[name_m]Hi[/name_m]! Settling down with a name is harder than I thought! We have been through so much together during our relationship, he lost his mother, an accident that should have killed me and probably him too, a house fire, a cancer scare that turned out to be a very rare tumor on my uterus that my oncologist had only seen 3 times before in his 35 year career among many other chaotic things. Thus the name [name_f]Eris[/name_f], the goddess of chaos. I wanted a name to go with, that would honor his mother and I stumbled across [name_f]Alana[/name_f] which means harmony. Her name was [name_f]Leola[/name_f] [name_f]Ann[/name_f] but everyone called her [name_f]Lana[/name_f]. So babies name would be [name_f]Eris[/name_f] [name_f]Alana[/name_f]. Chaos and harmony. Is this too much, too weird, too much meaning? Another problem is that our nephew, who spends every other weekend and summers with us is named [name_m]Aaron[/name_m] and our niece’s middle name is [name_f]Eliana[/name_f]. Are we not branching out enough? We are also thinking of [name_f]Anna[/name_f] [name_f]Leola[/name_f] and maybe [name_f]Katy[/name_f] [name_u]Leigh[/name_u](my mom is [name_f]Kathy[/name_f] [name_u]Leigh[/name_u] and my mn is [name_u]Leigh[/name_u]), both of which we also love, but there is just something about [name_f]Eris[/name_f], I think it is our nerdy side poking out. We love that it comes from greek mythology as well as being a planet 
Also , not sure of the gender, we want to be surprised but strongly feel it is a girl. But if we are wrong, he will be [name_m]Thomas[/name_m] [name_m]Jason[/name_m]. Thanks 
I hope you don’t take this the wrong way, but I feel like you’re the customer that walks into a tattoo shop and wants to fit every big life event into one little tattoo…except even more extreme because tattoos don’t then become their own little person with their own identity with feelings about how your choices affect them, wondering what the heck their supposed to do with all that…
I think it’s too much, and a little overbearing. It’s wonderful to put thought and personal meaning into your child’s name, but maybe not so much of your own personal self? I’m not sure if I’m making sense. It’s about on par with giving your child a really heavy virtue name or like naming your child after the place they were conceived. They don’t want to walk around with all that very personal information about their parents…especially when it’s a unique name that invites people to go “why did your parents name you that?” or with a name that feels like it comes with great expectations and puts pressure on a kid.
That is just my opinion though. Believe me, I almost used a name that I loved, that also referenced my daughter’s place of conception, and then went “uuhhhh….no, no. I can’t do that…” So I understand that bit of crazy yearning to commemorate events with your child’s name.
That aside though, I would not name my child after the greek goddess of chaos and strife. That’s like…giving your child a vice name. [name_m]Even[/name_m] if it comes with good intentions and is balanced by her middle name’s meaning, which is also a bit much. Kind of like giving your child a name combo that equals Sad / [name_f]Happy[/name_f]. Less of an issue, more a personal I wouldn’t.
[name_f]Eris[/name_f] is a bit close to [name_m]Aaron[/name_m]. You / whoever else may get mixed up, but I don’t think it’s a huge issue. I’d probably branch out further, but I hear similar names in families all the time.
Would you consider a name that meant new or beginning or awakening or strength? Something to signify the triumph of an arduous journey, rather than the arduous journey? There are also a lot of really neat myth and astronomy names out there that might click with you.
I think [name_f]Anna[/name_f] [name_f]Leola[/name_f] is lovely. I also love [name_f]Leola[/name_f]. If you’re really attached to [name_f]Eris[/name_f], what about [name_f]Leola[/name_f] [name_f]Eris[/name_f]?
Sorry if any of this sounded harsh/rude!