I really dislike nicknames for the most part. If we absolutely felt she needed a nick name we would go for [name]Tilda[/name] or [name]Tilly[/name]. My daughter thinks [name]Tildy[/name] or Matildy are cute as well. (Matildy a just for fun kinda nick name lol)
We truly dislike the name [name]Mattie[/name] though and that’s the biggest stressor of using this name. We could introdue her early on as [name]Matilda[/name] or [name]Tilly[/name] for short or correct people. But I know from experience some people don’t listen to correction. I’m a [name]Samantha[/name] who prefers [name]Samantha[/name] and can stand [name]Sammy[/name] but hates [name]Sam[/name]. I get called [name]Sam[/name] daily though.
[name]Do[/name] you think though in This day and age, she might be able to avoid nick names all together and just be a lil [name]Matilda[/name]
Personally I love [name]Mattie[/name]… but to each her own! If it were me, I would feel it is too risky to use a name where I really don’t like one of the obvious nicknames. You cannot control what your child likes or what get’s said at school.
Unless you ONLY called her [name]Tilly[/name], and not even [name]Matilda[/name] on a regular basis, I think it is risky.
I think as long as you offer the “nicknamer” types something shorter it will probably stick. [name]Tildie[/name], [name]Tillie[/name] or [name]Millie[/name] all seem just as intuitive to me as [name]Mattie[/name]. I think [name]Millie[/name] would come to mind first cause I associate [name]Mattie[/name] ([name]Maddie[/name]) with [name]Madison[/name].
Of course, you never know, she might end up choosing to go by [name]Mattie[/name] one day. If it really makes you crazy maybe you should pick a different name.
I have a daughter [name]Matilda[/name], she’s 13 months now and she goes only by [name]Matilda[/name]. I’m not a big nickname person and like you if I really felt she needed a nickname I’d probably just go with [name]Tilda[/name], because its the closest to [name]Matilda[/name].
Anyway, I don’t think [name]Mattie[/name] is unavoidable at all.
I have had a few people ask me “oh, do you call her [name]Mattie[/name]?” and I say no, just [name]Matilda[/name]. Most people don’t even ask and just call her [name]Matilda[/name] after I introduce her as [name]Matilda[/name]. I don’t think [name]Matilda[/name] to [name]Mattie[/name] is as unavoidable as [name]Samantha[/name] to [name]Sam[/name]. I do know that some day in the future maybe [name]Matilda[/name] will decide she doesn’t like [name]Matilda[/name] and wants to be called [name]Mattie[/name], things like that you can’t predict, and I’d be okay with it if it were her choice. But at least so far we have succeeded in having a [name]Matilda[/name] without a nickname.
I have a little [name]Matilda[/name],… I love her name so much that we call her by her full name most of the time but she also gets [name]Tildie[/name] and [name]Tilly[/name]… I can see her growing into [name]Tilda[/name]!! I have had two friends (out of 50 or so) who began calling her [name]Mattie[/name]/[name]Maddy[/name] and as soon as they did I said ‘we call her [name]Tilly[/name] for short’…and that was it! [name]Tilly[/name] is as intuitive for [name]Matilda[/name] as [name]Mattie[/name], and if you correct people…I don’t think there will be an issue at all!
I suggest if you really want to stop people from calling you [name]Sam[/name] (or you potential daughter [name]Mattie[/name]) don’t respond when they call you [name]Sam[/name]. [name]Ever[/name]. (of course, don’t ignore help cries, and that sort of things).
[name]Tilly[/name] is more intuitive to me than [name]Mattie[/name]. I think that as long as the nickname option is there ([name]Tilly[/name] in this case), people will use it and won’t be as tempted to create their own.
I honestly didn’t know that [name]Mattie[/name] was a nickname for [name]Matilda[/name] until I became more interested in the name a few months ago. When you say [name]Matilda[/name] to me (or anyone I know), I would assume that she would go by [name]Tilly[/name]. [name]Just[/name] introduce her as [name]Matilda[/name] or [name]Tilly[/name] and people should call her that. Besides, you shouldn’t not use a name because it may have a nickname you don’t like. You can’t control that sort of thing - your daughter’s friends may all call her [name]Mattie[/name], and she herself may love [name]Mattie[/name] when she’s older and introduce herself as [name]Mattie[/name] anyway. If you like the name enough just use it and when people ask you her name, just say [name]Matilda[/name]
I know a [name]Matilda[/name] and I’ve only ever heard her called [name]Matilda[/name], [name]Tilda[/name] or [name]Tilly[/name]. I also think it depends on the child, she may just grow up to be a [name]Mattie[/name] and prefer that you just never know!
