[name_f]Do[/name_f] you do this? Either off the list completely, or just for real children?
I love a couple of girl combinations where the initials are unfortunate (BJ), and I’m finding it hard to see past!
How much do you let initials influence your choices? Does it vary based on if it’s for a boy/girl?
Thanks 
Mostly initials don’t influence my choices much (except that I love the nickname AJ and like a lot of other initial based nicknames), although if the set of initials spells something especially unfortunate and/or vulgar, then I’d get rid of the combo, yeah.
I think girl initials matter more 
they seem to use them more. Id avoid something I considered bad but most initials are fine.
I think I’d still use a BJ name if it was my absolute favourite, but if I was deciding between a few top contenders that would probably count as a strike against. I’d avoid really teasable words as initials — swear words or toilet humour type stuff — but I don’t avoid all initials that spell a word. I’ve even heard of people with cool nicknames from their initials, like ZAP or BEE.
Please don’t worry about this one as much. My mom and my nephew both have the initials BJ and have no issues with it. My mom has never had people look at her initials all these years and make comments on what they could possibly stand for (although my uncle did bring it up once or twice in the 1970s, but not since then – though my mom knew he was joking around as that was his personality and it was done in private). My nephew, though still young, has not had anyone make comments on his initials to his parents either.
When kids are young, they won’t understand the significance of the initials. When they are older, these kids will already know the child with these initials and will think of them as their friends and classmates, not the sum of their initials. When these children grow up and go out in the world, they usually don’t introduce themselves by their full names (FN MI LN or FN MN LN), but by their preferred name and last name. By the time their new friends get to know their full name, they will know them enough to not look at the initials above the person that bears them. I’ll leave you with one more thought.
On a side note, I will be avoiding initials that spell out curse words or words that can be construed as curse words — i.e. with an S surname, I’d avoid a FN MN combo that begins with A S (A$$). Otherwise, I’m not too particular about initials.
I do think initial are an important thing to take into consideration. [name_f]My[/name_f] example is always my sister. In middle school th art teacher came up with a project- everyone had to turn their initials into a piece of art. It was then as a teenager she learned her initials were STD.
However that being said Inthink when it’s only two letters then that’s significantly less important to weigh as they won’t really be that implicating.
Also I actually don’t find BJ to be that offensive and actually not at all. It seems like a initial combo that is familiar as a name not a sexual suggestion. It falls in line with the AJ, CJ, TJ, DJ, JJ (add BJ to theline and I actually personally know someone with each of those combos. although I’ve also heard of EJ and MJ so really BJ is fine.
I generally do not pay attention to initals. I have only ever used my FN/LN and these are the only initals I tend to look at when looking at names.
As long as they don’t have to inital swear/bathroom words/acronyms I don’t worry about it. I think BJ is fine, I personally wouldn’t do BM though.
In most cases, initials aren’t a big deal to me, but with a K last name and a preference for double middles, I have to be careful to avoid swears - one of my combos did get thrown out because the initials spelled C.O.C.K. >_>
I was mildly irritated after the fact that the first three initials of my daughters name are N.F.L. (because I hate football), but I honestly didn’t even realize it until we were making shirts for the grandparents with their grandchildren’s handprints and initials on them. And it’s not enough to give me name regret.
I guess if you make initial stuff, it does make difference, but even when somebody introduces themself as [name_f]Beatrice[/name_f] [name_f]Jane[/name_f] (example) you won’t see BJ, you’ll see [name_f]Beatrice[/name_f] [name_f]Jane[/name_f].