See the results of this poll: What do you think?!
Respondents: 63 (This poll is closed)
- No, not ok : 33 (52%)
- Yes, ok as long as you spell it Mollie : 8 (13%)
- Yes, totally fine!: 22 (35%)
I’m guessing you don’t like the nn [name_f]Maggie[/name_f]? or [name_f]Nolie[/name_f], [name_f]Lola[/name_f]?
I think it’s fine since you don’t see each other that often as well as the fact that her real name is [name_f]Magnolia[/name_f], and I think that’s the only thing that really counts. But I do think it’d be a bit weird for your [name_f]MIL[/name_f], and possible the cousin since that’s her name. For christmas presents you could just put [name_f]Magnolia[/name_f] in the tags.
I would say go for [name_f]Magnolia[/name_f] but call her [name_f]Lola[/name_f].
Personally, I think it would be ok if you only ever SPOKE to them 2-3 times a year but you wrote them into your will, they are obviously very close to you so I feel like you should just call her [name_f]Magnolia[/name_f] and not use [name_f]Mollie[/name_f] as a nickname.
But if a nickname is a must, there are so many other beautiful name options. [name_f]Maggie[/name_f], [name_f]Nola[/name_f], [name_f]Lola[/name_f], [name_f]Mimi[/name_f]
[name_f]Magnolia[/name_f] is very different from [name_f]Molly[/name_f]. I agree with a pp that you can just call her [name_f]Magnolia[/name_f] whilst around [name_f]Molly[/name_f] 
Problem solved.
I don’t think it’s a big deal to have two Mollys. I prefer [name_f]Maggie[/name_f] but [name_f]Molly[/name_f] could work.
I agree with relica–if you only spoke to these people a couple of times a year and weren’t very close, it wouldn’t be that weird. Her full name would be [name_f]Magnolia[/name_f].
However, considering they are so important to you, I think it’d be a bit odd to use [name_f]Magnolia[/name_f], which already has so many other possible nicknames, and then intentionally choose a nickname for it that isn’t really intuitive and is already your niece’s name, especially since neither [name_f]Molly[/name_f] nor [name_f]Magnolia[/name_f] are that insanely popular to begin with. I don’t really think using [name_f]Mollie[/name_f] instead of [name_f]Molly[/name_f] would make too much of a difference as the confusion would probably begin with someone being misunderstood while speaking, and not in writing.
It would be akin to having your daughter’s godparents having a child named [name_u]Reese[/name_u], and then naming your daughter [name_f]Larissa[/name_f] with the intention of calling her [name_u]Reese[/name_u].
If it is very important to you to use [name_f]Magnolia[/name_f], I think you should use it. It’s beautiful, and your little one might not look like she needs a nickname (or she might be more of a [name_f]Nola[/name_f], or [name_f]Maggie[/name_f], or [name_f]Lola[/name_f], or [name_f]Lia[/name_f]…) But I would consider only using [name_f]Molly[/name_f] at home, or talking to your [name_m]SIL[/name_m] and [name_m]BIL[/name_m] first (or maybe even [name_f]Molly[/name_f], if she’s old enough to understand). They might love the idea, but honestly I think I would be a little annoyed. If so, [name_f]Magnolia[/name_f] can always go in the middle.
I’m confused. [name_m]How[/name_m] is seeing your niece 2-3 times a year not considered often? I know it’s not the same as seeing her regularly (daily, weekly, monthly), but when I think of not often, I measure it in years. [name_f]Magnolia[/name_f] has so many better options than [name_f]Mollie[/name_f]. Why not choose another option for a nickname? It just seems like you’re creating unnecessary confusion.
Personally, I wouldn’t be comfortable with it but that’s because I’ve hated sharing my name my whole life. The good thing about [name_f]Magnolia[/name_f] is that there are quite a few nickname options for her if she decides sharing [name_f]Molly[/name_f] is a big deal.
I’d use the nickname [name_f]Maggie[/name_f], it’s super cute!
I think it would be fine but not preferable to me. Some people do have double standards about male vs female names though so I’d definitely check in with how your relatives feel about it. Especially your niece if she’s old enough to have an opinion.
We have a lot of doubles on my dad’s side so we sometimes differentiate with middle names. And I went to school wth step sisters who were both Caroline and in the same grade. They went by last names (which were both short) at school and fn/mn at home.
I think I would call your daughter Magnolia in front of her cousin just to avoid confusion as for one girl it’s her actual name and the other it would be a nickname. It can’t be too hard to avoid the nickname for 2-3 times a year and if it makes everyone more comfortable, I think it’s worth it.
Also food for thought: Molly and mommy sound very similar and I speak from experience when I say it can be tough to distinguish who is being spoken to when it’s noisy.
Go for it!
This exactly. 
Absolutely fine. I know quite a few cousins who have the exact same name so I wouldn’t give it a second thought.
In my husbands family, my mils brother is called [name_u]Michael[/name_u]. My husbands middle name is [name_u]Michael[/name_u], his younger brothers first name is [name_u]Michael[/name_u], he has 2 cousins, from 2 different aunts/uncles, who’s first name is also [name_u]Michael[/name_u]. They differentiate by surname. As in [name_u]Michael[/name_u] O’[name_m]Connor[/name_m]/[name_u]Michael[/name_u] [name_m]Hughes[/name_m]/[name_u]Michael[/name_u] [name_u]Casey[/name_u], for example.
If her first name is going to be [name_f]Magnolia[/name_f], cards etc could be signed using her full name. And when talking to your mil, you could use her full name too. And pet name between you. P
It wouldn’t be a choice I would personally make. And quite honestly, I prefer the nickname [name_f]Maggie[/name_f] to [name_f]Molly[/name_f] anyway. [name_m]Eli[/name_m], [name_f]Rosie[/name_f], & [name_f]Maggie[/name_f] make a perfect sibset! In my opinion, [name_f]Maggie[/name_f] has the same throwback vintage quality as [name_f]Rosie[/name_f], and shares the same “ie” ending without having to change the traditional way [name_f]Molly[/name_f] is spelled.
However, if you do choose to go with [name_f]Molly[/name_f] / [name_f]Mollie[/name_f], I would just refer to your daughter as [name_f]Magnolia[/name_f] around family as a previous poster suggested.
I think it’s too much. Too similar. [name_m]Mannie[/name_m] maybe?
I think it’s a bit too close, and I also think [name_f]Molly[/name_f] is a bit of a stretch from [name_f]Magnolia[/name_f] anyway. I would just call her by her full name, which some people seem to forget is not a crime, the whole world doesn’t have to have a nickname.
I think it is totally fine. It is only her NN, not her full names. I don’t think you should worry.
I don’t think it would be a problem, seeing as it would just be her nn that’s close to her cousin’s name. I’m assuming she would be called [name_f]Magnolia[/name_f] more or as much as [name_f]Mollie[/name_f], as that’s the name you love.
I think it would be fine, she may choose to go by a different name later on in life and as people have said before family can always use the full name on presents (I know that’s what my husband’s family does with my niece [name_f]Sophia[/name_f] though there is only one of her name, but she goes by [name_f]Sophie[/name_f]). As long as they don’t share a middle too! My husband has the same exact name as his cousin (first middle and last) born two years after him (they forgot about him, because there are over 100 cousins and they never see each other) but they went to the same school and it was a mess. So as long as there is something to tell them apart like [name_f]Mollie[/name_f] just being a nickname, I don’t see a problem.