Does anyone else wonder how people just accidentally get pregnant? Like how can you put so much effort in and get zip results, but others are like “oops… guess we’re pregnant now!” How??? 
I dont begrudge them their babies… I just wish the system made sense and was fairer… sigh
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Yes, or crackheads, or others who don’t want/can’t keep their babies because they are so messed up.
I know I love my babies more now for how hard it has been.
I know I have loved a great many children along the way while i was still in that place of waiting.
I’m definitely not the same person I would have been if I hadn’t heard “No” for so long.
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All those dreading Mother’s [name_u]Day[/name_u], say “AYE”.
So many feelings and I just don’t want any of them! 
I should have a nearly two year old, but here we are instead…
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I try to ignore Mother’s [name_u]Day[/name_u], between a strained relationship with my own mother and my empty uterus and 5 losses, I don’t feel much about the day except numbness.
I was thinking about it yesterday, wondering if I’d ever celebrate Mother’s [name_u]Day[/name_u] even if I find myself with a child…. Sometimes it just feels like a celebration designed to leave a lot of people out and on the sidelines.
Bereaved Mother’s [name_u]Day[/name_u] was [name_f]Sunday[/name_f] and I always share on my Instagram for that, so that no one out there is feeling alone.
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I’m a trans male and am starting hormones in three years which will basically kill off my fertility. I was 11 when I found out and was heartbroken. I can freeze my egg while I still have them and try IVF. I’ve been a name nerd ever since I realized I couldn’t conceive “the normal way”. I’m not sure if it’s helping me but it’s how I stay optimistic for the future. For anyone who struggling with infertility and it’s all they think about (this is going to sound really unhelpful but) try a hobby you can do with your hands like pottery, knitting or drawing. Best of luck to you all 
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Hey! There’s plenty of seahorse dads out there. HRT doesn’t always compromise fertility in trans men and transmasculine people. You do have to go off temporarily to get/remain pregnant though.
Of course, if your fertility goes away we will be here for you regardless and there’s always hope!
Thankfully I don’t suffer from mother’s day. I love my mom and we’ve never made a huge deal out of it. I do find myself thinking about the future more on days like this. But I’m starting to come to terms with the fact that it may not happen the way I want it to.
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