Clara[/name_f] [name_f]Sharon[/name_f].
I would use [name_f]Clara[/name_f] [name_f]Jane[/name_f] - because both names are wonderful. One name for honouring, and another name because you just like it is the perfect combo [name_f]IMO[/name_f]. [name_f]Sharon[/name_f] and [name_u]Gray[/name_u] are both NMS, but I understand wanting to honour.
[name_f]Clara[/name_f] [name_f]Jane[/name_f] as no. 1, or [name_f]Clara[/name_f] [name_f]Sharon[/name_f].
I think your daughter would love to be known as [name_f]Clara[/name_f] and have an honoring name in the middle.
I’m going to break the trend here… I love [name_f]Sharon[/name_f] [name_u]Gray[/name_u]. I love the contrast of the old-fashioned/dated and clunky fn, and the sleek, modern, unisex mn. They flow very nicely together. And it’s really sweet honouring your mother obviously, but not obnoxiously. I can’t say anything on calling her by her mn mostly, as I have no experience at all with that. What ever you do, it will be great! All the best…
I like [name_f]Sharon[/name_f] [name_u]Gray[/name_u] also. I have met one woman named [name_u]Gray[/name_u] and she was lovely. [name_u]Early[/name_u] 20’s, very pretty. A nice modern choice.
I vote [name_f]Sharon[/name_f] [name_u]Grey[/name_u] too. This name is completely awesome. I’m not personally a fan of [name_f]Clara[/name_f], it’s so… girly. Most people seem to like really feminine names but I’m not a fan, I wants something more than just being a princess for the world’s little girls. I used to have [name_f]Jane[/name_f] as a middle and personally disliked it. I had a first name I hated… and then [name_f]Jane[/name_f]. [name_f]Jane[/name_f] is very… lackluster for me. It has little personality and doesn’t lend itself well to being used as a first… I think it’s good for kids to have options
[name_f]Sharon[/name_f] [name_u]Grey[/name_u] is a great name to grow up with. [name_u]Grey[/name_u] is a spunky every day name, while [name_f]Sharon[/name_f] is something no-nonsense that I feel would look good on a resume.I like the family connections with this name too, it’s a beautiful thing.
Good luck with your birth. Wishing you a speedy recovery
[name_f]Clara[/name_f] [name_f]Jane[/name_f]. All my kids have family middles which I love. My older daughter does also have a family first ([name_f]India[/name_f]) but it’s my great grandmother so there’s a little bit of seperation.
I have a friend who calls her first son by his middle name. It’s only been a couple years but she regrets that they didn’t put that name in the first spot since it’s confusing on paperwork.
Also, I have another friend with a 3 year old [name_m]Christian[/name_m]. She’s been asked if she named him after [name_m]Christian[/name_m] [name_u]Grey[/name_u] from the 50 Shades book. She didn’t and is a little offended by the question. I can only imagine how much worse it would be to be asked (or teased) about that name as a girl. With the movie coming out, I think the reference will be more common.
Best wishes! You don’t have to pick a name right away. We waited two days on #4 and only dropped off the paperwork as we were literally walking out of the hospital! Wait and see what fits your daughter best.
I too love [name_f]Clara[/name_f] [name_f]Jane[/name_f] but at the end of the day personal meaning trumps popularity. I think you’ll find they most berries would vote for [name_f]Clara[/name_f] over [name_f]Sharon[/name_f] as [name_f]Sharon[/name_f] is not trendy at the moment and many may consider it a little dated. I personally would use [name_f]Jane[/name_f] to honour your mother instead of [name_f]Sharon[/name_f] as it is a classic name that will never go out of style. I’m also not much of a grey fan even though there’s lots of people out there who love it . Maybe as a nn for [name_f]Grace[/name_f]/[name_f]Gracie[/name_f]? At the end if the day you have to make the decision with your heart and not worry about others opinions… Everyone has a different opinion but it’s YOUR daughter good luck…
I prefer [name_f]Clara[/name_f] [name_f]Jane[/name_f], [name_f]Clara[/name_f] [name_f]Sharon[/name_f] or [name_u]Grey[/name_u] [name_f]Sharon[/name_f]. Best of luck!
[name_f]Sharon[/name_f] [name_u]Gray[/name_u] or [name_f]Clara[/name_f] [name_f]Jane[/name_f]…I love [name_u]Grey[/name_u] or [name_u]Gray[/name_u] as a nickname for either a girl or a boy.
names to choose from:
[name_f]Clara[/name_f]
[name_u]Gray[/name_u]
[name_f]Sharon[/name_f]
[name_f]Jane[/name_f]
If [name_u]Gray[/name_u], [name_f]Sharon[/name_f], and [name_f]Jane[/name_f] all of ties to family, I would eliminate [name_f]Clara[/name_f] to narrow the list down.
if you are going to call her [name_u]Gray[/name_u] and avoid Addressing her as [name_f]Sharon[/name_f], then I would not use [name_f]Sharon[/name_f] as her given name.
[name_u]Gray[/name_u] is a very attractive name and easy to spell and say.
have you considered two middle names?
[name_f]Jana[/name_f]-[name_u]Gray[/name_u] ( [name_f]JANNAH[/name_f] ) is adorable, honors your moms middle and is hyphenated so calling her just [name_u]Gray[/name_u] would be fine.
[name_f]Jana[/name_f]-[name_u]Gray[/name_u] [name_f]Sharon[/name_f] could work depending on what the surname sounds like.
Ooh, just realised (you may have already) but steer clear of [name_f]Jane[/name_f] [name_u]Gray[/name_u]/[name_u]Gray[/name_u] [name_f]Jane[/name_f] whatever you do - Lady [name_f]Jane[/name_f] [name_u]Grey[/name_u] had a very unhappy end!!
