His vs. Mine, Help up compromise

We are having a boy at the end of this summer. I thought we had picked a name and had a backup just in case, but now I don’t feel like either of those are right. So we’ve started over comparing lists, and our styles are so different I fear one of us is just going to be majorly disappointed. I’m hoping you can help me see something I missed or am overlooking, or come up with a great idea for a compromise, (but be warned my husband is stubborn).
Our daughter’s name is [name_u]Avery[/name_u].

I like:

He likes:
[name_m]John[/name_m] or [name_m]Jonathan[/name_m]

He hates my list, and I think his is just okay, but boring. [name_f]My[/name_f] biggest problem is all of his names (with the exception of [name_m]Henry[/name_m] and [name_m]William[/name_m]) remind me of annoying boys I went to school with, and I have a very hard time imagining my son with one of those names.

We both like [name_u]James[/name_u], which is a close family name, but we both agree it doesn’t seem right for his first name, and would rather use it as a middle or something.

Any ideas? Does [name_m]Henry[/name_m] rhyme too much with [name_u]Avery[/name_u]? Is it possible to just name him [name_m]Caleb[/name_m] without my husband’s knowledge? (that last question is a joke…mostly)

[name_f]My[/name_f] title is suppose to say us* not up. Sorry for the lack of editing.

[name_u]Avery[/name_u] is gorgeous! You have some great names picked out. I think [name_u]Avery[/name_u] & [name_m]Henry[/name_m] go together & don’t rhyme. From your lists I also really like

[name_u]Avery[/name_u] & [name_m]Silas[/name_m]
[name_u]Avery[/name_u] & [name_m]Christopher[/name_m]

Here are some other suggestions…

[name_m]Caleb[/name_m]… [name_m]Cailean[/name_m], [name_m]Caius[/name_m], [name_m]Callum[/name_m], [name_m]Calvin[/name_m]
[name_u]Sawyer[/name_u]… [name_m]Christer[/name_m], [name_m]Connor[/name_m], [name_m]Cooper[/name_m], [name_m]Oliver[/name_m]
[name_m]Jonah[/name_m]… [name_m]Jonas[/name_m]
[name_m]Elijah[/name_m]… [name_m]Eli[/name_m]

[name_m]Christopher[/name_m]… [name_m]Christian[/name_m], [name_u]Tristan[/name_u]
[name_m]Henry[/name_m]… [name_m]Harry[/name_m], Harlan, Harvey
[name_m]John[/name_m] or [name_m]Jonathan[/name_m]… Variations on [name_m]John[/name_m]: [name_u]Bevan[/name_u], [name_u]Owen[/name_u], [name_u]Evan[/name_u], [name_m]Ian[/name_m], [name_m]Ivan[/name_m], [name_u]Shaun[/name_u], [name_m]Jack[/name_m]
[name_m]Daniel[/name_m]… Danton, Jordan
[name_m]William[/name_m]… [name_m]Liam[/name_m]
[name_u]James[/name_u]… I don’t know how you’d feel about using some variations of this in 1st place? [name_m]Seamus[/name_m], [name_m]Hamish[/name_m], [name_m]Jago[/name_m], [name_u]Jamison[/name_u], [name_u]Jameson[/name_u]. Also, James is a variation of Jacob.

Here are some combos

[name_u]Avery[/name_u] & [name_m]Caius[/name_m]
[name_u]Avery[/name_u] & [name_m]Calvin[/name_m]
[name_u]Avery[/name_u] & [name_m]Connor[/name_m]
[name_u]Avery[/name_u] & [name_m]Jonas[/name_m]
[name_u]Avery[/name_u] & [name_u]Tristan[/name_u]
[name_u]Avery[/name_u] & [name_u]Owen[/name_u]
[name_u]Avery[/name_u] & [name_u]Evan[/name_u]
[name_u]Avery[/name_u] & [name_m]Liam[/name_m]
[name_u]Avery[/name_u] & [name_u]Jameson[/name_u]
Avery & Jake
Avery & Danton
Avery & Harlan

Good luck! Would love to hear what you decide on.

