[name_f]Do[/name_f] sibling names have to match? Should they match? I’m not talking like [name_f]Alice[/name_f], [name_m]Charles[/name_m], and Kynzlee or something odd like that. Like more vintage names and maybe a more modern sounding one?
From my own experience of having a name that doesn’t match my siblings (I have a modern word name ([name_f]Ebony[/name_f]), my sister has a very old fashioned name thats currently trendy ([name_f]Adele[/name_f]) and my brother has a biblical classic name ([name_m]Isaac[/name_m])) and it’s never been an issue if people comment on our names it’s that they all start with vowels, I only dislike because my name has dated while a name like my brothers and sisters never will since [name_f]Adele[/name_f]'s never been popular and [name_m]Isaac[/name_m] always has.
I wouldn’t say so. Our list for girls is very modern - [name_u]Kennedy[/name_u], [name_u]Skylar[/name_u], [name_f]Jayla[/name_f], etc. and our list for boys is more classic, with a few modern names - [name_m]Walter[/name_m], [name_u]Brayden[/name_u], [name_m]Aaron[/name_m].
If we were to name a sibling set with our top names, it’d likely be something along the lines of [name_u]Kennedy[/name_u], [name_m]Aaron[/name_m] and [name_f]Jayla[/name_f] or [name_f]Serenity[/name_f], [name_u]Makenzie[/name_u] and [name_m]Aaron[/name_m]. I think it’s far more important to just choose names that you like than worry about whether or not they match.
My S/O’s siblings names don’t all match stylistically, one has a much more modern name, the older two have biblical classics and one has a trendy 90s choice. I guess for the most part they do match, but not entirely. My sister and I both have trendy 90s names, and our names do “match” I suppose, but it wasn’t planned. We were very nearly [name_u]Haley[/name_u] and [name_f]Lillian[/name_f] or [name_u]Haley[/name_u] and [name_f]Charlotte[/name_f].
I prefer they sound good together, but not necessarily match… if you know what I mean. Like I have no problem naming my kids [name_f]Catherine[/name_f] and [name_u]Harper[/name_u], but maybe not [name_f]Catherine[/name_f] and Khynszleigh.
I personally do not feel they need to totally match. I like for them to sound nice with each other…and that is in the eye of the beholder. I personally would avoid sibling names that are very different in style, like naming daughters [name_f]Sophia[/name_f] and [name_u]Emerson[/name_u]. In my opinion [name_f]Sophia[/name_f] and [name_u]Emerson[/name_u] make a great sister and brother set but as sisters sounds like they were named by two different parents.
Adding, I would also assume a [name_f]Sophia[/name_f] and [name_u]Emerson[/name_u] were a sister and brother. I am most likely not the only one who would assume this. This could cause embarrassment or an ackward situation for both parents and children.
I agree. The only thing I would avoid is pairing a super classic or vintage name with a seriously modern name. But I do think there are exceptions. I know a family friend who has four kids: the two oldest were born close together and both have very modern names, the two youngest were born a few years later, her style changed, and they have vintage names. [name_f]Do[/name_f] the four names ‘match’? No, not really. They don’t even really go well together. But she loved the names, so it works for her. So it will definitely be a personal preference.
Personally, for me, it is as quoted above. “They need to sound nice with each other.” I think [name_m]Declan[/name_m] and [name_m]Henry[/name_m] sounds nice as brother names, but someone else may think it’s a terrible clash of trendy and classic. It’s all quite a funny case when you think about those people who just name their kids whatever name they happened to come across that they liked. Meanwhile, we over here take it so seriously, casting out names we love for one random reason or another. I think thought and care and significant meaning behind a name are more important than matching styles.
Thanks for the responses! I like some vintage names and some of a modern(ish) style. So thanks!
Sometimes, the matching factor could be that they dont match, if that makes sense. I say use names you like, or you’ll limit yourselves if you try to have them matching.
I would personally try to avoid having two of the same style and one different. I’d have all of them different.
Aside from avoiding names that are way to similar ([name_m]Christopher[/name_m] and [name_m]Christian[/name_m]; [name_f]Molly[/name_f] and [name_f]Holly[/name_f]; etc.) I don’t think it really matters how sibling names “go together.” Unless they’re twins, sibling names are rarely said as a group. So to answer your question I wouldn’t have a problem with [name_f]Alice[/name_f], [name_m]Henry[/name_m], and [name_u]Everly[/name_u] being siblings.
I think it’s nice if they match/sound good together, but it doesn’t really matter. For me it’s just something else to overthink while I’m waiting to have kids lol. To be honest, similarity is the only thing I’d really try to avoid with siblings, but stylistically I don’t care as long as I love the names. [name_m]Even[/name_m] other sibsets, if I like/love all the names, I’ll love the sibset (even if the don’t go that well together), but if I’m not a fan of them individually, I find I’m more critical of how well the names go together too.
I definitely feel this way, too. @myosotis summed it up beautifully. I have a glaring double standard when it comes to sibsets.
My very very top two names for girls at this point are names that people frequently tell me don’t go well together. They don’t clash horribly but one far “outshines” the other. Only time will tell if I follow my gut or if I make a concession and switch it to the middle spot for the sake of having a more cohesive sibset.
It doesn’t really matter, no. I think you can go too far in the matchy direction - I knew a brother and sister named [name_u]Murray[/name_u] and [name_f]Mary[/name_f] and everyone who knew them thought it was ridiculous. And some people go pretty far in the other direction. I know an international family here with children named [name_f]Sophie[/name_f] and Þorsteinn (not their real names but stylistically similar), which I always thought was a bit weird as they are SO different. But at the end of the day you spend most of your life apart from your siblings, plus names are not what makes a family a family. It’s fun to think about and personally I do want my children’s names to have a shared style and ‘feel’ (as I judge it - of course it’s subjective) but you shouldn’t stress it if you want to use a certain name but are worried that it doesn’t ‘match’ an older sibling’s name.
I worry more about names being too similar than too different. As long as your kids’ names aren’t so similar that saying their names in order is a tongue twister, style doesn’t really matter. I see nothing wrong with [name_f]Matilda[/name_f], [name_f]Sybil[/name_f], and [name_u]Finley[/name_u] for example. If it were [name_f]Myrtle[/name_f], [name_f]Ernestine[/name_f], and [name_m]Jett[/name_m], I’d be a little more surprised, but ultimately I still don’t think it matters.
Some people have a really specific taste, others like a wide variety of names from different times and places. If you’re in the latter category, why limit yourself?