[name_m]Hi[/name_m]!! I’m 17 weeks pregnant and we don’t know if we’re having a girl or boy. However we totally want to honour my grandpa and my boyfriends brother who are both passed. So I was wondering do you think if we do have a girl, having boy middle names would bother her? I feel like she’ll understand that these were beautiful people in our lives and we are honoring them through her. Thanks for any feedback. If it helps her name would be [name_f]Leia[/name_f] [name_u]Gary[/name_u] [name_m]Christopher[/name_m]. 
I think she might understand but it would probably still bother her to have 2 male middle names. If you plan on having another child, maybe save one of them up for #2 and only give [name_f]Leia[/name_f] one male middle name or maybe one male middle name and a female variation of the other like [name_f]Leia[/name_f] [name_u]Gary[/name_u] [name_f]Christina[/name_f], for example.
That’s horrible!!!
If you want to honor them, FEMENIZE the names.
I personally would find other ways to honor them.
[name_f]Leia[/name_f] [name_u]Gray[/name_u] [name_f]Christine[/name_f] ([name_u]Gray[/name_u] has the same letters as [name_u]Gary[/name_u])
[name_f]Leia[/name_f] [name_u]Gray[/name_u] [name_f]Christina[/name_f]
[name_f]Leia[/name_f] [name_f]Geraldine[/name_f] [name_f]Christina[/name_f] ([name_f]Geraldine[/name_f] is a feminine variant of [name_u]Gary[/name_u])
[name_f]Leia[/name_f] Geralinde [name_f]Christina[/name_f] (Geralinde is a feminine variant of [name_u]Gary[/name_u])
[name_f]Leia[/name_f] [name_f]Geri[/name_f] [name_f]Christabelle[/name_f] ([name_f]Geri[/name_f] is a feminine variant of [name_u]Gary[/name_u])
Other feminine forms of/similar to [name_u]Gary[/name_u]:
[name_f]Gertrude[/name_f]
[name_f]Gerda[/name_f]
Gerdina
[name_m]Grayson[/name_m]
[name_f]Garbo[/name_f]
[name_f]Gardenia[/name_f]
[name_f]Garnet[/name_f]
[name_f]Garland[/name_f]
Meanings similar [name_u]Gary[/name_u]:
[name_f]Rhonda[/name_f]
[name_f]Rhonwen[/name_f]
Other feminine forms of/similar to [name_m]Christopher[/name_m]:
[name_f]Chrissy[/name_f]
[name_f]Christa[/name_f]
[name_f]Christel[/name_f]
[name_f]Christiana[/name_f]
[name_f]Christiane[/name_f]
[name_f]Christin[/name_f]/[name_f]Kristin[/name_f]
[name_f]Ina[/name_f]
[name_f]Kia[/name_f]
[name_f]Kirsten[/name_f]
[name_f]Kirsi[/name_f]
[name_f]Kirsteen[/name_f]
[name_f]Stina[/name_f]
[name_f]Tiana[/name_f]
[name_f]Tina[/name_f]
[name_f]Hope[/name_f] that helps!
Yip, what she said!
I think honor names are fantastic, but that we have to remember we are naming a whole new individual too. This is her name.
I personally think two honorific middles might be a little much just because they kind of out-number the names that are there just for her. Does that make sense?
Anyway I feel the first suggestion of [name_f]Leia[/name_f] [name_u]Gary[/name_u] [name_f]Christina[/name_f] is totally workable if you still wanted to do two honour middles.
Growing up with a name I hated and a totally unusable filler middle, I like to encourage parents to think about their kid in case ne hates nir name. Try to give them a middle they could feasibly go by. I wished a million times my parents had done me that favour.
[name_f]Honour[/name_f] names can go off meanings, or just sound similar and you can sometimes even combine two honours if you get lucky (We did this with our second daughter.)
I don’t personally have a problem with gender bending names. I’m trying to convince my husband at the moment to let a prospective son’s first name be one that’s more common for girls in this country. But, I do think a kid needs to be able to own the name. Find a way to make it hers.
I would feminize the names to honor them.
The name needs to be more about HER than about someone else. I’ve heard many people on this site express long-term resentment that they got a boys’ name. Your daughter will want to feel proud of her middle name and not feel like hiding it. In my opinion, an honor name should be feminized for her… and I would choose just one.
I really like the pp suggestion of Rhonda (same meaning as Gary), or Christine/Christina instead of Christopher. Please not Gary or Christopher.
I feel like there are so many other ways to honor someone (names with the same letters, same number on the popularity charts for the year they were born, same meaning, girl versions of the name) that you don’t really need to use those names. I don’t have an issue with “boy names” on girls (or girl names on boys) but [name_u]Gary[/name_u] is just…so unattractive to me, especially on a girl. [name_m]Christopher[/name_m] is SO easy to feminize that I don’t see the benefit of leaving the male version of the name. Also, you don’t need to use every honor name on your first child (unless you only plan to have one). I just personally feel that a name should be for an individual person not honor every person possible in both sides of the family.
I think the suggestions of [name_f]Leia[/name_f] [name_f]Rhonwen[/name_f] and [name_f]Leia[/name_f] [name_f]Christine[/name_f] are lovely! [name_f]Celestine[/name_f] also came to mind when thinking of how to honor [name_m]Christopher[/name_m]. [name_f]Gertrude[/name_f] could honor [name_u]Gary[/name_u] as well.
