[name_f]My[/name_f] S/O and I love the name [name_u]Evren[/name_u] for our little one on the way. His name has been set for months. [name_u]Evren[/name_u] [name_m]David[/name_m]. However, there’s a woman we live by who we see quite often, and I also frequently see her where I work, who is someone, let’s just say my S/O and I don’t particularly enjoy being around.
I hadn’t thought much of the fact that she had a son until I heard her talking about her son’s birthday party. Her son is named [name_u]Evan[/name_u]. Now, I feel like the name [name_u]Evren[/name_u] is completely ruined. It may sound ridiculous but I do tend to heavily associate names so it’s been extremely difficult for my S/O and me to agree on a name so [name_u]Evren[/name_u] was “the one” pretty much. However, now every time I say or even think of [name_u]Evren[/name_u] now I immediately associate it with her and all I can see is when I do have the baby her saying one of two things “awe you named him after [name_u]Evan[/name_u]” or “how dare you practically steal my child’s name”… seriously it could go either way with her.
What are all your thoughts? Am I being too paranoid, are [name_u]Evan[/name_u] and [name_u]Evren[/name_u] different enough to not be such a big deal? If you do think they’re too similar I’d love some suggestions for some other names we like [name_m]Watson[/name_m] too but it just doesn’t seem like “the one” for this baby.
If you decide to leave suggestions we’d really appreciate it; here’s what we’re looking for - we definitely want the name to end in an “n” or an “an/en/on” sound and want it to be a little more on the unique but not totally out there side. The middle name will be [name_m]David[/name_m] regardless and our last name is a very harsh Italian name pronounced “chuh-keen-ee”. Thanks in advance for your responses and suggestions.
If you love it, don’t let her stop you. I don’t know how you pronounce it but with my pronunciation (ehv-wren) it doesn’t really sound similar. They’re not etymologically related, either.
What about [name_m]Soren[/name_m] or [name_u]Rosen[/name_u]?
I don’t think they sound similar apart from the fact they both start with Ev. If you really like it go for it.
Suggestions :
[name_m]Kylian[/name_m] [name_m]David[/name_m]
[name_m]Bryan[/name_m] [name_m]David[/name_m]
[name_u]Declan[/name_u] [name_m]David[/name_m]
[name_m]Ethan[/name_m] [name_m]David[/name_m]
[name_u]Owen[/name_u] [name_m]David[/name_m]
[name_m]Cillian[/name_m] [name_m]David[/name_m]
[name_u]Ryan[/name_u] [name_m]David[/name_m]
It doesn’t sound like this woman is your friend in any way, nor does it seem that your kids will be interacting much at all. I wouldn’t second guess yourself over something so insignificant to your daily life. I don’t know how long you’ve known this woman or if you knew her son’s name before but it’s clear that it wasn’t a factor when you actually decided on The Name. I don’t think it’s a big deal. If [name_u]Evan[/name_u] and [name_u]Evren[/name_u] were supposed to be cousins, brothers, family friends, I might find them too close for comfort.
And if the woman has comments, you can shut her down with the history of the name [name_u]Evren[/name_u], that it’s of Turkish origin and means “universe” and how much you loved it. [name_u]Or[/name_u] you can head off those comments before they begin if you want by mentioning it’s meaning and origin and saying how perfect the name is for your family.
Evren [name_m]David[/name_m] just simply feels like it was meant for you. [name_u]Evren[/name_u] and [name_u]Evan[/name_u] would be too close for brothers however it is an acquaintance and I don’t think they are similar especially if you focus on the REN ending.
If you are looking for suggestions I will add some but I do feel as it [name_u]Evren[/name_u] is perfect
Sevren [name_m]David[/name_m]
[name_m]Kevin[/name_m] [name_m]David[/name_m]
[name_m]Levin[/name_m] [name_m]David[/name_m]
[name_m]Nevyn[/name_m] [name_m]David[/name_m]
I wouldn’t let this person stop you from using the name you love. I don’t think they’re too similar, but even if they were, there is no guarantee that you’ll be neighbors forever.
I think [name_u]Evren[/name_u] is really nice and different. Much nicer than [name_u]Evan[/name_u]!
I wouldn’t associate the two. Totally get once you’ve got something stuck in your head it’s hard to get past it!
Maybe try just think about yours and your husbands names with [name_u]Evren[/name_u] and being together the 3 of you in the future… all the nice happy thoughts to and lose the connection to this lady!
