I need a little advice and opinions on the best way to handle this situation. My cousin and his wife are expecting their first baby right at a month after my husband and I are expecting ours. She and I are good friends and have known and gotten along for years (so not already starting out on bad terms).
Well, the other day I decided to go ahead and email her (cousin’s wife) and share some of our top favorite names just so we don’t end up with the same ones on our list. And especially since DH and I aren’t finding out the sex and aren’t planning on OFFICIALLY deciding on a name until we meet the baby at the hospital (so we will go with a list of our favorites).
In the email I asked her to keep our names on the DL since we wanted them to be a surprise to our family and friends, but i went ahead and told her what were and have been our favorites. For a girl, ours is [name]Willa[/name] [name]Josephine[/name].
Well, she emails back and tells me that she and my cousin were also planning on using [name]Willa[/name] [name]Rae[/name] for their girl. She kept saying how shocked she was (as was I), but she said that since we are due first and technically told our name first, we could have it. [name]Just[/name] to let her know if we change our mind.
(Almost done, I promise). So, for one, I feel a little guilty if we were to use the name. Should I? Is it rude for me to go ahead and use it?
And second of all, I’m so worried that if we don’t have a girl, we’ll lose the name. [name]Do[/name] you think that if I don’t it frees them up to use it, even though we would certainly still use it on future baby girl?
It is all awkward, and she is being SO sweet about it but I don’t want to handle it wrong and one of us have bitter feelings about it in the long run.
Thanks in advance!