i’ve posted on here before about the naming dilimma that my husband & i have had in the past – we love the names eleanor & nora and have gone back and forth on which one we’d use if we had a daughter. lately, we’ve been leaning toward nora <3
another name i love is eliza - i’d crossed it off the list though, since my husband’s sister is named elizabeth.
anyway. i’m here wondering if eliza is an appropriate name to choose for a little girl with an aunt liz.
i tend to lean that it’s probably too similar, AND it would be a bit much to have both an eliza and a nora when those are each diminuitives of my dh’s sister’s names.
one could argue that these are perfectly fine as honor names – but i find that may be a bit odd since my husband’s sister is still young and quite well, thank goodness. i suppose i associate honor names with the deceased.
i love both names, but i tend to think that nora is a safer bet since my dh’s sister has never gone by eleanor.
[name_f]Nora[/name_f] is 100% fine! Honestly I don’t think most people in your life would even make the connection to your SIL’s middle name!
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As for [name_f]Eliza[/name_f], I would[name_f][/name_f] assume it’s an honour name for Aunt [name_f]Liz[/name_f]. I don’t think that’s necessarily weird (I know a lot of situations where an honour name was used after a living relative, it’s not strange to me!) but if it bothers you then I probably would use something a bit different like [name_f]Eloise[/name_f] or [name_f]Elina[/name_f].
I’d go ahead & use Eleanor/Nora but I’d personally probably stray away from [name_f]Eliza[/name_f]. If it was going in the MN spot I’d definitely go for it but as the sister is still young & you’re looking at it for a FN I’d personally find it too close.
Using short forms of both[name_f][/name_f] your sister-in-law’s names might feel a bit much. And it might feel purposeful [name_f][/name_f]- as in, you wanted to name your kids after her?
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It is doable, but I’d consider going with [name_f]Nora[/name_f] over [name_f]Eliza[/name_f] [name_f][/name_f]- or at least speaking to SIL about how she’d feel having two nieces sharing her names?
I can see why you feel weird about using an honor name for someone who’s still young, but I think it’s sweet to have that connection between relatives who will know each other for a while. One of my nieces shares my middle name (not actually in honor of me, more like your situation here) and it’s just a fun link between us.
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I also think it’s unlikely that most people would see [name_f]Nora[/name_f] and [name_f]Eliza[/name_f] and think “they’re both named after [name_f]Elizabeth[/name_f] Eleanor!” Maybe someone will [name_f][/name_f]- possibly grandma who knows both names [name_f][/name_f]- but the vast majority would never make those name connections.
I really love [name_f]Nora[/name_f], and [name_f]Eleanor[/name_f]! [name_f]Nora[/name_f] feels sweet and simple and yet, fun?its my favorite of these as well! It shines on both a little one and yet a grown woman would wear it beautifully. And I think eliza is fine even with a sil [name_f]Elizabeth[/name_f]! Its suchhh a common name, though beautiful, I feel like I would not think twice about the connection. Maybe its just me, if it bothers you, Im sure youll find a beautiful second option but if you still love it go for it.
[name_f]Eliza[/name_f] does come off as an honor name. [name_f]Eleanor[/name_f] as well. I would go with [name_f]Lenora[/name_f] or [name_f]Leanora[/name_f] so you can still use [name_f]Nora[/name_f] as a NN and it doesn’t come off as an obvious honor name.
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Now assuming youll still do [name_f]Eleanor[/name_f] (or something suggested as a replacement) for [name_f]Eliza[/name_f] I would do [name_f]Elodie[/name_f], [name_f]Eloise[/name_f], [name_f]Evelyn[/name_f], [name_f]Elisa[/name_f], [name_f]Eliana[/name_f], [name_f][/name_f] [name_f]Elaine[/name_f], [name_f]Elena[/name_f], [name_f]Elmina[/name_f]. [name_m]Or[/name_m] something totally different like [name_f]Alice[/name_f], [name_f]Audrey[/name_f], [name_f]Amelia[/name_f], [name_f]Clara[/name_f], [name_f]Fiona[/name_f], [name_f]Daphne[/name_f], [name_f]Vivian[/name_f].
Would it be a problem if everyone assumed your little girl was named after her aunt? Would your in-laws have a nice reaction or would they assume you were copying the name? [name_f][/name_f][name_f]Eliza[/name_f] is a beautiful name, but if you want to avoid tributes, I would eliminate that option. Personally, I wouldn’t use [name_f]Nora[/name_f] and [name_f]Eliza[/name_f] for sisters or in combination, if I was in your shoes. However, [name_f]Nora[/name_f] is a great option, as long as the second name doesn’t resemble [name_f]Elizabeth[/name_f] in any way. [name_f][/name_f]Are there any other names you love for your daughter? You can also consider [name_f]Cora[/name_f], [name_f]Dora[/name_f], [name_f]Zora[/name_f], [name_f]Flora[/name_f], [name_f]Mara[/name_f], or [name_f]Elara[/name_f], for example. [name_f][/name_f]I’m generally not a fan of sharing the baby’s name before they are born, but given your dilemma, have you thought about discussing it with the rest of the family (your husband’s sister and their parents)?
i suppose i associate honor names with the deceased.