We just got back from our honeymoon and we met another married couple who both have the same name [name]Ryan[/name] (they spell it differently though). We ended up in a discussion about couples that have same names. Apparently they know a couple that both have the name [name]Kelly[/name].
My husband knows a couple at work whose names are very close, [name]Lauren[/name] (male) and [name]Laura[/name] (female).
Also there was the whole celebrity [name]Taylor[/name] Swift and [name]Taylor[/name] Lautner thing, but that didn’t last.
So it got me wondering, would you avoid using a name if this situation could happen to your child in the future? Would you be able to date someone who shares the same name as you?
My sister’s name is [name]Kristen[/name] but she has always been called [name]Kris[/name]. Her partners name is [name]Chris[/name]. So we have [name]Kris[/name] and [name]Chris[/name] it gets really confusing and I find it weird but she says it doesn’t bother her.
I wouldn’t date a man named [name]Jasmine[/name] (my name) and I have never heard of a boy being called [name]Jasmine[/name], although these days nothing would surprise me. I avoid names that are commonly used as unisex names because my [name]MIL[/name] is a teacher and she has told me how confused she gets having a [name]Jessica[/name], a [name]Jess[/name] and 3 [name]Jessie[/name]'s in her class (3 girls 2 boys). I wouldn’t want my daughter to be confused with a boy or my son with a girl.
Hmm. I would find it strange to date someone with my name (mainly because I’ve never met anyone else with my name ever). But I know a [name]Thomas[/name], who is married to a [name]Thomas[/name], and they don’t find it weird. So, you can try to avoid all unisex names and names with unisex nicknames, but you never know who your child will want to date.
That’s a good point ottillie!
I don’t think it would be a big deal to date someone with the same/a similar name…and with so many unisex names now, I think it would be difficult and fairly pointless to eliminate a name for fear of your child’s future partner having the same name.
I [name]DO[/name] admit that it would be very confusing though!
PS. Congrats on your marriage and honeymoon! [name]How[/name] exciting!
If you choose a not so common unisex name like [name]Spencer[/name] I think the chances of girl [name]Spencer[/name] dating boy [name]Spencer[/name] might be lower than for girl [name]Isabella[/name] to date girl [name]Isabella[/name].
It is kind of weird to date someone with the same name, but might even be funny. Wouldn’t keep me from dating that person.
My kids have unisex names. I still highly doubt they’ll end up dating people named [name]Oakley[/name] or [name]Greer[/name]. Of course, the likelihood of this happening increases if they decide they like the same gender, haha. It’s sort of an “oh well” situation. If it happens, it happens. You can’t change it, and it certainly wouldn’t deter me from dating that person.
[name]One[/name] of my housemates at uni was named [name]Alexandra[/name], eventually she ended up going out with our friend [name]Alexander[/name]. [name]Alex[/name] and [name]Alex[/name], lol. They’ve been together for years now. We used to call them Boy [name]Alex[/name] and Girl [name]Alex[/name].
I’m unlikely to meet a boy called [name]Ren[/name] in [name]England[/name] but I think it’d be strange to go out with a [name]Ben[/name] or a [name]Ken[/name] or something that rhymed with my name!
There was a story a few years back about a man and a woman both named [name]Kelly[/name] Hildebrandt who met on facebook (because they shared the same name) and later got married. It didn’t bother them, they just went by boy [name]Kelly[/name] and girl [name]Kelly[/name] apparently.
I also know a couple named [name]Christina[/name] and [name]Christopher[/name] who both go by [name]Chris[/name], and a female [name]Kelly[/name] [name]Wilson[/name] who married a guy named [name]Mike[/name] [name]Kelly[/name], so she would have been [name]Kelly[/name] [name]Kelly[/name] lol. She hyphenated her last name though.
I don’t think there are any guys out there named [name]Kaitlin[/name] but I might find it a little weird to date someone with the same name, I think if they were a great person I would get over it though.
My husband and I don’t say our first names to each other, so in everyday life it wouldn’t be that weird. The only time it would come up would be with casual acquaintances, close friends and family could tell by context.
Interesting, funny, sure… conversation starter… but in the end not that ‘weird.’
In my my neighborhood growing up, we had couple named [name]Terri[/name] and [name]Terry[/name]! I always thought that was pretty amusing
My name is unisex and is also a common surname. I never dated anyone with my name as a first or a last name, but I think it would be much weirder if I married someone whose last name is the same as my first name. For example…this is not my name, but similar style…if my name was [name]Carter[/name], I could potentially become [name]Carter[/name] [name]Carter[/name] by marriage.
