Hello all! It’s been quite a while since I posted on nameberry! If some of you can remember, my husband and I were expecting a little girl. We were due in [name]August[/name]. We were all over the place with girls names. It seemed like every week we had a new top 10, usually with completely different names from the week before.
Our beautiful baby girl was born on [name]June[/name] 14th, just two days shy of 31 weeks. I went into early labor and she was delivered by C-section. She clocked in at 4.1 whooping pounds. It was so heart breaking to watch our sweet girl so tiny and helpless, attached to all these different machines. It was very stressful, and a hard time on us to say the least. She came home a few days after she turned one month old. She is now just over 4 months.
My husband and I had not even come close to settling on a name in [name]June[/name]. We thought we had two more months. With the stress of everything and pressure from my [name]MIL[/name] to give the baby a name, we agreed on a first name we mutually liked, neither of us loving. For her middle name – we went with two because we could not decide. [name]One[/name] of my favorite names that had meaning to me, and his favorite name. Our sweet little princess was named [name]Elsa[/name] [name]Margot[/name] [name]Adele[/name].
Unfortunately, I just don’t feel we made the right decision with her name. It saddens me that my husband and I did not get to agree on a name we both loved. I know compromise is good, but I feel like if we REALLY tried we could have found a name we both adored. I don’t think her name suits her. He calls her [name]Elsie[/name], I call her [name]Mimi[/name] (which I envisioned calling [name]Margot[/name] if I had of one with the first name). My husband is sick and tired of hearing about it and he thinks the name is perfectly fine and that I should just be happy with the name because I love [name]Elsa[/name] so much. But I want to get this out of the way before she gets too old that I don’t have an options at all. I wanted to drop [name]Elsa[/name] and have her be named [name]Margot[/name] [name]Adele[/name], which I love the flow of and love the idea of a little [name]Margot[/name]. He does not have strong feelings for [name]Margot[/name] as a first name. So I made a list combining other names we loved during my pregnancy.
[name]Do[/name] you think its too late to change her names to any of these? Is it ridiculous to change her entire name, including the middle? I used to think posts like these were pretty silly-- until I happened to me. Namers remorse is AWFUL. Please help! Also I should mention, my [name]MIL[/name] doesn’t like the name [name]Elsa[/name] and calls her [name]Mimi[/name] too. My mother loves the name and thinks it’s adorable and she is totally a little [name]Elsa[/name]. So no matter what someone isn’t going to like our choice.
It’s not too late! She doesn’t know what her name is yet, so do it now. I think her name is gorgeous, but if you don’t you’ll regret not having done it. I’m due in march, and my list change all the time! I’m scared I’ll make the wrong choice too. And with all the stress you must’ve been under, and anxiety and pressure, I get that you just made a decision. I think your daughter will appreciate you giving her a name you truly love!
I think [name]Alessandra[/name] [name]Kate[/name] is especially gorgeous! They are all beautiful names though.
(I’m super emotional at the moment, and cried when I read your story. i hope everything is fine with baby girl now!)
[name]How[/name] about [name]Margot[/name] [name]Elsa[/name] [name]Adele[/name]? Your husband can still call her [name]Elsie[/name] and you can carry on calling her [name]Mimi[/name].
Aw thank you! She’s very healthy now, though tiny! I keep thinking she’s getting so big when I compare her to the tiny thing she was in the hospital. But when she’s around my friends baby who is a couple days younger I realize she’s still small for her age. I hope everything goes well with your pregnancy and that you find the perfect name for your bundle of joy! [name]Will[/name] this be your first baby? I’m hoping if I choose to have another it’ll be a boy-- I find boy names so much easier!
I do love [name]Alessandra[/name] [name]Kate[/name]. It feels so romantic and sweet to me. Thank you for the support, glad to know maybe its not so crazy
What is [name]MIL[/name]. I do like [name]Elsa[/name] but I don’t think it is too late to change it if you want. I would stick with [name]Margot[/name] though to avoid confusion with the family.
It’s my first baby, it’s so exciting! Boys names are easier! We’ve got a nice little list with boy names, and a looooooong ever changing one with boy’s ones. I’m glad everything is good with her, even though she’s small!
I agree with switching [name]Margot[/name] and [name]Elsa[/name]. [name]Margot[/name] [name]Elsa[/name] [name]Adele[/name] lets your husband continue to call her [name]Elsie[/name] and you can keep the [name]Mimi[/name] you like so much.
From your list I like [name]Lucia[/name] [name]Pearl[/name] and [name]Molly[/name] [name]Isabel[/name] and [name]Alessandra[/name] [name]Kate[/name]. I think with [name]Molly[/name] you could still use [name]Mimi[/name] if you wanted and I knew an [name]Alessandra[/name] that went by [name]Lessie[/name]. [name]Elsie[/name] might be a stretch there, but it’s a little close.