I agree with previous posters, I would do one of two things: either feminize the names (or at least one of the names - [name_m]Christopher[/name_m] easily becomes [name_f]Christine[/name_f], [name_f]Christiana[/name_f], etc.) so you would end up with [name_f]Leia[/name_f] [name_u]Gary[/name_u] [name_f]Christina[/name_f], or something similar; or, stick with using one name only and save the other for future children, so you’d have [name_f]Leia[/name_f] [name_u]Gary[/name_u] or [name_f]Leia[/name_f] [name_m]Christopher[/name_m].
I think [name_u]Gary[/name_u] is more workable if you are only using one name and want to stick with the masculine form, but [name_f]Leia[/name_f] [name_f]Christine[/name_f] is really beautiful if you decide using a feminine version works for you.
I, personally, would be happy that my parents had honored my uncle and great-grandfather with my name, but I would really hate having those actual names. It’s nice to have an honor name, but only if you feel like you can connect with those names.
[name_f]Leia[/name_f] [name_f]Christiana[/name_f] [name_u]Gray[/name_u] is about as close as I’d get, but it’s sweet you want to honor them.
I think [name_u]Gary[/name_u] could work well as a girl’s middle name. Not sure why. [name_f]Leia[/name_f] [name_u]Gary[/name_u] sounds cute! Why not save [name_m]Christopher[/name_m] for a future child and just do [name_f]Leia[/name_f] [name_u]Gary[/name_u]?
Of course, if you end up having a boy, problem solved 
well, here I go being the odd one out again but I see no problem with it if you want to use both names directly. Hardly anyone will ever use her middle name(s) to identify her and she will have a very feminine first name, so I think using the masculine honor names wont cause her a big deal. If you do want to feminize it, by all means go ahead, they sound lovely as well. but don’t feel like you have to.
best of luck!
I am warming to male middles on girls…so for me I would probably be onboard w/ [name_u]Gary[/name_u] or [name_m]Christopher[/name_m] in the middle, but both of them together is just too much and I agree that at that point, the name feels more about others than about her. And as others have said, you can always save one for later.
[name_f]Leia[/name_f] [name_u]Gary[/name_u] [name_m]Christopher[/name_m] - no for me
[name_f]Leia[/name_f] [name_u]Gary[/name_u] - ok
[name_f]Leia[/name_f] [name_m]Christopher[/name_m] - I like!
Both [name_u]Gary[/name_u] and [name_m]Christopher[/name_m] are easy to feminize or manipulate so I love these suggestions you’ve received:
[name_f]Leia[/name_f] [name_u]Gray[/name_u] [name_m]Christopher[/name_m]/[name_f]Christine[/name_f]/[name_f]Christina[/name_f] - beautiful
[name_f]Leia[/name_f] [name_f]Christiane[/name_f] [name_u]Gray[/name_u]
I’d vote that you at least use a feminized variation of [name_m]Christopher[/name_m] - there are so many, and the connection seems so close. I’m a big believer that the gesture of using an honour name loses more of its meaning the further you get from the original name (like to me, using something that means the same thing as [name_u]Gary[/name_u] but that doesn’t resemble it at all isn’t a very strong honour name because most people don’t know the meanings of names that originated in other languages), but [name_m]Christopher[/name_m] to [name_f]Christina[/name_f], [name_f]Christine[/name_f] or [name_f]Christiana[/name_f] is not a far leap at all.
[name_u]Gary[/name_u] is a tougher one to feminize to me - I think the anagram [name_u]Gray[/name_u] is the best alternative I’ve seen in this thread. You could just use [name_u]Gary[/name_u], as it wouldn’t seem as odd to have one clearly masculine name and two feminine ones - [name_f]Leia[/name_f] [name_u]Gary[/name_u] [name_f]Christine[/name_f]/a, for example, would work. Or, would [name_u]Gary[/name_u]'s surname lend itself well to being used as a middle name? [name_m]Even[/name_m] that would feel a little bit less jarring to me, and it would (presumably) serve to honour more people than [name_u]Gary[/name_u] by itself.
I’m a big [name_u]Gray[/name_u] fan, so the suggestion of [name_u]Gray[/name_u] as a middle instead of [name_u]Gary[/name_u] really appeals to me. A word of caution: with the 50 Shades film and books being as popular as they are at the moment, any [name_u]Chris[/name_u]- name followed by [name_u]Gray[/name_u] runs the risk of being associated. Obviously less important for middles, but just something to bear in mind.
I love [name_f]Leia[/name_f] [name_m]Christopher[/name_m]…but [name_u]Gary[/name_u] is a bit…eh…
I don’t see why you can’t feminize the names [name_u]Gary[/name_u] and [name_m]Christopher[/name_m].
I actually know several girls with male middle names. They are usually double barrelled middle names like [name_f]Mary[/name_f] [name_m]Charles[/name_m], [name_f]Mary[/name_f] [name_m]Gregory[/name_m], [name_f]Mary[/name_f] [name_m]Thomas[/name_m], [name_f]Ann[/name_f] [name_m]Lucas[/name_m], [name_f]Anna[/name_f] [name_m]Preston[/name_m], [name_f]Sarah[/name_f] [name_u]Michael[/name_u] etc. Those girls usually really like their names and if I’m not mistaken they are all honor names somehow. So while I like male middle names for girls (and vice versa, actually), I do think two is a bit much and would suggest either dropping or feminizing one of them. [name_m]Christopher[/name_m] seems to be the easiest to feminize and as others have said, [name_f]Leia[/name_f] [name_u]Gary[/name_u] [name_f]Christina[/name_f] is really nice!