who has had to compromise on their name? I feel like I’m giving up the names that I love to find one we both agree on. But then I don’t want him to settle for a name he doesn’t like to make me happy either.
Does everyone do this to find one that both parents like?
Pretty much either you give in or use one you both don’t hate.
I’m sorry, that’s a really sucky situation. =\
I know this might be a risky compromise, but what if you each got to choose one name (first or middle) for this child and then switched for the next child?
Or you could do one child’s full name, and have him pick the other. I wouldn’t recommend that, though, because if your styles are as different as I’m thinking they are, you’ll both be walking around hating one of your children’s names forever.
A third possible option (especially if this child will be the only one) would be to give the baby a first and two middles. One of you could pick the first, and the other would have reign over both middles. That way, there’s plenty of name/nn calling options for both of you. One would have the main/first spot, but the other would also get a good deal by getting to pick the middles.
I’m sorry if these solutions are unrealistic, I’ve never been in a situation like this before. I’m just throwing things out there. It would be truly devastating to me if I couldn’t use the names I’ve been dreaming about on my children.
I really hope it works out for you. Keep us updated if possible! Maybe give us a list of names you like and some he likes, so we could possibly give you suggestions (never too late to find a name you both are crazy about)!
This is tough. I struggle too.
Being a name nerd my whole life, I’ve basically been curating my favourites for years, only to tell your spouse your favourite name and get a shoulder shrug or a “no”. It can be devastating for us name lovers who are passionate about names.
I have lucked out so far though. The name I have my heart set on he did not agree with at first, but over the last few months it is growing on him and he now really likes it. Not sure if some time and thought will help but I lucked out and it has helped for me.
This is exactly my predicament at the moment too 
Last night my other half said just name it what you want and I felt awful so in my mind it’s back to the drawing board, afterall this is the name we will be using for the rest of our lives, he has to like it too. It’s like digging for a diamond in a mine full of coal!
Thanks everyone! You have been a great help I really appreciate it.
At this stage we’re working on finding s compromise. A name we both equally like. We both agree these are ok:
[name_f]Indi[/name_f]
[name_f]Cora[/name_f]
[name_u]Quinn[/name_u]
I like [name_f]Cora[/name_f] the best & he loves it. But he is hesitant as he has a friend with a baby with that name already. Hopefully I can out his mind at ease.
Otherwise he loves [name_u]Quinn[/name_u]. I’m not sold but can see it working. And we both like [name_f]Indi[/name_f] although we have the same concerns that it was really popular here 5 yrs ago and might we a bit out of date now.
Alternatively, I adore the name [name_f]Nadia[/name_f] (which he doesn’t) and he loves [name_u]Jean[/name_u]. We could call her [name_f]Nadia[/name_f] [name_u]Jean[/name_u] but I would prefer if we could find a name we both like instead.
So fingers crossed! 
thanks again for everyone’s advice!
This is really hard. When I was pregnant with my daughter, my husband and I just couldn’t agree and it caused me a lot of anxiety. He loved [name_f]Mila[/name_f] and I loved [name_f]Grace[/name_f]. I don’t know what happened, but when I was about 36 weeks, I woke up one day and I completely loved the name [name_f]Mila[/name_f]. I mean… I always liked it, but it just didn’t feel like her name until I was about 36 weeks. Her name is [name_f]Mila[/name_f] [name_f]Grace[/name_f], which I completely adore and suits her perfectly. Believe me when I say that you will find something perfect that you both love. [name_m]Even[/name_m] if you don’t love a name right now, who knows how you’ll feel about it in a few weeks (and vice versa for your husband). Names do grow on people!!!
I actually lost sleep over the whole naming process, I was so worried we’d continue to disagree and she wouldn’t have a name for weeks, or that we’d both have to settle for a name that we just thought was OK.
You’ll find something perfect and never look back xx
I feel for you! I think it’s a common issue unfortunately. One parent could always choose the first name and the other chooses the middle name, perhaps?
That’s great, @pippa09! I’m happy to hear things are working out. [name_f]Cora[/name_f] is so pretty, and at this point, if you both love it, don’t let anything stop you, lol!
I wish you the best!
The names on your compromise list are lovely. I especially like [name_f]Cora[/name_f] and [name_f]Nadia[/name_f]. Gorgeous!
[name_f]Nadia[/name_f] [name_u]Jean[/name_u] (adorable! btw) brings to mind [name_f]Nadine[/name_f]. [name_m]Even[/name_m] more of a stretch, [name_f]Diana[/name_f] is an anagram of [name_f]Nadia[/name_f]. And [name_f]Cora[/name_f] brings to mind [name_f]Coraline[/name_f] and [name_f]Coralie[/name_f].
Good luck finding that special name for your little one.
Yes I’ve been through that. I ended up using a name he didn’t love and I felt SO guilty. Because he told our friends once “it’s not a name I would have chosen” But she’s two now and he loves her name. So thank goodness for that! I’m glad I got a name I wanted but if I could go back I would have tried to compromise more.
Thank you so much everyone. I really appreciate your help! We have decided to go with [name_u]Quinn[/name_u] it wasn’t a name that was originally on either of our lists but we’ve both compromised and have found a name that makes us both happy
Now we just need a middle name to match. I want something really feminine and pretty seeing as it’s a unisex first name. I like [name_u]Quinn[/name_u] [name_f]Aria[/name_f]. But if anyone has any suggestions I’d love to hear them!
Thanks again x