Personally I don’t find [name_u]Avery[/name_u] and [name_m]Henry[/name_m] to be too rhymy at all since, other than the last two letters, they sound totally different.
As far as suggestions, here are a few I feel like are a mixture of both your style and his

What were the names that you had picked but are reconsidering? Maybe that would help with name suggestions you might both like.

Maybe you’d both like:


Good luck!

[name_f]My[/name_f] first thought after reading through your lists was [name_m]Josiah[/name_m]. Similarities to [name_m]Joseph[/name_m]/[name_m]John[/name_m]/[name_m]Jonah[/name_m] and [name_m]Caleb[/name_m]/[name_m]Silas[/name_m].

Your DH could use nn [name_m]Joe[/name_m] if he wanted, but it’s a bit more unusual and has a biblical feel like a lot of your list.

I don’t think [name_u]Avery[/name_u] and [name_m]Henry[/name_m] are bad together at all, and I’m with you, I don’t like overused “boring” names either.
I do love [name_m]Oliver[/name_m] though, it’s not very common now but it’s also not too out there. [name_u]Avery[/name_u] and [name_m]Oliver[/name_m] sounds so cute together too!
I have nephews named [name_m]Jonas[/name_m] and [name_m]Eli[/name_m], so those variations on [name_m]Jonah[/name_m] and [name_m]Elijah[/name_m] jumped out to me immediately too.
I also love [name_m]Winston[/name_m], [name_m]Judah[/name_m] and [name_u]Hudson[/name_u] as some not so common, but normal names.

Wow, thank you all for your excellent suggestions. I really like a lot of these. [name_f]My[/name_f] favorite suggestions are [name_m]Calvin[/name_m], [name_m]Oliver[/name_m], and [name_m]Jonas[/name_m]. I will ask DH tonight. I may have to warm up to [name_m]Josiah[/name_m] a bit, its one I’ve never considered. I’ll think about it before I bring it up to him.

@katieree331 The name we had was [name_m]Daniel[/name_m], with [name_m]Elijah[/name_m] as our back up, but when people would ask and I’d tell them it didn’t seem right. It felt like I was talking about some other kid and not my son, and it also made me think of all the guys I don’t like named [name_m]Dan[/name_m] or [name_m]Daniel[/name_m]. However, my husband isn’t really into [name_m]Elijah[/name_m] because he thinks it isn’t masculine sounding enough, which I understand because it is softer sounding, but that’s what appeals to me about it. [name_m]Eli[/name_m] isn’t an option because of that annoying Leap Frog cat character.

Some of the other suggestions are names of cousins or close friends’ children so I don’t want to rule them out completely, but it might be awkward or confusing to use them, (like [name_m]Adam[/name_m], [name_u]Seth[/name_u], [name_m]Jacob[/name_m], [name_m]Connor[/name_m], [name_u]Hudson[/name_u]). And some (like [name_u]Evan[/name_u], [name_m]Callum[/name_m], [name_m]Declan[/name_m], [name_m]Asher[/name_m]) have been shot down already.

Our biggest obstacle seems to be that he doesn’t consider it a real name unless he knows someone with it, and I am just the opposite, and don’t want a name that reminds me of someone I know. I want a blank slate, if possible.

I’m warming up to [name_m]Henry[/name_m] too, so I’m glad you guys don’t think its too matchy. Its hard to know after saying it to myself so often. I feel like I am too inside my own head sometimes, having an outside opinion is great.

It’s interesting; reading your lists, it didn’t feel like your styles were very far apart. But reading your last post, it looks like maybe it’s a matter of finding a name your husband is familiar with but which you haven’t encountered on someone you know/knew. Here are a few suggestions (and I apologize for the inevitable repeats):