Feeling like admitting defeat!

[name_f]My[/name_f] OH is being so stubborn! He only likes 5 girl names but none of them set me alight! He always says that when it comes to it we’ll have the perfect name (we’re TTC) but I think if I don’t like those names now then I never will. Our name choices aren’t all that different but we just can’t choose! He wants; [name_f]Amelia[/name_f], [name_f]Daisy[/name_f], [name_f]Olivia[/name_f], [name_f]Emily[/name_f] or [name_f]Lily[/name_f]. I used to love [name_f]Emily[/name_f] (hence my signature) but it just doesn’t work for me anymore :frowning: I like; [name_f]Isabelle[/name_f], [name_f]Grace[/name_f], [name_f]Elsie[/name_f], [name_f]Alice[/name_f], [name_f]Violet[/name_f] but he just won’t entertain them!

[name_f]Do[/name_f] I admit defeat and just choose one of his names? He hasn’t let up on these names for nearly a year now! Please help! Thank you :slight_smile:

No it is way too early to give in. See if he will agree to you choosing the first name this time and next time he can choose the first name and so with the middles.

Eg

[name_f]Isabelle[/name_f] [name_f]Daisy[/name_f]
[name_f]Violet[/name_f] [name_f]Amelia[/name_f]
[name_f]Alice[/name_f] [name_f]Olivia[/name_f]

I agree w/ [name_m]Rollo[/name_m] that it’s too early to give in, or even to decide. Reevaluate both of your lists once you know you’re pregnant and when you find out the gender!

Agree with the others: [name_m]Don[/name_m]'t give in yet! Besides, I mean … it’s a mutual decision but you are the one carrying the child :slight_smile: You should definitely have as much say as he does.

His:

[name_f]Amelia[/name_f], [name_f]Daisy[/name_f], [name_f]Emily[/name_f], [name_f]Lily[/name_f], [name_f]Olivia[/name_f]

Hers:

[name_f]Alice[/name_f], [name_f]Elsie[/name_f], [name_f]Grace[/name_f], [name_f]Isabelle[/name_f], [name_f]Violet[/name_f]
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Theirs:[/u]

[name_f]Alice[/name_f] [name_f]Emily[/name_f], [name_f]Elsie[/name_f] [name_f]Olivia[/name_f], [name_f]Grace[/name_f] [name_f]Amelia[/name_f], [name_f]Isabelle[/name_f] [name_f]Daisy[/name_f], [name_f]Violet[/name_f] [name_f]Olivia[/name_f]

The good thing: you have very similar styles. Compared to couples where one person likes exotic names and the other likes English standards, or one likes new-agey appellations and the other’s into Vintage nicknames, you’re in a good spot. All your names have an old-fashioned charm but are well-used in the present day. You both like a mix of longer names and more casual ones. You’ve even both picked flower names.

With those commonalities, there is NO reason to admit defeat and every reason to keep compromising! If you feel frustrated, maybe take a week or two off from talking about it. Try to broaden his horizons - ask what he’d pick if he HAD to choose from your list. Ask what he’d choose if suddenly he couldn’t use any of his top 5. Get him thinking. Suggest variations on both of your favs to find out what he likes about his names - then you might find out what he’s looking for, because he might not know himself yet. For instance, if he likes [name_f]Emily[/name_f] why not [name_f]Emmeline[/name_f]? If [name_f]Amelia[/name_f], what about [name_f]Amelie[/name_f]? [name_f]Sadie[/name_f] instead of [name_f]Daisy[/name_f] or [name_f]Rosie[/name_f] instead of [name_f]Lily[/name_f]? His answers might give you some direction, and it will be less personal than if he told you what he disliked about your list.