What do you think of [name]Lucia[/name] [name]Margot[/name]? I think it’s pretty and you keep the [name]Margot[/name]. Also, [name]Lucy[/name] and [name]Elsie[/name] have similar sounds. Or [name]Alessandra[/name] [name]Margot[/name]?
Good luck! And so glad your little one is doing well!
Too bad, [name]Elsa[/name] is a lovely name. From the list, I like [name]Margot[/name] [name]Adele[/name]. The others are lovely though, and whatever name you choose I am sure will be great. Goodluck with a still new baby and figuring out her name!
I love [name]Margo[/name] [name]Adele[/name]! Would your husband have a hard time not calling her [name]Elsie[/name]? I just noticed the -ele in [name]Adele[/name] could be where the nn [name]Elsie[/name] is derived. Good [name]Luck[/name], I totally understand where you’re coming from. It’s better to change it now if you’re going to change it.
I thought of [name]Margot[/name] [name]Elsa[/name] [name]Adele[/name] but do you think the flow from [name]Elsa[/name] [name]Adele[/name] is funny? I know the flow from her two middle names may be the least of my worries at this point but if I change anything I want to know its perfect for us. I think if I do change it I will probably switch it or drop [name]Elsa[/name]. My husband says with [name]Alessandra[/name] he could get used to calling her [name]Essie[/name] instead of [name]Elsie[/name]. I do like both [name]Elsie[/name] and [name]Essie[/name] so it could be a choice for us. Is [name]Alessandra[/name] [name]Margot[/name] okay? [name]Alessandra[/name] [name]Margot[/name] [name]Adele[/name] doesn’t sound good to me.
i do like [name]Lucia[/name] [name]Margot[/name]. [name]Lucy[/name] was his top pick so he might be okay with that.
And by [name]MIL[/name] I meant mother in law.
Thanks everyone for the replies. I’m liking my options.
I guess I’ll be the dissenting voice and say I don’t think you should change it. You have [name]Margot[/name] / [name]Mimi[/name], he has [name]Elsa[/name] / [name]Elsie[/name]. You’re used to your daughter going by these names, but much more importantly the changes you’re proposing are fairly minimal. It’s not worth at all the incredible bureaucratic hassle of linking her medical records (which I imagine are relatively extensive, and absolutely crucial to evaluating her development and health at even routine pediatrics visits) to a new name, her insurance information to a new name, getting her birth certificate reissued, etc. [name]Infant[/name] name changes are uncommon and it’s not quite as easy as when adult women adopt a new surname after marriage.
Your husband has bonded both to your daughter as a human being, and also to an abstract concept of a little girl named [name]Elsie[/name]. You’ve bonded to little [name]Elsa[/name]-[name]Mimi[/name]. I think it’s fun to dream up euphonious combinations (why else would I be an active nameberry member?), but it can be taken too far. You selected a gorgeous name and nursed Miss [name]Elsa[/name] [name]Margot[/name] [name]Adele[/name] through a 1-month NICU stay; you grasped her tiny too-new finger through the incubator that had a sign marked “My Name is [name]Elsa[/name]” prominently displayed; perhaps you bought block letters spelling out E-L-S-A to hang over her crib when you brought her home. You and your husband have been through a lot with a baby daughter named [name]Elsa[/name] [name]Margot[/name] [name]Adele[/name]. I wouldn’t change a thing.
Thinking about the paperwork and stuff made me think of my mum. When she was born Grandma and Granddad named and registered her [name]Anne[/name] [name]Elizabeth[/name] after their niece [name]Ann[/name]. However, a week or so later [name]Ann[/name] (the very girl my mum was named after) rudely told my Grandma that [name]Anne[/name] [name]Chester[/name] was a funny name because it sounded too much like Manchester (the city) Grandma then changed my mums name to [name]Jean[/name] but she never bothered changing any of the paperwork. It’s caused some issues for my mum over the years. There was an important document she had to sign once and they wanted her to sign it as [name]Anne[/name] [name]Elizabeth[/name] as that was “officially” her name but of course, she wouldn’t because in her mind she wasn’t [name]Anne[/name] she’d only ever been [name]Jean[/name].
But I do adore [name]Alessandra[/name] [name]Kate[/name], it’s just like my combo which is [name]Alessandra[/name] [name]Averie[/name] [name]Kate[/name].
Also wanted to add that I just read [name]Blade[/name]'s comment and I think that she (he?) has a very valid point. I don’t think that you can go wrong with any of your top choices, including keeping her name as [name]Elsa[/name] [name]Margot[/name] [name]Adele[/name] (totally gorgeous combo btw).
I have to agree with [name]Blade[/name] too. I can’t express it in the way [name]Blade[/name] did but especially since you husband has bonded and is happy with the name I would not change it.