But I don’t think you should worry about that when naming your baby. I wouldn’t mind dating someone with the same name as me, and if I had happened to marry someone whose last name was my first name, I would just keep my maiden name (I actually kept my maiden name anyway).
If I had a unisex name I wouldn’t care. It’s not their fault or my family we have the same name, just happened to be that way. It’s a silly reason to not be with someone you care about.
Me and my husband are [name]Tim[/name] and [name]Kim[/name].
I know a man named [name]Kim[/name] as well, so it was possible.
I think it would be a bit weird, but honestly if you find somebody you really connect with and enjoy, letting something as superficial as a name get in the way would be pretty crazy.
My dad’s name is [name]Robert[/name] and his sister married a [name]Robert[/name]. We spend Christmases and/or Thanksgivings and my grandparents’ (their parents) house and its extremely confusing! Neither go by [name]Rob[/name]/[name]Bob[/name]/[name]Bert[/name]/ect so its just [name]Robert[/name]
We often go “[name]Robert[/name]” “No, my [name]Robert[/name]!” which doesn’t clarify things exactly, lol.
It wouldn’t bother me if they had the same name as me (Although I’m an [name]Isabel[/name]…sooo not many boy Isabels I know of). I do think its more common for gay couples to have the same name then straight couples, just because there are so many Jennifers and Michaels, that the Jordans and Kellys don’t exactly add up, despite the low gay population.
And I also agree that it’d be a lot weirder to date someone with the name of a brother/dad. I’ll probably have to deal with that, since [name]Thomas[/name] and [name]Robert[/name] are pretty common for teens, but its weird thinking about.
I’d think it would be a little weird, but it wouldn’t stop me from dating someone. It would just end up being something to laugh about.
It certainly isn’t something I’d think about when naming a baby–that way lies madness…Sure, [name]Bailey[/name] might meet a [name]Bailey[/name], but also: We can’t name her [name]Jill[/name], she might want to marry [name]Bill[/name]. Can’t name him [name]George[/name], what if he loves a [name]Georgia[/name]? [name]Clinton[/name] might grow up to meet a girl named [name]Hilary[/name]…
I think if it is something that bothers you, it’s a reason for choosing very gender specific names. But that’s no guarantee, especially with boys’ names. Can’t say I’d be totally shocked if I ever met a little girl named [name]James[/name], or [name]Peter[/name], or [name]George[/name].
My Mom is friends with a [name]Lesley[/name], married to a [name]Leslie[/name]. [name]Both[/name] him & her go by [name]Les[/name]. I find it completely confusing!
I wouldn’t consider a unisex name for that and many other reasons, for either a boy or a girl. They just don’t work for me.
It wouldn’t be something I would worry about when naming my child, like others have said what you won’t know for sure who your child will date so I wouldn’t worry about them maybe dating someone with the same name. Dating someone with my name would be weird but I would get over it.
My aunt dated someone with her daughters name, they aren’t together now but not for that reason.
Growing up, there was a couple down the street named [name]Carmen[/name] and [name]Carmen[/name]. I thought it was sort of weird when I was younger, but I suppose if you meet the person you want to spend your life with, their name doesn’t matter too much. Actually, meeting someone who shares the same name as my sibling would be a little too weird now that I think about it. I suppose in situations like this you could hopefully think of a nickname or something.
I don’t know how someone could avoid this by choosing a different name for their child. Many names are unisex, or becoming unisex, or there’s a chance that someone in the world may name their daughter [name]Jeff[/name], or son [name]Lucy[/name]. Also if your child is gay, then there’s even more chance they will find someone with the same name as them, so I really don’t see how a situation like that could be prevented just by choosing a different name.
Also yes about [name]Chris[/name], and [name]Kris[/name]. A traditionally masculine name, and a traditionally feminine name can even share the exact same nickname, so actually with all these scenarios, I find it a little strange that this doesn’t happen more once we actually think about it haha.
Thanks for all the congratulations! It seems the majority of you wouldn’t mind dating someone with the same name. I honestly can’t say for sure what my opinion would be since I’m married and we have different names of course.
As for a future child, I’m not a fan of unisex names or surnames as first names at all so I don’t know if my children will ever have that problem unless more boy names end up going to girls or they choose to date the same sex. I think the chance is very slim and not worth worrying over. I was just curious as to what you berries thought It seems some of you would take it into account, while others think it’s not worth worrying over.
I dated an [name]Alexander[/name] once. It was [name]Alexandra[/name] and [name]Alexander[/name]. or [name]Lexie[/name] and [name]Alex[/name]. It was a little odd and luckily never that serious though I did wonder if we would have to name our children, [name]Alex[/name], [name]Sandra[/name], [name]Sasha[/name] and [name]Alexis[/name]. lol.
