I’ve been thinking about the names of my kids since I can remember! That made it alll the more frusterating when everyone I loved, hubby shot down. I’m willing to compromise, and I at least have 1 boy name and 1 girl name picked out for our first baby. Its going to be tough once we have another though since it took so long to agree on these ones!
I have one name in particular I absolutely love. it has a slight sentimental meaning to me, but is not a family name. He said absolutely not to it…not even a maybe! I just can’t let this name go, but of course, I’d never name my child something that my husband didnt agree on.
Have any of you had success in convincing your husband your name is a good choice or had your husband change his mind on his own about a name?
Well with mine, I just keep pestering him and reminding him that I have to push it out. That alone has made him say he’ll at least think about it. So not sure, but I’m keeping all my favorites and then make the final decision when we actually have the baby. I think once he says the baby he isn’t going to care at all what it’s name is. Also since we still have a couple years to go before even thinking about having one, he’ll have that time to also get used to the idea.
I’ve convinced my SO to names before.
It usually goes like this:
Me: What about this name?
Him: No/not a fan.
Me: What?! Why?
Him: -gives a less than solid reason-
Me: Oh c’mon, think about out awesome/dashing/cool/great it sounds with this middle/first/your last name.
Him: …You have a point there.
Me: Mhm, it’s a great a name. -lists reasons I love it/think it’s great-
Him: You have a good point.
Me: I always have good points.
Him: Not always, but put it on the list.
Me: YES! [name]Victory[/name] again.
Generally goes that way. The most recent name was [name]Denzel[/name], he didn’t like it. I pointed out how great [name]Asa[/name] [name]Denzel[/name] was, and he agreed.
haha! I definitely had to convince him on the boys name we picked out. Took a while, he doesnt like “unique” or “made up” names, but this name was one he never heard before so I convinced him it was real by telling him its meaning and that it’s irish, and he liked that. Now its our #1 boys name and will be our sons name if we have a boy!
If he’s just saying no, and not suggesting names he does like, he’s not being fair. Ask him what he dislikes about the names you love, and have him come up with a list of names he does love. If he won’t do that, or can’t come up with anything other than “because” or “I just don’t”, he deserves a poke in the elbow. Tell him to use his big boy words.
I always try and flip it around, and ask myself if I could come to love a name I strongly dislike. Most of the time, the answer is no. My partner loves (and apparently always has loved) the name [name]Damian[/name]. I can’t get on board. I try. I really do. I just can’t. I do not like the name. I simply can’t make myself grow to love it, even tolerate it.
It’s very hard to let go of names we love, especially if you love names as much as we do. I have three names I can’t let go of, but no matter how many times I try and sneak them past him, he always says “no.” I have to let them go. So I’ve made it my mission to find names we both love to pieces. It’s hard! We’ve come to a compromise with [name]Damian[/name], finally. I suggested [name]Gideon[/name] to him, because it sounds similar. His eyes lit up and he said “hey, I like that!”
On the other hand, there are some names that you just need to warm up to. Partner loves [name]Evangeline[/name], and at first I didn’t like it. I’m slowly coming to like it though. Ditto with him and [name]Fairuza[/name]. I adore it, especially with [name]Rue[/name] as a nn. He looked at me like I was crazy the first time I suggested it. Then I told him my nn idea, shared with him what the name meant, etc. Yesterday he said, “it’s not bad.” Yes! We’re getting somewhere.
So, I guess what I’m saying is it depends on how strong his feelings are on the names.
I have to let them go. So I’ve made it my mission to find names we both love to pieces. It’s hard! We’ve come to a compromise with [name]Damian[/name], finally. I suggested [name]Gideon[/name] to him, because it sounds similar. His eyes lit up and he said “hey, I like that!”