I actually don’t [name]Mattie[/name] would be the #1 nickname people would go for with [name]Matilda[/name], I really think [name]Tillie[/name] or [name]Tilda[/name] are more obvious, and things people would probably call her.
I think it’s avoidable to a certain extent. You can introduce her with the nickname you like and people will follow suit. Once she’s in school though, she might want to switch it up! I’m in the same boat, I love a name but dislike the common nicknames so I will be introducing her with a nickname I enjoy to family and friends!
I know (of) two Matildas - one goes by [name]Matty[/name], the other [name]Tilda[/name]. The one that goes by [name]Matty[/name] uses her full name quite a bit though, while [name]Tilda[/name] goes by [name]Tilda[/name] almost exclusively. I think [name]Tilly[/name] and [name]Tilda[/name] are just as intuitive as [name]Matty[/name]/[name]Mattie[/name], if not more, and [name]Milly[/name] is a good option that isn’t too much of a stretch either. It’s definitely avoidable, but I think you’d need to choose an alternative nickname, so you can reinforce it before she starts school and other kids call her [name]Matty[/name]. If they hear you saying “Bye, [name]Tilly[/name]” in the playground in the morning they’ll call her [name]Tilly[/name] as a nickname, or whatever you choose to use.
I understand your pain it is awful to introduce yourself by your first name only to have that person immediately and without asking call you by a nickname. It urked me so much that I decided to use my middle name.
In your case I would introduce the baby as [name]Matilda[/name] and make it known that her nn is [name]Tilly[/name] and I would make a strong point of it to anyone who oversteps the mark and calls her [name]Mattie[/name], it is so annoying.
I really think that any nickname is avoidable if you want it to be. My sister’s name is [name]Mary[/name] [name]Catherine[/name]…not M.C., not [name]Mary[/name], not [name]Mary[/name] [name]Kate[/name]…[name]Mary[/name] [name]Catherine[/name]. [name]Every[/name] time someone called her something other than [name]Mary[/name] [name]Catherine[/name] she or a family member would correct them and eventually everyone who knew her knew what she wanted to be called.
I think if you want a little [name]Matilda[/name], then that is exactly what you will have. If someone calls her [name]Mattie[/name] just say “we prefer [name]Matilda[/name]” and I can’t imagine anyone would go against your wishes.
If you introduce her as “[name]Matilda[/name]” and people then call her “mattie” just correct them.
However, be warned that its possible your daughter herself might want to be called “[name]Mattie[/name]”. This may never happen. But if you honestly cannot stand even the thought that she might ask you one day to only call her [name]Mattie[/name]…then perhaps the name isn’t for you.
Hmm…
I live in the UK, where I live [name]Matilda[/name] is used frequently and the only nickname used for the various of [name]Matilda[/name]'s I know is [name]Tilly[/name] or [name]Tilda[/name]. [name]Mattie[/name] is never used as this nickname is associated with [name]Matthew[/name]. Thus people do not associate the masculine choice of [name]Mattie[/name] with [name]Matilda[/name] unless it’s thrust upon them. For example the child is introduced as [name]Matilda[/name] but people call her [name]Mattie[/name]. Otherwise all the [name]Matilda[/name]'s I know are [name]Tilly[/name] or [name]Tilda[/name]. Maybe it’s different where your from but where I am that would be the natural nickname choice. Like [name]Evie[/name] is the natural nickname for [name]Evangeline[/name] and [name]Angie[/name] is for [name]Angelica[/name].
My mind goes to [name]Tillie[/name] first, actually. [name]Tilda[/name]?
[name]Mattie[/name] wouldn’t pop up for me I think because of [name]Maddie[/name] via [name]Madeleine[/name]/[name]Madelyn[/name]/etc.
ETA: I think my brain goes to the stressed syllable for nicknames. I say Matilda muh-TILL-duh, so the “til” pops out as the nickname source. This vs. MAD-uh-lin which shortens to Maddie.
Funny, I’ve had this same thought when we were considering [name]Matilda[/name]. I love [name]Matilda[/name] and anything in the [name]Tillie[/name], [name]Tilda[/name], [name]Tildie[/name] vein, but really dislike [name]Mattie[/name]. Also don’t like that it lumps it into the [name]Madison[/name]/[name]Madeline[/name]/etc group.
[name]Glad[/name] to hear that many think avoiding [name]Mattie[/name] is definitely possible!