If she ever commented just prepare your reply ‘oh I never realised your son was called [name_u]Evan[/name_u]!’ If you could get away with that…! But hopefully as she doesn’t sound like an actual friend you can just avoid and try to forget about her! X
Evren and [name_u]Evan[/name_u] are distinct! [name_u]Evren[/name_u] [name_m]David[/name_m] is a very interesting name!
I can only encourage you to choose the name you love! [name_m]Don[/name_m]’t let anyone ruin the name you love.
[name_f]Remember[/name_f] that you probably will not live next to this neighbor for the rest of your life.
[name_f]Do[/name_f] you think you would regret changing your son’s name? [name_u]Or[/name_u] do you think you will feel more confortable with a new name?
I can understand your dilemna, and I think I would have similar doubts/concerns if I was in your shoes; however, I hope I have a nearly perfect solution for you - Ezren!
Very close to the name you love but much further from [name_u]Evan[/name_u] - unrelated really I hope you like it!
I think if it’s a name you love as much as it sounds it shouldn’t be an issue.
The fact that you didn’t know until recently his names [name_u]Evan[/name_u] tells me you’re not particularly close, and as neighbors there is always the possibility of one of you moving say in a year or 5 from now. [name_m]Will[/name_m] you decide what to name your son based on a neighbor you may or may not have an relations to in x amount of years? [name_m]Just[/name_m] food for thought. If it was me I would name him [name_u]Evren[/name_u], and not potentially regret it in the future! I love the name btw
If this person is as miserable as I think she is, I worry you will regret letting someone like that forever influence the name of your wonderful child. You see her frequently but she’s not a beloved family member or friend whose opinion matters. The names look and sound similar but not enough to cause concern.
You and your husband love this name and think it’s the one, why should a random neighbor take that joy from you? If she mentions the similarity in names, feign surprise, tell her it’s a family name and move on.
It may be a good idea to consider other names. Not necessarily with the intention to chose a new name… If you explore other names and nothing feels “right” the way [name_u]Evren[/name_u] did, than I think [name_u]Evren[/name_u] is still “the one.” But if another name stands out from the rest and doesn’t have the association, then it could be “a better one.”
You don’t sound close to this woman so like others are saying I wouldn’t let her be a factor in your name decision. You didn’t even remember she had a son! If she asks your baby’s name and you feel weird about it, just say it’s [name_u]Ren[/name_u]. She isn’t connected to anyone else in your life so if she calls your son [name_u]Ren[/name_u], would it matter that much? I feel like if she thinks his name is [name_u]Ren[/name_u] she won’t associate it with [name_u]Evan[/name_u] at all.
I think I may have an unpopular opinion here, based on what some others are saying. I do find [name_u]Evan[/name_u] and [name_u]Evren[/name_u] very similar. I hadn’t heard of the name [name_u]Evren[/name_u] before, I think probably most people haven’t, and likely could mistake it for [name_u]Evan[/name_u] since that is a commonly heard similar name. (I have a common name w/a bunch of different ways to spell it, and its often mistaken for another common name w/several different ways to spell it). I agree with others in saying this woman likely won’t be your neighbor forever - so that shouldn’t factor into your decision.
However, I think two things are important here: #1 You loved the name previously, but are now doubting your decision. I think if you were 100% certain of wanting to use this name like you thought you were - whatever her kid’s name is no matter how similar or different wouldn’t have mattered to you and you wouldn’t have doubted yourself. I think it’s important to take a pause here and consider what’s really making you back off of it. #2 Perhaps part of the reason you’re backing off is that you, yourself, said that you heavily associate names. [name_m]Even[/name_m] if this neighbor moves next month - is [name_u]Evren[/name_u] forever going to make you think of her and her son? If you suspect it is, and it’s bothering you, it’s okay to say that it is and to change your mind. [name_m]Just[/name_m] some things to think about.
I think [name_u]Everett[/name_u] is a lovely suggestion of something similar with the same sounds to it as [name_u]Evren[/name_u]. [name_u]Everett[/name_u] and [name_u]Evan[/name_u] share the first two letters but the similarities end there and they definitely wouldn’t be mistaken for each other.
With the names coming from different roots with different meanings I wouldn’t worry about it. Also it would be a shame to give up your favorite name to only move away or maybe your neighbor move in a few years. Also people will think what they want to think. So maybe she will think that, but if she’s someone that doesn’t matter to you then who cares! I hope you guys figure it out. Best of luck.
Unless your neighbor deserves to be on r//entitledparents, I think you’re good. ^^